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my conclusion of love

I often think of the future, thinking about what I want. Came to the conclusion that the job is only a stage of life, only family for me is eternal, the most important is my life. Two people who loves must have a sense of understanding is what required."Responsibility, willing to sacrifice for each other and are willing to go a long way.Overall beauty is completely unimportant. I see many pretty & beautiful girls, what's the big deal, some men's are really handsome, what's the big deal, someone on your side, in good faith to you is most important, very important, such conditions are the second and third requirement.

Marriage is thought to be the final conclusion of Love. The most precious value in this world. But in reality, The marriage is not so sweet as recklessly imagined. Instead of being a sweet dream, the marriage in reality is a commitment & a promise to live among many kinds of obligation & sacrifice. If the couple & their relationship has no Trust and Respect it is rather d end of Love than a sweet beginning.

Our marriage lasted for 11 years and was blessed with 2 kids, a boy 13 yrs old who is now on his 2nd year High School, and a girl, 8 yrs old on her 2nd grade school.

Back story is, I received a text message from my husband telling me he has fallen out of love and that he doesn't want commitment at the moment but would continue sending financial support for his kids.

I began to realize there was nothing to save. We no longer have respect for one another and Love already turned into hatred. Honor each other no more.

All I could remember were the instances when the kids would see him hit me, the times when we cursed each other so hard and the pains he gave me. I will not let those things happen again. I said It is time to end the chaos and have peace of mind.

May 2008, we moved out from my in-laws house and rented an apartment together with my children and a nanny. Until that time, my children did not know what's happening. They can see me crying over night and there are times they see me sober.

Few months after, I filed the Marriage Annulment.

I know it will somehow be difficult to raise the kids without their real father but I am determined to make a change in our lives.