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lolol yea ask her out and say this time it will be different.

Ehhh if she enjoys being single and messing around so much she's not mature enough for a relationship. Wait for her to grow up and give yourself the time to grow up and maybe get rid of your crush on her too. If you're a teenager still focus on your education - if the crush remains and she grew up into a decent girl by college-years go for it I guess.

Honestly, I wouldn't suggest asking her out considering what she does. If she didn't like relationships cause of lack of freedom then she doesn't understand what relationships/love is about so it's not worth trying.

I don't understand how people can feel trapped or like they have less freedom when they have a person they're supposed to love... gee...

@xIntegrity:

I liked her before we ever did anything. We would talk about some deeper stuff and I really like her personality.

[quote=ItzATrapp]So, I'm sort of in this dilemma with this girl. I like her, and I think she may like me, too. However, she's not looking for a relationship because she says they get sticky, and she wants to enjoy being single because her past relationships got kinda sticky because she is kind of a tomboy, and her past bfs didn't like that she hung out with guys a lot. However, she does seems to have some flings going around, and while she was trying to kiss me and stuff quite a few times, I wasn't going to let her get a home run with me, even though we got pretty close. She told me she hopes I'm not falling for her, and I lied and said, of course not, I hope you're not falling for me, in which she basically didn't give me an answer. Also, despite being a social person, she has a lot of trouble keeping eye contact with me, even if it's just for a second, but doesn't seem to have this problem with other people. This is most noticeable when I catch her looking at me, and when I look at her, she usually turns away.

I'm basically in a problem here. Yes, I like her, but I feel a bit sketchy about the things she does with other guys since she is single right now. It's not like she does this with a whole bunch of guys, but at the very least, I won't cross that boundary (home run) with her because I don't want to jeopardize our friendship, a possible future relationship, and that I also like her enough that I respect her so that I can't think about doing something like this right now. I also don't want to like her, because I know what she goes around doing, but the part of me that likes her doesn't really care. I tried talking to my friends and they just told me to go and hit it. While I may have possibly done that a few years ago, even though I'm still a teenager, I can't think of doing it right now and I'm not sure why. Anyone have any advice on the situation?[/quote]

Just keep your thing in your pants so there is no chance for anything to get sticky.

[quote=BrianGo1234]Home run is sex my friend a kiss is just 1st base[/quote]

Uhm... not just kissing... making out... some touching... and we came "close" as in we were basically foreplaying. But I stopped it at that point.

[quote=xAransFTW]1st scenario: You said she has trouble making eye contact with you. This could be a sign that she has a crush on you. It's possible that she's dropping you hints. If this is the scenario, i'd say to try and show her that she's not like the other guys she's dated. Sounds cliche? Yeah. But it works.

2nd scenario: she could be playing you. Lots of girls these days that act like that are a flirt. My experience with these types of girls always ended bad. I fell for their tricks and I ended up falling for them. Then they completely started to ignore me, and I was crushed. If this is the scenario, then forget about her. There's lots more fish in the sea. Hotter fish too haha.

Conclusion: You know more about her than any of us at basil do. So it's up to your judgement on what to do. I think that it could turn out to be either one of the scenario's that i've posted above. But as I said, you know more about her, so you should know what she's up to. Take a closer look at her previous relationships too. Ask around. That should help a bit.

EDIT: I also forgot to add....NEVER fall too hard for a girl. Just in case they plan to rip your heart out, it won't hurt so bad. That's one of the lessons I learned.[/quote]

Well the main problem is, I stopped it when we were about to do it, and after we "talked" about some stuff... I can't really remember what, she started becoming really cold towards me. It might be because I tried to appear tough as if I didn't like her at all... Now I am lost.

lol well i suppose you got friendzoned

[quote=opmeTK]Haha it's all good! She's changed, not to my liking however. I've been talking to someone else who I know for a fact likes me. Relationships are a fickle game, I must say.

OT : I say tell her. If you never tell her, you will never know how she feels. I'd rather ask, and get rejected than to not ask and never know[/quote]

Yeah... but she's not looking for anything serious right now so I'm trying to respect her decisions. I might wait a bit since I've only known her for a week and a half and we've already gone so far despite only knowing each other for that long.

@opmeTK: I'm sorry to hear that.
You can move as besties to a relationship.. if she's that interested though..

OT: I still say TS should just go for it.

@opmeTK: At least some of the stronger relationships pick-up from friendships. :v
I agree things can grow awkward, especially if the other person isn't interested that way? Or if they are... they just derp-up.

Well, she's not looking for a relationship. Don't put pressure on her.

Just ask her out, worse you have to lose is her friendship, but the two of you sound attracted to each enough that that's a non-issue unless you adopt some sort of persona that would be put her off.

Oh god

Just ask her out