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voidwreck Level 136 Windia Aran 4
I'm so frustrated with myself. I find it very difficult to communicate with people - girls in particular. I always end up stammering and stuttering when I talk, and my speech is so unclear.

I work as a Customer Service Rep, which means that I have to communicate with a lot of people. Whenever I communicate with girls, I just have this severe anxiety inside of me. It feels like I'm scared of them. I can't speak fluently with them without stammering 10 times throughout my sentence. I'm not as nervous when I talk to men, but I still sometimes stammer and stutter when talking. Basically, I just feel as if my speech is just terrible.

I'm not sure if this is some medical issue that I have. I haven't been diagnosed with any speech disorder and nobody ever told me that my speech is unclear, however female customers at work give me a weird look because of how nervous I feel around them.

I feel as if I have zero motivation at all, which is probably why I'm feeling this way. I want to know how I can overcome this, as it is hindering my work performance and my ability to communicate with family/friends at times. Has anyone gone through something similar?
Posted: January 2016 Permalink

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shoutbox Level 30 DemethosEMS Page
u might have social anxiety
Jan 07 2016
sezbeth Level 177 Galicia Demon Avenger 4
Social Anxiety Disorder could very well be a possible diagnosis here. Normally, in these situations I would strongly recommend simply pushing yourself outside your comfort zone, however as a customer service representative I would assume that you already do that quite a bit.

My advice would be to see a licensed psychiatrist about this issue and, after being diagnosed (which I'm fairly certain you would be), said psychiatrist should write you a prescription for anxiety medication. During my time working at a grocery store in positions ranging from cashier to accounting, I've known a few with similar issues to yours who also reported to having taken such medication. As far as I could tell, I wouldn't be able to tell the difference had they not actually told me.

With technicalities out of the way, I would also like to know if this is just around women you find particularly attractive, or is it more general? If it is only around the opposite sex, you could just skip the above advice entirely by simply adjusting your approach. It really all comes down to the fact that these girls are just people, which is something I find that people with your type of issue seem to forget.
Jan 07 2016
voidwreck Level 136 Windia Aran 4
@sezbeth: It mostly happens around women. If I am talking to a guy, I would feel a bit more confident, however my nervousness would still be there to an extent. With a woman, I will feel scared and extremely nervous, especially if they are attractive. I think it's because I probably objectify women, which is something I need to stop. If I just think of them as regular people then I'm pretty sure I would be confident enough to engage in a discussion with them and not stammer while talking. However, it's just really embarrassing for me. In most situations, I know what I want to say, but the words just don't come out of my mouth.
Jan 07 2016
windowlegs Level 142 Kradia Buccaneer
how old are you? have spoken to many females before getting that job?
Jan 07 2016
sezbeth Level 177 Galicia Demon Avenger 4
@voidwreck: If that is the case, then I would recommend getting a prescription for anxiety medication as a therapeutic measure, at least until you feel you are able to confidently speak to others. The psychiatrist you may or may not end up with will likely recommend something of this nature or, in some cases, exposure therapy (which I'm sure you get the general gist of by way of the name), or behavioral therapy, which is a broader term different types of therapeutic approaches.
Jan 07 2016
xronellx Level 139 Scania Night Lord
Have you told your friends or family about this? Does it also occur when your with your friends or family? Why not try to ask your friends or family for help.
Jan 07 2016
whoamomma1 Level 41 Windia Assassin
Yet you're like a kb warrior. Ermagerd
Jan 07 2016
4evavoodoo Level 149 Bera Bishop
I have trust issues
Jan 07 2016
pandapoet Level 47 Mardia Fighter
hire a hooker
bang her
ur confidence will go up
Jan 07 2016
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