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Help me convince my parents

to let me get an earring D:

I asked my dad and he said he's fine with it and told me to ask my mom but my mom just screamed at me saying no.. I calmly asked her why and she yelled saying that there is no reason and that she just doesn't want me with one. I asked, well why not? and she just kept screaming o.o Gosh, she doesn't even have a reason and she says I can't get one I told her all my friends have an earring and that one of my closest friend's dad was willing to pierce it for me...

Help please<3 I'm asian btw if that helps o.o

December 26, 2010

30 Comments • Newest first

jimmyjxia

Your mom probably doesn't want you to look like a stereotypical teenage delinquent. First impressions are very important and having an earring probably doesn't help your case.

And it's probably personal to your mom.

Reply December 28, 2010
UglierBetty

Because she ain't raisin' no babies, that's why you can't wear hoops.

Oh wait.

Reply December 28, 2010
gothica

[quote=konoharmaru]you should ask at a different time of the month [/quote]

Stop being sexist. Bring your opinion where it belongs!

Reply December 28, 2010
SmackBabies

wait til u move out of your house then go get a peircing. It's simple, you're mom wont have to care MUCH, and you get to make decisions
downside: wait a few years

Reply December 28, 2010
JiminyRobins

You'll regret it. I have 1-inch plugs. Don't get it to look cool. I don't regret it, but that's cause I know who I am. You're the kind of dude who'd cry over it.

Reply December 28, 2010 - edited
gothica

If your going to do it make sure you get it done correctly or infection could set in then you'd be an ear short<! haha but enough with the jokes. Peircings are forever and need to be taken seriously, maybe your mother thinks your too young or not mature enough for it (or maybe shes not mature enough to understand that your getting older and can choose for yourself) whatever the case is, if your over 16 the decisions mostly yours.

My guess is she wouldnt give you an answer because she didnt know a good enough one.. Thats usually the case with mothers at any rate.
My grandmother told me once its easier to do and apologize than ask for permission.

Reply December 28, 2010 - edited
darksoul165

[quote=kingofusa]Lol. fellow asian here speaking. My mom was OD anal when i asked her but my dad was like "wuteva as long as you don't pierce your ear at a shady place and your grades don't drop"

haha so i got my wars pierced with my friend. 10$ ea @ a place in queens (new yorker here) and ended up from having no piercings to 5, 3 on the right and 2 on the right.
when my mom found out, she was like "WHAT THE HELL"
but i just said "Appa (dad) said I could do it."
and she raged on my dad until she didnt care anymore.

[/quote]

LOL hey I'm korean too

But my dad already said that he won't let me since my mom won't let me.. --;

Reply December 28, 2010 - edited
kingofusa

Lol. fellow asian here speaking. My mom was OD anal when i asked her but my dad was like "wuteva as long as you don't pierce your ear at a shady place and your grades don't drop"

haha so i got my wars pierced with my friend. 10$ ea @ a place in queens (new yorker here) and ended up from having no piercings to 5, 3 on the right and 2 on the right.
when my mom found out, she was like "WHAT THE HELL"
but i just said "Appa (dad) said I could do it."
and she raged on my dad until she didnt care anymore.

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
SeeeD

[quote=Iblisa]Get it first and show her.

Then be like "lol u mad mum?"[/quote]

I actually LOL'ed at this

But yeah that's what I would do.

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
darksoul165

[quote=emylet]@darksoul165: No problem, and don't wory- my mom is like that too. Maybe you can get your dad to convince her. [/quote]

My dad tried D:

Now he's just going with whatever my mom says...

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
vengfulboi

I'm Asian too, but without even mentioning it this is what my mom asked me a few weeks ago. "So what do you think about getting your ears pierced or maybe dying your hair?" Well I did one of those things anyway

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
dappersnake

your mom is trying her best to help you not look like a d-bag

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
FlyingAlmond

"BUT MOOOOOOM~!"
works everytime

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
darksoul165

[quote=emylet]Show her that you deserve this form of a privelage. Get better grades, help out around the house, and compliment her (that definetly works 99% of the time).
To everyone above: Do you not know that you can take an earring out? o-o I know from expirience and fact that your ears will close up without puttings earrings in for a while. Hence, a solution to the "permanent" problem.

Good luck![/quote]

Thanks I'll try that But My mom is one of those stubborn moms that won't let you do what you want if you clean around the house or if you get good grades....

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
CheifWarking

[quote=Iblisa]Get it first and show her.

Then be like "lol u mad mum?"[/quote]
omg this made my day LOL

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
sakurarose8955

[quote=persephone99]Hmm... try looking at it at your parents' point of view.
Are you sure you would want the earring in the future when you're applying for a job? First impressions count, after all.
Are you sure that wherever you're going to do the piercing, it would be safe, and that the needle would be sterile (as in brand new and unused, chemically cleaned w/ bleach, or autoclaved for 15min) so that you won't get blood poisoning or something?
Are you sure you're willing to take care of your piercing so that it won't get infected?
Will you be happy with it? Who are you doing the piercing for: for you or for someone else? Will you regret it in the future?

If you can answer all of these questions fully, you have your argument for your parents.
Of course, if you feel as if you're doing it for someone else or that you might regret it in the future, don't do it. It is permanent after all (unless you get surgery).[/quote]

Men with earrings are becoming more commonplace. Its not that big of a deal, and if it was they can be removed.
And keeping ears from getting infected is terribly easy. Trust me I have three in each ear.
The only thing I agree with is if he's only getting the piercings to impress someone else. And I hope that isn't the case and that he's getting it done because he wants to.

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
SerenadeBass

Well they can't really undo it when you've done it.

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
darksoul165

Uhm well my dad tried convincing my mom and my dad just gave up so now he's just going with whatever my mom says --;

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
sakurarose8955

If you want it then don't let your parents stop you.
Its just a piercing what does it matter male or female?

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
bumblexxxbee

tell them ur gonna go gay

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
darkgrudge88

Say it's for a good cause.

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
MyOracle

Say that you'll do it with or without her consent. Then, simultaneously, while she's thinking, say, "lolumad?"

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
darksoul165

[quote=FiddleStick]im chinese got earrings at 13 my dad just goes with my mom says and she said if i got all a's i got earrings i have them now lol.[/quote]

Woww Its's literally impossible for me to get straight As --;

Reply December 27, 2010 - edited
darksoul165

[quote=MageTerra]Earrings aren't so bad. Especially because you're a guy and you're only having one done. There are much more dangerous places you can have pierced. Advice though, I wouldn't have let her know your friend's dad is doing it. He may be really good at it (One of my friends had one done by a friend and that went fine.) but your mom might not find that so reassuring. Tell her, "What if I have it done by a professional place?" and then keep suggesting you're having it done there instead.

Short version: Lie to her. Earrings are pretty much totally safe.[/quote]

Well My friends dad is a professional. He owns a Beauty shop and all that and my mom knew that cause she knows him. But I still don't get why she won't let me..

Reply December 26, 2010 - edited
5outof5

[quote=lawlerskates]Don't get an earring. You'll look like a fob.[/quote]

This.

Reply December 26, 2010 - edited
lilazninja

Uhh I doubt convincing will ever happen sooo heres the plan...
1. grow your hair out so it covers you ears (you might look like a fob)
2. get piercing
3. wait for it to heal properly
4. cut hair and keep piercing out when around parents
5. enjoy <3

Reply December 26, 2010 - edited
prvate69na

I'm sorry you won't be able to get one since you have Asian parents

Reply December 26, 2010 - edited
DaMeng

Earrings are gey for a big boy like you. (I'm asian too)

Reply December 26, 2010 - edited
MageTerra

Earrings aren't so bad. Especially because you're a guy and you're only having one done. There are much more dangerous places you can have pierced. Advice though, I wouldn't have let her know your friend's dad is doing it. He may be really good at it (One of my friends had one done by a friend and that went fine.) but your mom might not find that so reassuring. Tell her, "What if I have it done by a professional place?" and then keep suggesting you're having it done there instead.

Short version: Lie to her. Earrings are pretty much totally safe.

Reply December 26, 2010 - edited
lawlerskates

Don't get an earring. You'll look like a fob.

Reply December 26, 2010 - edited