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How do i start talkiing to this girl?

Before I start...
This is pretty wierd.. Becuz 1. I'm asking basdil(no offense) and 2. I can usually figure out wat to say myself but have failed in simulations(in my head)

Ok Hi My Name is Troy.
So... There's this girl at school that I wanna build a friendship/maybe even a relationship with... But I can't seem to think of anything to say to start talking to her..
This is my simulation(in my mind)
M - Me H - her
*Walks up*
M :Hey
H: hello
M : what's your name?
H : -says names-
M: that's a nice name
H : blank can't really think what she will say
*at this point I'm confused and can't think of anything atm*

I talked to her once at the beginning of school when I was on a "getting girls frenzy"

Went like this

M : hey wats ur name
H : -says name-
M : kool
H: y r u making that look
M : what look? *Makes O_o expression*
M : *leaves*

I'm sure she has forgotten considering the fact the fact that I haven't talked to her after that...
So Basil can yu give me some ideas?... I wanna talk to her and get her number before christmas..
Ill edit this post after some comments r made

December 10, 2010

40 Comments • Newest first

PitchBlack0

Ask her out to chile's like the commercial
You: Hey do you wanna go to Chile's with me?
Her: Do I know you?
You: Absolutly not.
Her: Sure see ya there.
Jokes aside just be yourself nothing else to it if you pretend to be someone your not then it wont work out very well.

Reply December 15, 2010
Smitttty

I want to know what face you were making the first time...haha

Reply December 15, 2010
PurpleBunnyz

Walk up to her and keep saying "Can I have your number?" If she walks away or says no keep following her and keep asking. Jk just talk to her and be your self.

Reply December 15, 2010
Hurricane

I'm in a similar situation, I'd like to know a girl but I have no classes with her.
It's easier if you have her in one of your classes so you can just ask about class stuff like: did you do the homework? do you know how to do this? what's your grade in this class? then just follow up naturally.

If not, you can add her on facebook and try chatting with her when she's on. Just say "hey, what's up?", ask her something you can talk about like "Do you have Ms.Reese for english" or "do you like this band", etc. If she starts replying and you can have a normal conversation, you're golden. After the first convo, you can always spark up a convo another day and it won't be wierd since you already started talking, just don't talk to her ALL the time and give her some space

Eventually you'll get to know a lot about her, then you can greet each other in school, and better yet if you end up with her in a class you can start talking to her and being her friend in person

Reply December 15, 2010
Akkine

Go "Hey, I lost my phone.. could you call it?"
Then when it rings, "Oh! It was in my pocket all along! Thanks!"

Reply December 15, 2010
Bello

@above : im trying to also make her my future girlfriend too

Reply December 13, 2010
Bello

@Dracius:
-sigh- trolls these days... -.-"

Reply December 11, 2010
Bello

@Dracius: last time I checked this wasn't english class... And. Last time I checked your not helping me and last time I checked I'm not getting angry or raging.. So ur wrong... So please leave if your not helping me... Which u aren't

Reply December 11, 2010
Plusle4eva

@ROBINator: I laughed. Yet it's true... Some of us do bite...

And to your edit: Not to be offensive, but I can see it now.

M: Come here often?
H: Uhm yeah... It's school.
M: -awk silence-

Otherwise, it's golden.

Anyway, @TS: Robin speaks the truth. You start by talking to her. MAKE CONTACT WITH FOREIGN OBJECT, so to speak. I shout that phrase over and over to a friend, hehe.

Reply December 11, 2010
Bello

@Dracius : wth? Me saying son? That's his basilid... And nothings wrong with saying iight... Dam.. I hate trolls there worser then un-helpful grey blobs

@skrato : that's a stalkerish kinda plan O_o...
Asking wat she does when not in school is stalkerish esp. If I'm just meeting her

Reply December 11, 2010 - edited
Skrato

Simple plan.

1) Say hello
2) Wait for response
3) Ask: what do you do when you're not in school
4) Wait for response
5) Talk about stuff.

Reply December 11, 2010 - edited
Bello

@above : LOL! X2

@brian : that's just it.. I don't wanna be creepy and just walk up to her and ask her her name

Reply December 11, 2010 - edited
HouseRedoran

[quote=mccourt]I loled I'm sorry. But your conversations sound so creepy and cheesy. Just act natural. Personally if I were you I wouldn't say "that's a nice name"

Just a heads up.[/quote]

lol

OT: yea man be yourself, once you introduce yourself you will eventually become better friends

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

@SON : Iight

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

I lol'ed at ur insults... I hope yu don't use those when ur trying to insult someone...
And for u to bring them up I'm guessing ur ugly , its happened to you , and ur online trying to feel better after 3 months of being lame.. Am I right?
I seriously don't like grey blobs... Except for helpful ones...

This wasn't a insult.. And if u thought they were I feel very very bad for you..

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

@above : I'm not ugly in-rl.. If yu want a pic ill post one after school is over(on ma way to school now)

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Prada

just talk about random thinks,dont come with this 'done' things

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
bubba127

[quote=SmashDragoon]Mate, the secret to getting girls is....be their friends. Yeah I'm being true here now, girls like it when your friends with them. So stay as friends with the girls and over time, they will start to get a feeling for you. And just hang out with them as friends but don't ask them too much, it may creep them out.

So remember, be friends with them, don't ask the girls to hang out with you a lot and just be yourself then over time, you may have some girls that will like you and trust me. [/quote]
I would agree on this, but I am going to say that it depends entirely on the girl.
I'm no pimp or anything, but I have a few female friends here and there, and there's a certain one.. that I have liked since 1st grade.
Friend zone will be the friend zone is what I am trying to say... sometimes it's a split road.
On one hand, being friends first makes for a stronger relationship(So I've been told, not experienced).
Being immediately bf/gf is kind of a spur of the moment thing... But the reason I say it depends on the girl is that some don't like to go out with their friends and some would like to be friend first.
I have no real advice to give since I've never made a female friend randomly outside by just saying "hey", they all either have classes with me, had classes with me, or met through a mutual friend.

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
lezhu

hello, im (name here)
oh im (her name)
oh, i like that name (:, so what are you up to?
well i like (insert her likes)
oh cool!
if she asks what are you up to then just chat and stuff if she doesn't then she prolly dont like you

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

@Vuxrian : I alrdy talk to all the girls I currently have... I'm just trying to START talking(introduce) to one

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
SmashDragoon

@Bello Well, just aim for her only but stay as friends and don't rush into dating and you should be fine but when she tells you that she likes you. Ask her out and then, your good to go and date her. Good luck mate, wish you the best of luck and support for you and that girl to get together.

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

I didn't run... I was thinking like " wat the ef? Ef it" and I said bye and left... But everytime we pass by eachother we look at each other..

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Vuxrian

[quote=Bello]@above : I get girls O_o I alrdy have girls... But this one is one that I might wanna be in a relationship with..[/quote]
then you'd better start something or you're going nowhere with them

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

@above : I get girls O_o I alrdy have girls... But this one is one that I might wanna be in a relationship with..

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
SmashDragoon

Mate, the secret to getting girls is....be their friends. Yeah I'm being true here now, girls like it when your friends with them. So stay as friends with the girls and over time, they will start to get a feeling for you. And just hang out with them as friends but don't ask them too much, it may creep them out.

So remember, be friends with them, don't ask the girls to hang out with you a lot and just be yourself then over time, you may have some girls that will like you and trust me.

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

@Panda : 1. I don't play maple..
And ok that's a reason for going on FB.. I think I do all that minus the "I play maple"

@above : sounds like a plan

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Ilovepandas

>Start conversation
>Find common interests
>Add on FB - Like you know you gotta check your other competition/if shes already taken right?
>Talk there+In RL too - Expand on common interests?

I'll let you use my best pick up line if you want
"Hi, I play MapleStory "
Usually works in my area since everyones Asian 8)

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

@above : idk I guess my mind isn't thinking right cuz I can usually think of a way to talk to girls myself.. -.-"

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

[quote=mccourt]Just out of curiosity, how old are you?[/quote]

I'm 15 and I'm a freshman

@above : *reads comment*
...
*looks at Blaze wiz's IGN*

Mmhhmm

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
mccourt

Just out of curiosity, how old are you?

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

I don't have any classes with her(maybe next semester I will)

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

@above : I'm good with comps and etc.. But I have a very good social life.. I'd rather introduce myself in real life and not on fb(which is wat ppl with no confidence do)

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

No I haven't
That's y I said how do I START talking to her... Srry if anyone misundertood my question...
I'm trying to impress her/introduce myself

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
Bello

[quote=Isanghyung]You haven't introduced yourself.[/quote]

I edited it
@Holy : I should huh?
@above : yeah.. Don't care if you loled

EDIT :
@above : ok ill take that out... So wat should I say?

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
mccourt

I loled I'm sorry. But your conversations sound so creepy and cheesy. Just act natural. Personally if I were you I wouldn't say "that's a nice name"

Just a heads up.

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
HolyJunker

You're over thinking this. Just relax, subjects you can talk about will pop up in your head as your talking to her.

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited
ZombieOverlord

Just talk small talk.

Reply December 10, 2010 - edited