Can someone please help me (high school issue)
You won't really know how to help unless you read it all, so please do that if you have the time...
I have recently moved to a new state and therefore a new school. My classes are okay and everything. The problem I'm having is lunch time. I have these people that said I could sit with them, and I really like maybe two of the people sitting at that table. But, if they weren't there, I wouldn't be able to talk to the other people. Like, one day this girl that I talk to went away for maybe 5 minutes and me and the people just sat in silence for that long. It's not like they weren't just not talking to me, they weren't even talking to each other. The awkwardness was unbearable. I'm like, "do these people who sit with themselves each day even know each other?"And I thought okay well I need to try harder to talk to them, and so when I wasn't able to sit right next to the friends that I really like, and had to sit next to someone i didn't know that well, I tried hard to get to know her and make conversation so it wasn't awkward. This is how it went.
Me: So where did you come from? (In my defense I had heard there was a mexican girl who had enrolled at almost the same time i did and thought she was that girl)
Her: Um, I'm from here. I've been here longer than you.
Me: Oh, I'm sorry -repeat what i said about the mexican i heard about-
Her:...
Me: So what nationality are you actually?
Her: Um...I don't know...
Me: (perplexed) You don't know?
Her:Um...no
Me: you never asked your parents or anything? I mean you've got to know...
Her: Um, I don't know, I don't talk to my parents...
I said I was puerto-rican, and she didn't respond. I kept trying to be nice and ask about her and keep it going, but she would give me one-word answers, and I had a feeling if I was to talk to other people at that table, they wouldn't say much either.
I want to get away from that table and go to another one. But I don't want to alienate the people I became friends with there. I have some people that I could hang out with other than them, there's like 3 of them, and they seem nice enough and cool to keep a conversation. But every time I got over there instead of at the other table my friends are like "why did you ditch us" and I just say "they wanted me to sit with them" which isn't not true...
What do I do?
3 Comments • Newest first
She doesn't sound too social, as @iSellThings2u: points out.
Try talking about things like homework, or the teachers and you'll eventually make friends
It sounds like the chick ain't interested in conversing with you. What a hoe.
If you're new to a school, awkwardness happens, especially at lunch time.
What you have to give yourself is time. Make friends gradually. People want to know things about the new kid as much as you want to know other people.
Don't feel bad if you leave them. Trust me, it is either you spend the rest of the year in awkwardness or to take the initiative and leave early while you still have the chance.