Givers and Takers
I recently have become rather frustrated with the way people treat me and other humans that can be classified as "givers".
A short definition of terms
Givers- People who give and expect nothing in return.
Balancers- People who give and expect things back.
Takers- People often catered to by givers who receive, give nothing in return, and expect more.
I myself have come to realize I am by all means a giver. My first attempt at a relationship was completely one sided. She asks me out, I tried to make her happy, and got nothing in return. Then she breaks up with me. Another example is my family, especially my brother. He's a Senior and I'm a Junior. On countless occasions I have defended him from my parents, done chores he should have done himself, and just done nice things for him in general like turning on his computer so it's warmed up and ready to go when he comes upstairs. After all this, he then threatens that he's going to find a way to get me banned from Maple because "it's a kiddie game" and "I take up bandwidth that he uses for MW3 or BF3". I personally don't want or need anything back for being kind, but for heaven's sake, do people really need to be hurtful in return. I really want to have a heart-to-heart with my brother, but I'm actually somewhat afraid of him. He's sturdily built, muscular, and has a "touch me you lose your face" kind of aura to him. Any ideas that can get us on better terms? I'm safe for now because he does not know my account info, and will not know it if I have something to say about it. I really don't want to stop being kind, but I don't want to be taken advantage of anymore.
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@imtwocats Thanks, this helped a little bit. It bumped my confidence a bit.
There are some people in this world who will take advantage of your kindness, abuse it as much as possible, and then throw you away like garbage in the end. Be careful of these types of people, and don't bother to associate with them.
Not saying your brother is that type of person, but usually with siblings its just near impossible to perfectly get along with them. Really, it sounds like you shouldn't even bother with him. Sure you can still be a kind person, but be strong enough so people won't step over you like that.
Also stop babying your brother. He's older than you and should know how to take care of himself, and if he doesn't care about the things you've done for him then why bother with him in the first place?