The story of my screwed up love life
Ok, this is for srs.
I might as well mention that I usually don't post this kinda stuff on the forums but I'm really desperate for answers.
You don't have to read it all but I have made a little summary under each paragraph for you lazy folks.
(Names have been replaced for privacy reasons )
So, here I go...
It all started with Guy A. Guy A was one of my close school friends who lived far away; it took him an hour train ride to get to school EVERDAY. Since Guy A spent so much time on the train, he made a bunch of train buddies. That's when Girl A comes in. Now, to make a long story short, I took and immediate interest in Girl A after first seeing her (on facebook [internets ftw!]). Eventually she added me on msn and we got closer. Girl A introduced me to her friends, namely, Girl B. Girl B was pretty cool, she struck me as lively; she was always happy and into the same stuff that I was, she was also kinda hawt. Girl A became my girlfriend soon after.
[b]Summary.[/b]
I meet Girl A through a friend.
Girl A introduces me to Girl B.
Girl A becomes my girlfriend.
However, we don't live happily ever after. Girl A became slightly paranoid. She accused me for falling in love with Girl B because I talked to her. For srs? So because I talk to her it means I'm going cradle robbing? I eventually showed her that my feelings were towards her, not Girl B (which was true). Even though I averted disaster, Girl A was never the same. She became less talkative and less fun. I started talking to Girl B more often.
[b]Summary[/b]
Girl A believes I love Girl B.
I fix the situation.
Girl A becomes less talkative.
I start talking to Girl B more.
I desperately try to fix up our relationship which gets me no where. Guy B appears (he's also one of my close friends). Girl A starts talking to Guy B. A lot (Guy B already has his own love interest though). I ask her why she's spending so much time with Guy B. She says because I'm do nothing which I counter by saying I tried to get us to do something but she never wanted to. She calls me paranoid and desperate. At this point my feelings towards her have changed. At first I really did love her but now I love her [i]and[/i] hate her at the same time. Weirdest feeling ever... So, like I usually do when Girl A is like this, I spend more time with Girl B.
[b]Summary[/b]
I try to fix our relationship. Nothing happens.
Girl A starts getting closer to Guy B
I ask her why
She is bothered and aggresively retaliates which I counter.
I start spending more time with Girl B.
Ok so this is the turning point of the matter. I'm starting to develop the same feelings I did for Girl A towards Girl B. I'm starting to fall for her
I don't know how Girl A feels about me; she says she still has an interest in me but not as much as I'm interested in her... She also still isn't very talkative.
If Girl A doesn't improve then I think bad things will happen
What do I do?
I asked one of my close friends and he said to wait it out and see if Girl A fixes herself up.
I told him I'm not very patient.
Please note; Don't bother responding with "Hit it and quit it"
Too obvious.
Try to be more creative if you're going to troll.
17 Comments • Newest first
[quote=00NoobKing00]I reasurred her before and she told me she doesn't mind who I talk to anymore.
And the only reason I talk to Girl B so often is to find out more about Girl A (Girl B is one of Girl A's best friends).[/quote]
So there are misunderstandings. You should probably tell her that.
[quote=ElitistMan]So when your girlfriend started having doubts, instead of reassuring her and comforting her through it, you talk to 'Girl B' and get her even more jealous.
....[/quote]
I reasurred her before and she told me she doesn't mind who I talk to anymore.
And the only reason I talk to Girl B so often is to find out more about Girl A (Girl B is one of Girl A's best friends).
[quote=13LoL13]Purchase a 10 atk wg! 10 atk wg's give STR to relationships whereas dex gloves add avoidability, you definitly don't want to avoid your gf so stick with the atk wg. Acc is also a requirement for sucessful relationships, you must be accurate with what you say. LUK equips are also important as they increase the size of your HANDS and so you can use MAKER to make things for Girl A. INTelligence is the most important thing if your girlfriend is a mage.[/quote]
ROFL
OT: Sounds like you're in a pickle.
But seriously, wait for a definite response from girl A. If you guys split, you got girl B as back up; but of course don't rush things.
Also, your summaries are appreciated.
[quote=Nick13oii]dude i think ur screwed[/quote]
this
[quote=kamichamak]-facepalm- @ the people who are saying hit it and quit it.
Anyway, first of all, who do you like more? Do you like Girl B for only her looks? Sort your problem with Girl A before you do anything with Girl B (pointing out the obvious and what others have already said)[/quote]
I liked Girl A because of how I felt when I was with her.
Now she's...
Ngah.
Girl B is so much kinder to me and actually cares how I feel.
Don't get me wrong, Girl A was really awesome before she went weird.
[quote=00NoobKing00]That's the thing. She's becoming less talkative. And because I can't talk to her I start talking to Girl B [/quote]
Well I'm not sure what to do because every relationship/love story is unique. I'm afraid that only you can figure out what to do. The only thing we can do is give you advice, and not all of it will work out.
I have a messed up love life too, but it's a one sided love. I've never been in a relationship.
If girl A is less talkative try to talk to her about it. But if she refuses to talk then maybe she doesn't deserve to be your girlfriend.
Listen to Taylor Swift.
[quote=coolsmiley1]Communication is key. You need communication and trust in a relationship. If you don't communicate, then you start losing trust in each other, and when you lose trust, you start growing apart and becoming paranoid.[/quote]
That's the thing. She's becoming less talkative. And because I can't talk to her I start talking to Girl B
Listen to your heart, if you feel something in the relationship is not right, then it is not to be.
well stop so much spending time with girl b, it's obviously making your gf upset.
Communication is key. You need communication and trust in a relationship. If you don't communicate, then you start losing trust in each other, and when you lose trust, you start growing apart and becoming paranoid.
I prefer: Love Story...
[quote=helenalives]You have to be patient in relationships, it's a key in a successful one. Try to have a serious one on one chat with Girl A and tell her how you feel, and try not to break into any arguments or blaming each other for anything; use words like, "I feel that..."/etc. Also, you how do you feel about Girl A now? Do you still like her? Are you taking relationships seriously right now or is it just "going out?" I would just stay away from Girl B as much as possible, to make Girl A more comfortable and not jealous anymore. If she decides to do anything with Guy B, then you should leave, but for now, you should just trust that she isn't doing anything until you know for sure. So to make it short:
1. Have serious and sincere convo with Girl A
2. Stay away from Girl B
3. Develop patience and trust within your relationships
4. And perhaps re-evaluate yourself if you're ready or not for a relationship, because to me, it doesn't sound like you are, or at least a serious one.
Good luck.[/quote]
1.Been dere. Done dat.
2.Trying as hard as I can
3.''
4.I am completely commited but I don't think she is as much as I am.
Ty for the help.
@DIljit:
Yeah, I kinda liked it more when I was single.
@Nick13oii:
It has it upsides and downsides. Currently mine is filled with a lot more downsides.
@rangedanger9:
Sup Mike
I feel like stopping but I just can't. Like I said. It's like I hate her but love her at the same time.
At least you have a love life.
Well, if she's less interested in you then you are in her, I think it's time to end it. It doesn't sound like your relationship is going anywhere good and might as well stop now before it's too late
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dude i think ur screwed