Why do some people never talk?
Except when teachers call on them and they speak really quietly with their sleeve covering their mouth,they poke people gently to pass them a note if someone asks them to, and they only answer in a nod, head shake, or shoulder shrug when other people talk to them? Honestly, those kinds of people are more annoying than very talkative people in my opinion. Is it the way they are born or is it their choice because I think they should get out of that shell. Don't get me wrong though, I'm still kind of quiet too, but I talk to a lot of people still.
I'm sorry if I offended you for my posts, its my opinion. What I mean by them being annoying is that I can't ever hear the person so when I have to listen to them answer a question when the teacher calls on them, I can't hear, and when I have to work with the person, its more difficult. Its rude by turning my ear and getting closer to their face, but that's the only way I'll hear them. They don't annoy me as a person, just because they won't speak up. If they are born like that, then I don't have any disrespect to them, only rants, but there is always a shell that can be cracked, unless you have a syndrome. Them being bullied so they are quiet is a good argument, but anyone who gets rid of bullies the right way will speak up. If they are afraid to get bullied by speaking more/louder, they will get bullied more because I always hear people talk about quieter people, even about me a few years ago.
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i dont talk because ive nothing to say to anyone and i like to be alone most of the time but people dont understand to them im depressed lonely etc etc and now im ""annoying""
I am one of these people its all because of bullying , bullying can ruin who you are making you scared of being judged for who you are and what you say so you stay quiet... Thus why I am so afraid of presentations in class and I avoid them as much as I can...
introvert vs extrovert
it's just either the way you were born, or the way you were raised, or just a combination.
imo, you trying to understand why they don't talk much is similar to a straight person trying to understand a gay.
Or maybe it's not because they have Asperger Syndrome. Maybe it's not because they were bullied and have had traumatizing lives.
What basil seems to forget is that sometimes people are just... [b]Quiet. Shy. Introverted.[/b] It [i]is[/i] a personality trait and does not denote that something went horrifically wrong in their lives or they have a genetic order. Sometimes people are just like that, because they are. With no other reasoning than that's what they prefer. Sheesh.
I agree with the TC
it's annoying when in class the teacher chooses someone and they talk so quietly you can't even hear them...it's not hard to speak louder, nobody's going to kill you for it.
Some people just don't like being social, I read about it in Psychology Today. For example, one of my friends uses a pen-spinning forum, UPSB.info. He's been using it about the same amount of time I've been on Basil, which would be 3 years. However, he doesn't like to post, he just lurks. Part of him is nervousness that he'll be humiliated, part is he doesn't want to. I, on the other hand, post w/o even thinking. I make about as many post a day as he has in his entire time on UPSB.info.
I'm some what like the people you described as annoying.
Here is why
-I'm shy and afraid all these dumb arses are gonna mock and say the stupidest things about me even though I don't see whats there to say.
-I may not like people like you. I'm quiet so I observe the ones around me, you may seem nice but then you go saying something mean when someone walks away, so your automatically someone I don't want to be around.
-It's not easy opening up to others and unleashing my really wild and happy side, it feels a embarrassing around those I don't know, what if you feel creeped out, think I'm annoying? I don't want to know that that's how you see me.
Ex: In my science class last year I sat in a table with 4 girls. All 3 spoke to each other and seemed really nice to one and another, but when one of them goes to the bathroom the other two talk about how annoying she is or how they don't like they way she's dressed.
-_- Think about it for a minute...
What if they don't want to talk? Like me...I don't feel like talking to you or anyone else...
Also, I'm an airhead. If I do not have anything to contribute, why should I talk? To make a fool of myself by trying to say something irrelevant?
Sometimes I don't find any common ground on the subject to talk about with another person.
I find the most annoying people are those who are extremely loud and talkative. (It makes me want to punch them in the face for being stupid, but what do I know)
Because extremely talkative people seem extremely dumb.
They just comment on everything that don't need to be commented on.
It just makes me not want to be like them.
And sometimes when people talk, they're just being rude.
I've been overly shy since I was born, mom would take me to the park, kids would try to talk to me, i'd run away. Even in elementary school i'd avoid standing, and presenting, in case that provoked the other kids to laugh at me, just the way I am
Maybe it's because of how they were raised.
How the hell is it that people who don't bother anyone are annoying to you?
They're called introverts.
Nothing wrong with being an introvert.
People just are shy and or aren't very social.
Some people just don't think their opinion matters because others will not listen to them and might ridicule them.
Others are just anti social.
Some people just hate being in the center of attention.
Etc.
Btw, I studied in my communication apps class that over 90% of antisocial people would prefer death over public speaking. :[
Well whatever it is, these people write hellishly good essays
I don't recall saying more than 600 words at school this year.
well i got my own group of friends but when I'm in class I'm at school i tend to act more studiously.
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I was actually bullied so much that I was traumatized. I had to spend 4 years crying myself to sleep and afraid of being in the open. I still can't be alone with 1 person (except for really close friends) without feeling awkward and being paranoid about what everyone is thinking.
I was actually afraid of people. Do you know how hard it is to be afraid of people? You can't talk to anyone because the person you are talking to, is someone you're afraid of.
Your post is ignorant. The quiet kids had to go through a lot most of the time. I won't go in depth about my own life, but it was horrible.
In any case, if you're wondering, I'm no longer anti-social. I'm actually very good with people now. But I still carry the scars from being bullied and a bit of fear.
I'm not social. I'm antisocial.
Oya straight up G.
[quote=Dracius]They're not capable of making the first step.
It's other people who do it.
They're not the kind who walk up to people and start chatting.
They're the person being walked to.[/quote]
Thank you. I guess I'm occasionally one of those people. I'm too timid; I need to warm up to people. But I still have a lot of friends.
[quote=Ruupi]Your posts sounds somewhat ignorant. Have you ever thought that those kids probably got bullied so much
that they gave up on trying to make friends? that they would rather disappear in the crowd than be heard and
ridiculed?[/quote]
yeah, I know it sounds ignorant, but realistically, in the real world, people will have to talk, to get a job and keep it and stuff. i am just wondering why. my school doesn't really bully too much, maybe they talk about people a little, but no one really gangs up on them, they just leave them alone.
My probably real question is what makes people shy? probably half of the answers will be thats because thats the way they are, but i don't think that's the cause of most shy people. For me, it was probably me being alone a lot in my childhood and only being used to my family around, no one else.
They think it's cool because they look emo.