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Hey guys. So for sometime I've had feelings for this girl. Me and her are really close friends. I hadn't told her how I felt because I feared it would ruin our friendship. Last night she told me how she doesn't like the way she looks and she feels ugly and that no one likes her. I thought that maybe now would be the right time to tell her since ill get it off my chest and it might make her feel better. What do you guys think?

November 28, 2012

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Oyster

@mymainacc: Okay, so you like her, but do you know if she likes you? (or are you not too sure yet?)
How confident are you from a scale of 1-10 (10 = most confident) that she'll say "yes" if you her out?[*]
Have you ever felt your friendship could be a little more than just friends?[*]
Does she seem really happy when you're at her presence? (always smiling)[*]
She shares a lot of her personal life with you?[*]
Compliments you before? [*]
Does she talk mention about having any crushes on other guys while you two are talking?[*]
If she's shy, does she gets nervous around you? Or if she's not shy, does she likes to look at you a lot (could be in the eyes)?[*]
Does she seem to dress "nicer" hanging around with you than compared with her friends?[*]
When you are hanging with her and she's also with her good friends, does she pay more attention to you? or her friends?[*]

If answering these questions made you felt good, then she probably does have feelings for you, and there will be a 97% chance she'll say "yes"
But if you just want to confess your feelings to get it off your chest, just do it and don't think about what the result might be. I agree with @Laker1294, if you like someone don't be afraid to let them know. I confessed my feelings for my first crush, however he rejected me (b/c we had very different personalities and I can see that now, my 1st ex-crush and I are still friends now but he's right we are way different) but I don't regret saying it. It just felt hard for that moment, but after that split second you say it, the pressure is over. Heck I even got rejected by my 2nd crush for being "too smart"

Reply November 29, 2012 - edited
Whiter

If another moment like the one that you just described comes up, then that'd be the perfect time to let her know how you feel.
It'd be like a movie scene:
Her: I..I just don't feel as if anyone thinks that I'm attractive..I need somebody in my life that can tell me that I'm beautiful
You: But -insertname-...you know you'll always have me. You're the most beautiful woman in my eyes
Her: You really feel that way?
You: I..I do
-romantic kiss ensues-

That's why I don't make movies.

Reply November 29, 2012 - edited
Laker1294

You should confess your feelings to her..even if you get rejected, there's more girls out there. I have heard stories that people regret not confessing their feelings..which motivated me to confess to my crush..since I knew I would regret it too and I didn't want to make the same mistake. I confessed to my crush by writing him a note.. I can't really say "I like you or I really like you" verbally..quite yet..because I have been rejected before. So far he hasn't rejected me which is a good sign. According to a website, he showed signs of interests before I confessed. I think he really likes me after the confession.

Reply November 29, 2012 - edited
Pwnagewafflez

She's fishing for compliments.
Be her fish. Go for it.

Reply November 29, 2012 - edited
xFaceIess

Tell her.. n__n .
Just don't attempt to ditch her a few months later.
likesomedummyIknow.

roaaaaaaaaaaaar.
I like wha QuackOutLoud said o:

Reply November 29, 2012 - edited
mymainacc

[quote=Oyster]I honestly think if the both of you are mature enough, even if she rejects you your friendship has a high chance of staying the way they are now. Depending on the context of the conversation where she tells you she "feels ugly and no one likes her" (if she's not the emotional attention freak and you only heard her say this once before) she might be hinting at you to say something sweet to her, and cheer her up (b/c she might have feelings for you and wants to know how you feel about her). Just give it a try. Girls like guys who are confident and is willing to take the risk. Even if she rejects you, she would probably admire your guts for telling her and think of you as more "manly" than some dude who has a crush on her for centuries but is always too shy to tell her.[/quote]

Should I just flat out say it?

Reply November 29, 2012 - edited
HastyHeist

that moment was when you should of said everything. it's too late now so give up.

Reply November 28, 2012 - edited
TrueAtheist

[quote=WontPostMuch]Don't WK her and go for it. You got nothing to lose (srs). There's nothing to gain from the status quo. Just listen to her problems and then tell her that you've had a crush on her and that you'd like to take your relationship to the next level. Don't fall for any tricks and end up like, kissing her ass the whole time. That's a beginner's mistake. Also, DO NOT try to fix her problems. That is hands down the biggest piece of advice you will ever get.

The key to understanding women srs lies in this quote: "women do not like being told what to do unless their clothes are off."[/quote]

^Exactly this.

Quite frankly it seems like she's fishing for compliments, don't suck up to her it's not your place to be her emotional cushion.

Reply November 28, 2012 - edited
Oyster

I honestly think if the both of you are mature enough, even if she rejects you your friendship has a high chance of staying the way they are now. Depending on the context of the conversation where she tells you she "feels ugly and no one likes her" (if she's not the emotional attention freak and you only heard her say this once before) she might be hinting at you to say something sweet to her, and cheer her up (b/c she might have feelings for you and wants to know how you feel about her). Just give it a try. Girls like guys who are confident and is willing to take the risk. Even if she rejects you, she would probably admire your guts for telling her and think of you as more "manly" than some dude who has a crush on her for centuries but is always too shy to tell her.

Reply November 28, 2012 - edited
QuackOutLoud

Tell her how you feel, it is no good keeping them to yourself.
You never know if she feels the same way about you too.

Reply November 28, 2012 - edited
WontPostMuch

[quote=mymainacc]I know it sounds like it but she's not

@WontPostMuch good advice. Thanks! Only thing is I don't know how to come out and just say it. I'm a little nervous lol[/quote]

When she's done with her little rant about how much life sucks, how she feels ugly, -insert typical 15 year old girl blah blah here- just hold the silence for a couple of seconds, put your hand on her legs or shoulder (I suggest legs) and say something like "To be honest, I've been thinking some things over and I realized I'm having feelings for you" and take it from there. Should be easy enough + she'll probably be flustered enough that she won't notice a bit of nervousness.

Point is, don't overthink it. Best to just shake your head and smile here or there. Girls for whatever reason seem to think just hearing them out makes you a good listener even if in your head you're like "man, screw this, this is so boring."

Reply November 28, 2012 - edited
mymainacc

[quote=Chema]Stay away from her
she's an attention hoar[/quote]

I know it sounds like it but she's not

@WontPostMuch good advice. Thanks! Only thing is I don't know how to come out and just say it. I'm a little nervous lol

Reply November 28, 2012 - edited
Dave4eva1229

Chema sht up

Reply November 28, 2012 - edited
Chema

Stay away from her
she's an attention hoar

Reply November 28, 2012 - edited
WontPostMuch

Don't WK her and go for it. You got nothing to lose (srs). There's nothing to gain from the status quo. Just listen to her problems and then tell her that you've had a crush on her and that you'd like to take your relationship to the next level. Don't fall for any tricks and end up like, kissing her ass the whole time. That's a beginner's mistake. Also, DO NOT try to fix her problems. That is hands down the biggest piece of advice you will ever get.

The key to understanding women srs lies in this quote: "women do not like being told what to do unless their clothes are off."

Reply November 28, 2012 - edited
Dave4eva1229

Yes go now an tell her boiiii and write what she replies

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