Nice guys finish last.
I have more text messages saved from another phone, however, I gave that phone to a friend and I don't think he knows that there's a saved messages folder in his inbox. My name's Cody. I'm a nice guy. My significant other and I have been talking for a while now. It's been since last year in November.
I wouldn't want it any other way <3
Mon, May 3 10:28 PM
We were conversing about how she suspected I might have been using the same lines I tell her with other girls. I told her that I don't talk to any other girl the way I do with her because I want to be genuine and sincere to her.
think about me and how much I love you and care about you and need you for my survival <3
Thu, May 13 10:21 PM
I wasn't feeling my greatest at this time and I specifically asked her to help cheer me up. It worked.
Haha I only write a lot if I'm saying goodbye and I don't ever want to have to say that to youuu
Thu, May 13 10:55 PM
I wrote in her yearbook for about 3 pages of small text about the reasons why she's so important to me and more mushy gooey stuff. I even wrote her a poem. she told me she didn't write in anyone else's yearbook but mine and all it said in mine was "Marry me?" and I was fine with that. It meant a lot to me.
I love you so much
Fri, May 14 9:53 PM
Self-explanatory. What made this significant was that prior to ever really getting to know her was that she initially told me she never believed in love.
Marry me?
Fri, May 14 9:54 PM
Her sister's pregnant. She wants to one day be the best mom because her mother constantly neglects her, and in a way, they're polar opposites. She learns what not to do with children from her mother.
Yes, I hope you know that I'm madly in love with you. Goodnight<3
Sat, May 15 10:49 PM
She was talking to me about how this guy she used to be with kept toying with her and she kept giving in. She wanted advice from me on how to deal with it, and it absolutely devastated me because I thought we had something going. I asked her if she was tired, I was about to kill myself after she went to sleep, and then she sent me this. I'm breathing now.
It is all that matters <3
Sun, May 23 10:36 PM
I actually don't remember. I speculate that we were probably talking about if she believed we were the only thing that mattered in our lives.
Aww <3 we will read our kids stories
Mon, Jul. 5 12:21 AM
I told her that my parents never read me bed time stories. Then she texted me this.
Yess definitely and we should live on a lake with a rope swing going into it
Sun, Jul. 11 7:33 PM
I asked her if she wanted to live in a humble log cabin. And then she sent me this.
<3 the well being of my life is now in your hands
Sat, Aug. 7 10:45 PM
We had summer work for AP US History. I promised her that I'd get her outline done for her. But I couldn't send her it because my internet was down. I frantically fixed it and then sent it immediately.
But if I don't have you, who am I going to marry and have little sunshines with?
Wed, Sep. 8 11:21 PM
I asked her if she even really needed me. Take note that we don't really hang out, we just talk like this. I suspected that all she wanted to do with me is text flirt and such. But I began to believe and give in again despite my past with being used by girls. It was a big move.
You = perfect
Fri, Sep. 10 3:37 PM
Prior to this she told me that no human being can be perfect. And then she sent me this.
"I'll marry you" "that spot is reserved"
Thu, Sep. 16 3:34 PM
In AP Calculus class that day, someone told me "I'll marry you." I told him (yes, him. He was joking around) "that spot is reserved" referring to my significant other in the desk behind me. I didn't turn around. But I guess she noticed and then sent me this promptly after school ended.
It's okay, it's not annoying. Trust me, if I could I would talk to you 24/7 and always hang out with you but I can't
Sun, Sep. 19 4:51 PM
I told her that sometimes i feel like I'm annoying her when I talk to her. She's on the swimming team and with two AP classes to balance, she's very busy. I thought it was odd that she didn't have any free time, I had an idea that she was seeing another guy.
Did I ever mention how perfect you are? <3
Sun, Sep. 19 5:00 PM
I don't know. I must have said something sweet. I saved it anyway.
It wouldn't be heaven if you weren't there
Mon, Sep 20. 10:14 PM
Out of the blue, she told me this. It made my week.
He could never hurt me bad enough to where you couldn't make it better with a simple text
Tue, Sep. 21 11:05 PM
Some guy kept trying to flirt with her and she refused to and he kept obsessing over her and kept trying to make her feel bad by sending her depressing texts. This guy's on swim team as well. He's a senior named Anthony. He was my very good friend for a time, and even went to me for relationship advice after breaking up with his girlfriend of many months. And now he was coming onto the girl I was infatuated (I can't prove I love her) with.
Babe you're how I know the difference <3
Tue, Sep. 21 11:30 PM
I told her that I hate it when people say I love you because they never know the difference between love and infatuation. And then she sent me this.
Did you know I'm madly in love with you?
Wed, Sep. 22 11:40 PM
I told her that night that I was about to commit suicide until she sent me that text telling me that she's madly in love with me. I was smiling like crazy this night.
Would you really want to be a 'ladies man'? Because if you were I probably wouldn't be around. I like how you are, please don't change <3
Sun, Sep. 28 11:35 AM
I told her about how every other guy thought it was "homosexual" that I didn't want to have sexual intercourse with this girl. That my increasingly ignorant guy friends wanted me to be "ladies man." Then she sent me this, promptly after I exited Mass.
Goodnight <3 (p.s - I'm so madly in love with you, it's ridiculous)
Wed. Sep. 29 10:31 PM
She wanted to remind me I suppose. It was a normal night, with a special goodbye.
I will always worry about you, even when we are married
Thu, Oct. 7 5:55 PM
I told her not to worry about me. At this point, I knew that Anthony and her had something going on. I was miserable these days. She noticed.
I can't talk to other guys the way I do with you? I'm only marrying you
Sat, Oct. 9 12:22 PM
My best friend and I were talking and he kept asking me about Anthony and her. And then he wanted to see if what I had with her was genuine. I had to figure it out so I asked her if she ever talked to any other guy like she talked to me. And I got this.
I wuv yew a wot
Sun, Oct. 17 8:53 AM
It was cute. Really really cute.
But it's not the same way that I like you. The way I like him is just a little crush that will pass but the way I like you is long term if you understand
Tue, Oct. 19 3:13 PM
So, one month she's hurt by Anthony. And this month she's crushing over him. I don't get it. Am I not enough for her to be happy? Does she have to make me miserable while watching her and him flirt with each other? I had to confront her. And then I got this. At least it's a little hope.
I feel like a fool, I just smiled so big
Wed, Oct. 20 7:44 PM
She was crying over about how she can't not like Anthony for my sake. And then I sent her some parody of Taylor Swift that went something like "He wears swim shorts, I wear boxers, he's on swim team and I'm on the piano." I never wear pants if I don't have to and she knows I love to play guitar and piano for her. So that made sense to her mainly. I needed to cheer her up even if I was miserable. And so I did.
Please don't ever deprive me of you again
Mon, Oct. 25 8:02 PM
Her best friend convinced me to not talk to her and let her have her ways with Anthony this weekend. Several times she told me that my significant other was with Anthony at the moment. It tore me apart, but it also helped me let go more. To let her be a teenage girl.
Yesterday I found out from her best friend in the morning at school that she was officially dating Anthony. I'm broken. I didn't think it'd get this far, but it happened and now I feel like I'm not good enough to make her happy myself. Today, I finally talked to her again like we normally used to, flirting in Calculus class and all. She was so much happier according to her and her friends, so I believe we do have something genuine. But what about Anthony? What's going on? I don't get this at all. I'm so confused as to why hormones just have to dominate a girl like that. Shouldn't she be able to contain herself for me? She knows I hate him now. She knows that I'm broken. And yet she keeps on going like it's nothing. I want to give up, but I can't. I promised her that I'd wait forever for her if it meant being with her, I promised her that I needn't be her only reason to be happy, even though she reassured me that I'm her only source of happiness. Nothing makes sense anymore. I know that we're in like but I want it to be love. Nothing in high school seems real, but I want to prove the world wrong with her. But at this point, I feel like it's not just me and her against the world, it's me against her and the world. The more I know, the less I want to go on.
So today I finally resolved it with her. I told her that despite her hormonal raging that I'd still be here for her no matter what. After she and Anthony are done, I'd still be around for her to be with me. I had the feeling that I was being used, again in my life. But I refuse to believe it because she seems so real. I believe in her, I have faith in her, and prayed to God that we'd be together and I think he told me "Yes, but not yet." And I cannot wait for the day until my dedication pays off.
I came to this conclusion. Nice guys finish last. Always. And I don't mind that one bit.
summary:
I'm letting the girl I adore date someone else even though it hurts like hell. I'll still be there for her after she's done with her crushing on this guy. Even against all of her friends' and my friends' opinions.
Edit:
Sorry for being such a "pushover" and "pansy." It's just how I am and it won't change anytime soon. Sorry.
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I was actually reading it all, until I read the crap about the whole "omg I'll kill myself for you" bs, which made me rage a little. Being on the receiving end of that kinda talk, do you have any idea how extremely pathetic it sounds that you're relying on someone else to live, not to mention how much pressure it puts on the other person? It's such an incredibly clingy thing to say, and those kind of "threats" eventually pushed me away from said person because I didn't have the strength to deal with it any more. And I can even admit I was an idiot for dealing with it in the first place. Bloody hell.
Sorry for being walked on so much. From my understanding, everyone here believes I should man up. But I just can't be that masculine kind of guy that'd be more assertive. It's not who I am.
Anyway though, today I saw Anthony wearing her class ring by necklacing it. She told me that I'd be wearing her class ring promptly after the day we had our Junior Ring Mass. I confronted her about it and she immediately told me that she had it, even though he was blatantly parading around with it today.
You finish last, because you are a nice guy. You are willing to sacrifice ur happiness for her to be happy. Its not easy being a good person, but its worth it. And there will be a girl out there, who will treasure the fact that you are a nice guy.
You my friend, in the eyes of many of us, are being used. Even if it's for a short period in the case she decides/finds that this guy and her don't match up for dating, or she doesn't consider anything serious between them enough to put you off the hook completely.
I'd say you have a 50/50 /3rd option scenario right now. It is true that nice guys finish last, not always though.
A) You wait around for this girl to prove to her how much she means to you. Say she breaks up with Anthony/they break up and she doesn't want him anymore/loss of attraction, you may have a chance then, and if that opportunity arises, you make the call.
B) You wait around and you don't get this girl because she continues to date him and eventually falls into a deep love/infatuation with him and they have an extremely long relationship which goes beyond highschool.
C) They break up, and she doesn't like you and only views you as a good friend.
D) There are other scenarios but I can't type it all out right now, you should do some thinking young padawan.
Summary: By the looks of things, you "look" like you're being used. You may stand a better chance if you refuse to be the guy who's her "backup plan" incase things don't work out, because you may make her feel "insecure" if you leave her; she may feel like she has less power over you or none at all and she might be afraid of being lonely, thus making her feelings for this Anthony person diminish and she MIGHT like you. There are tons of possibilities though, this is one angle to look at it.
[quote=xultrashock]well I didn't make it far through that sappy wall of text...
summary?[/quote]
it's like the last one or two sentences. lol
Good luck man! You need to talk to this Antony though.
Dude, don't be a pansy and tell her you're waiting around. Pretend that you care nothing about the fact that she's with this Anthony guy, and act as if you're completely unfazed. You could even show a bit of interest in another chick. She'll be crawling back to you in no time, and if not, she'll be dying to take you back after things finally fall apart with Anthony. And when she comes back, act like you're making a compromise. After that, only turn your nice guy ways on about half way. Be more of a bad ass.
We always finish last..
it's not necessarily that you're a nice guy, it's more that you're being a total doormat and way too "nice."
there is such a thing as being a nice guy who can get a girl and keep her.
Whatever it takes, or how my heart breaks, I'll be right here waiting for you.
Great song, should really fit your story.
But, I feel you, my girlfriend and I, have been dating for about 8 months and we're both 13, yes a very young age but we love each sincerely.
Message me if you want to hear more of how you and I are alike.
It's really simple.
Nice guys finish last because they usually come off as somewhat spineless in comparison to other guys.
"Jerks" are more confident, or at least come off as more confident, which is a turn on for girls.
In the need to 'please' a girl, a nice guy will come off as clingy and needy.
Giving gifts.. giving too much affection.. it'll all make it seem boring to a girl.
Have you ever played a video game where there's no challenge for more than ten hours?
It's basically the same with dating, no one's going to maintain a relationship with you if it's dull and there's no challenge at all.
You were gonna an hero and you call urself a "nice guy".
Okay, that makes sense....
You're too 'nice'.
Feeling used is probably one of the worst feelings you could experience.
I've had my fair share of being manipulated and what not, and I just had enough of it.
Not specifically pointing you out, but self-proclaimed 'nice guys' can be seen by some as weak and easily pushed around. (I was/am one)
Good luck though.
DUDE
find a new girl, suck it up, anthony aint a true friend
i had a crush, that moved very quickly, and then my best friend bangs her.
i cried, i was crushed, stuff happens
bros will betray, girls only want weenie, you dont get what you want
you lost this time, but eventually you will win
but you will not win with this girl
shes a friend, thats all she is, leave her ALONE
when she gets lonely shell call you
shell ask you to come back
thats when you bang her, and say peace ho, im just doing what you did to me
payback is the best
"But it's not the same way that I like you. The way I like him is just a little crush that will pass but the way I like you is long term if you understand
Tue, Oct. 19 3:13 PM"
Read that again. you have your answer, good sir. If she liked you long term, she wouldn't consider Anthony. I honestly want to slap both of you for being so darn immature... want to, not will. Move on now, or regret it. "Anthony" just wants to do her like any other jerk would, so obviously, that is his only motive. Screw "like." That doesn't mean jack these days.
It's just texting texting in this generation. Maybe if you actually called her,she can hear what your tone of voice is like.
I know how you feel but I will say this: You [i]will[/i] eventually move on. Yeah, right now it seems like you can wait forever for her but you won't. I know you're hurt but in time you will heal. One day you'll find someone else and you'll realize how foolish it was to wait around for her.
Read the whole thing and kind of the same happened to a friend of mine and boy was he sad.. but noow that friend likes the girl I like.. soo? Fight anyone ?
Summarise in 30 words or less. And go!