playing in obscurity
i've been playing maple for years, hit 200 a long time ago.
what i do on maple is go to fm, get 500 diligence, set up shop, then go do whatever.
while i was browsing the fm, i accidentally hit my r, key which opened my buddy list, and to my surprise, i had no friends, 0/100. i looked through my guild and realized i only knew one person out of all 100 members and that was myself.
thousands upon thousands of hours poured into a game, and i can remember only one meaningful friend i talked to, whom quit years earlier.
unlike how i act on basilmarket, i'm a nice guy online. and no loosest is not my main character.
i've literally been playing maplestory single player for the past two years.
tldr: i have no friends and im shocked and depressed
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Seriously it's not that hard to play maple as a solo player
it's not a bad thing either. There's always plenty to do even without others.
So what if you don't henehoe all the time?
@OpiumMaple: ok.
[quote=OpiumMaple]Alright, it's confirmed. You're just mad that I pointed out that you were wrong from the beginning. I'm gonna stop replying until you can actually come up with a coherent response this time.[/quote]
basilmarket: starting arguments since 1998
[quote=cilverx4]hahaha dude, youre such a loser. You try way too hard, completely in vain b/c I'm not paying attention to you. Just snickering at your obvious frustration.[/quote]
Alright, it's confirmed. You're just mad that I pointed out that you were wrong from the beginning. I'm gonna stop replying until you can actually come up with a coherent response this time.
[quote=OpiumMaple]You wanna start explaining why you're insulting me now or will you just continue being blindly upset?[/quote]
hahaha dude, youre such a loser. You try way too hard, completely in vain b/c I'm not paying attention to you. Just snickering at your obvious frustration.
[quote=cilverx4]@OpiumMaple: Man, I don't have any logical arguments to use, better just throw random insults and hope he stops harassing me.[/quote]
You wanna start explaining why you're insulting me now or will you just continue being blindly upset?
Buddy me, I'll chat with you once in a while if you're up for it.
@OpiumMaple: Still trying way too hard. But dont mind me, Ill sit back and relish your tears of rage and frustration. Nerd.
[quote=cilverx4]Its sad that you went out of your way to respond to that post...[/quote]
Why do you think that? You were attacking what I was saying and you were insulting me, did you just assume that I wouldn't respond? It seems to me like you're just upset that what you said earlier was completely ignorant and now you're just trying to make more baseless attacks on me.
[quote=OpiumMaple]Lol are you kidding me? The guy who made the post that I responded to was the one who was trying to incorporate the stuff he saw in his anime into his daily conversation. I'm pretty sure you should be confronting the guy I responded to for clearly being a weeaboo. Also, even if you just read the Wikipedia article that he linked for like 5 minutes, anyone could have seen that what he was saying was blatantly incorrect. I tried my best not to come off as pretentious in my post in order to avoid idiots like you who try to accost others for pointless things. Stop trying to be a troll because you're just making yourself look like an ignoramus.[/quote]
Its sad that you went out of your way to respond to that post...
i only met maybe 3 people i genuinely enjoyed talking to on this game..
[quote=cilverx4]lol quit your whining nerd. You dont know japanese or japanese culture enough to run around correcting people just from watching anime for 100,000 hours. That just means youre an otaku loser.
OT I dont really talk to people in MS much either. Folks in my guild will try to strike up a conversation every once in a while. I'm not rude to guildies, so I'll entertain, but I dont go out of my way to talk to anyone. I play ms to play ms...not to talk to people. Thats what my friends and acquaintances are for. There is nothing wrong with that. Once you have the ability to run multiple maples (be it through having multiple computers or other handy methods) limits are off, and you can essentially do anything by yourself. There are a few unfortunate exceptions where you NEED other people though[/quote]
Lol are you kidding me? The guy who made the post that I responded to was the one who was trying to incorporate the stuff he saw in his anime into his daily conversation. I'm pretty sure you should be confronting the guy I responded to for clearly being a weeaboo. Also, even if you just read the Wikipedia article that he linked for like 5 minutes, anyone could have seen that what he was saying was blatantly incorrect. I tried my best not to come off as pretentious in my post in order to avoid idiots like you who try to accost others for pointless things. Stop trying to be a troll because you're just making yourself look like an ignoramus.
I'm the same now. I used to always have a full friends list with people i'd love to talk to, but then they all quit. I found myself playing alone, never meeting anyone nice anymore..So I quit.
[quote=heartofachamp]i seriously can't, i feel like a piece of me dies when i try to talk to someone and it ends awkwardly or just talking to people in general. I sweat even though i am behind a computer screen. This does not only apply on maple but rather in real life as well.[/quote]
Wow, you're the exactly same as me, I thought I was the only one.
lol, i have no friends too. 4ever alone.
I agree with you 100%. This game is not what it used to be, now it seems like people are more interested in bashing one another than becoming friends. I missed the old maple days when I could easily make friends. Now, when i try to talk to someone new they ignore me. I have 0 friends too
[quote=heartofachamp]i've literally been playing maplestory single player for the past two years.[/quote]
I've been playing it "single player," more or less, since I first started, and I've always preferred it that way.
It's only because of BasilMarket why Keeth isn't a "faceless nobody" like the rest of my characters, unable to play in the antisocial anonymity that I generally prefer.
Thankfully, I had the forethought to leave the rest of my characters unlisted when I first joined this site so that they wouldn't experience the same fate.
i didn't come back expecting friends from 2007 to be online and active in my buddy list.
[quote=OpiumMaple]Please, don't misuse foreign terms that you're not familiar with. OP would be different from a hikikomori because a hiki doesn't just have any friends, but they don't even go outside at all. They might not even see the face of another human being for months at a time. For example, if they need food, they just order it online and pick it up at their doorstop when nobody's around. I'm not Japanese myself, but it frustrates me when ignorant people see a word and throw it around without really knowing it themselves.[/quote]
lol quit your whining nerd. You dont know japanese or japanese culture enough to run around correcting people just from watching anime for 100,000 hours. That just means youre an otaku loser.
OT I dont really talk to people in MS much either. Folks in my guild will try to strike up a conversation every once in a while. I'm not rude to guildies, so I'll entertain, but I dont go out of my way to talk to anyone. I play ms to play ms...not to talk to people. Thats what my friends and acquaintances are for. There is nothing wrong with that. Once you have the ability to run multiple maples (be it through having multiple computers or other handy methods) limits are off, and you can essentially do anything by yourself. There are a few unfortunate exceptions where you NEED other people though
Mister, I know how you feel. In fact, I'm going through the same thing right now. Although I know what I should do, I've been crippling myself by staying away from people who are willing to help me, the people willing to help me most, and such. I act like a total jerk to every person no matter how nice and I can't help but feel a burning jealousy for those who are happy enough to spread compliments and happiness to others. In fact, I lost my best friend of over 10 years today because of this isolation that I put myself in.
My childhood friend is in the same psychology class as me. Although we did a lot back then, I cringe and struggle to say a word to him likely because we see each other when surrounded by many others. I struggle to get out the appropriate words because I have a problem with correcting myself each and every time, also because of my insecurity and inner critic. That goes for typing posts like this as well.
Yo, add me bruh. Also, you could try to come to my guild/alliance. Everybody knows everybody and its easy to come into the fold, not to mention we have a website, in which you can discuss other aspects of your life.
Same for me. I'm in a guild full of people I don't know, and I don't even remember adding anyone to my BL. All of my RL friends are in Windia
Well, it doesn't really matter. It's a game.
[quote=dubmason]I know how you feel, Ive had two close friends who randomly got off forever [/quote]
Das scurry.
OT: while you're in the FM greet people who come into your shop :o made a few friends that way
I know how you feel, Ive had two close friends who randomly got off forever
That was a very emotional story.
Whats so hard about talking to someone in a game that you both enjoy? you can just talk about the economy in maple to start a conversation and build up from there like favorite thing about the recent updates, fav class, best BMG's. Its easy to make friends in game.
Its different in real life since your actually face to face with somebody or even groups of people at times. The thing that helps me overcome shyness is not caring what people think about you and be yourself. If they think you are a d-bag then so be it! Most likely that person wont talk to you after the first time. No ones perfect, everyone has flaws and people will talk about your flaws behind your back. If you learn not to care then it wont affect you. If the new person you met comes back and talks to you again you'll know that person likes you for who you are. Thats how you make good friends.
Tldr; be yourself.
I feel you, and unfortunately I'm the same in real life.
Maybe I'm experiencing the Hikikomori phenomenom.
It might be a stretch or on the money, but perhaps the shyness/reluctantcy comes from the change of the community. Think about it: From roughly 5 years ago to now, the amount of friendly, outgoing folks and open armed communities dropped like flies over the time. Kinder folks are replaced by rude, obnoxious people while previously open communities began closing up and only forming a clique of their own members in order to weed out said obnoxious folks.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not implying that you might be afraid of people (unless this is the case). What I am saying is that perhaps you've become a little more reluctant to get to know people since the fact that the majority of people nowadays are obnoxious and try to protect yourself frm them. At the same time, you might hesitate from the closed communities as well since you might think they would assume you to be one of those obnoxious people and thus avoid you and appearing to seem so infused within their community/appear stuck up.
That, or you might be a bit like me, whose not only cycled through loads of friends over the years (since 2005 until now), but in and out of guilds constantly that it might be attributing to not wanting to socialize with others. (Thought in my case, it's more like I just "go with the flow" instead of refusing to socialize to new people. So I just continue to jump in and out of guilds, making new friends and losing them. It's nice to see fresh, new faces every time)
This game is better singleplayer~
[quote=Loveday]are you a Hikikomori http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori ?[/quote]
Please, don't misuse foreign terms that you're not familiar with. OP would be different from a hikikomori because a hiki doesn't just have any friends, but they don't even go outside at all. They might not even see the face of another human being for months at a time. For example, if they need food, they just order it online and pick it up at their doorstop when nobody's around. I'm not Japanese myself, but it frustrates me when ignorant people see a word and throw it around without really knowing it themselves.
If your shy online on a pixel game like maple, I think you need to honestly go see someone. If everything your saying is true then you need to work on your social skills and build up your confidence. I'm not kidding. If your trolling it's the best troll I've ever seen but Im serious.
[quote=cyaniede]You got to 200 in two years?
I haven't gotten to 200 in 5 years.[/quote]
no ive been playing maybe 4-5 years, i just havent used my bl or had done anything notable with people within the last two.
when i was young i wasn't this shy, don't know what happened.
Nobody starts to play an MMORPG without training wheels.
You got to 200 in two years?
I haven't gotten to 200 in 5 years.
[quote=HahaSure]man no offense but this is pretty funny[/quote]
no offense taken, ive been laughed at many times before.
[quote=IcyBlue220]LOL just join a better guild and get to actually know them. I knew like a ton of people in my alliance and they were all nice and would help each other out XD[/quote]
ive learned to dislike many of the guilds in my server, there is too much drama, scamming and damage freaks. also this is just my own pet peeve, but i dislike hyperactive people and henehoes in general.
@kaobolin
im in cmyk alliance
Whatever you do, please stay away from Chaos, it's just a wasteland
LOL just join a better guild and get to actually know them. I knew like a ton of people in my alliance and they were all nice and would help each other out XD
[quote=halloffame52]same here bro i got a cool guild thats talkative but i really dont have friends like that... back when training was harder and damage didnt go past 6 digits i had alot know everyone quit.[/quote]
it really sucks, and especially since im level 200 i feel like everyone by now has their cliques and its too hard to fit in.
[quote=Loveday]You need to face it all, and the fear will go away, just love it, you can't face the fear with hate, as darkness vs darkess, It's about light vs darkness, who will win? love vs fear, how? follow your heart and simply BE. Turn off tv, take down goverment and be the light in a world of darkness, anyways you're eternal after this life. Never put limits on you.[/quote]
i seriously can't, i feel like a piece of me dies when i try to talk to someone and it ends awkwardly or just talking to people in general. I sweat even though i am behind a computer screen. This does not only apply on maple but rather in real life as well.
[quote=Fangclub]@heartofachamp : i am in CMYK, whenever u are online ill try to meet you, we could do something, I usually just hang out with my alliance.....[/quote]
after going on my little rant here, i would be too embarrassed to actually meet you with my main account.
[quote=TrueDragons]Trust me, you're better off being a recluse.[/quote]
trust me when you have been a recluse as long as i have, you crave human interaction, i just cant bring myself to achieve it
@loveday
of course im the only one who can change it, its how i go about changing it. i just cant overwhelm my shyness, my shyness seriously makes me feel autistic.
[quote=Eikahe]It's okay - I've been playing for a month with one other person and I haven't gone out of my way to talk to anyone else, really.[/quote]
i havent done anything with a person since last year summer, and that was a random pq.
im level 200 barely peaking at 30k. I have nothing really to solo, as i have no one to boss with.
the only reason im staying in this guild is im hoping my one friend comes online.
@folktales
im pretty sure this platonic "friendship" wouldnt last long. we would buddy each other talk for the day and for the rest of eternity we wouldnt talk to each other.
either way im contemplating on quitting and just cutting my loses, that loss being my childhood
[quote=Loveday]are you a Hikikomori http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori ?[/quote]
i would be hikikomori on steroids.
after this thread is over im leaving this account as i would be too embarrassed to post on it anymore.
im not expecting to get anything meaningful out of this thread, rather to let out my emotions, anonymously as i have no one to share it with elsewhere.
when people do approach me i act as a recluse, but not because im not interested rather its my crippling shyness.
XD ouch, I've known some good people over the years, man that's just sad. It's harder now to making meaningful friendships ><, back then it was easier.
Wow... that was deep
Come to GAZED!
It's a [b]MMO[/b] RPG for a reason...
hahaha funniest post i've read in a while.