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Another one of these threads Sorta

Yes. Another guy with female trouble in need of advice on a gaming forum from complete and total strangers.

...Sorta. It's not the usual case of "I like a gurl, how do i make her liek meh tuu?".

No. I just need a bit of feminine decoding, if you will

Girl 1: She's a year younger than me, but we're two grade levels apart (I'm a Junior, she's a Freshman). We've known each other for about 2 months now, just casual friendly-like chitchat. But I notice that whenever she's near me, she instantly perks up and starts being really in-depth-y, like trying to get details out of my past (previous girlfriends, what I did with them, what I do in my free time, how my childhood was, etc).

Girl 2: She's the same age and in same position as Girl 1. Only this time, she's not as friendly or giggly as normal, but a crapload more open with me. She's not shy about anything, and she trusts me. I'm her confidant for many of her secrets, and we've known each other for about 6 months now. I've helped her through some relationship issues, and she's helped me through some of mine. Again, just casual friendly-like chitchat.

Girl 3: We've only just met. She's the same grade level as me, and only about a week older than me (unlike the other two, who're a year younger). But we were talking, and she brought up a ton of personal stuff and kinda cuddled close to me. She said she had a boyfriend, but she had moved out of her old school district and thus had to leave him behind. They still see each other, but that's all she's told me.

The questions I have for girls...

1: Is she just getting flirty and giggly around me because I'm quite literally one of the THREE people that actually talk to her about stuff that isn't drugs, sex, homework, grades, or boys, or is she trying to drop some hints on something...?

2: Only real question I have here is.. Am I friendzoned if we were to ever possibly consider a relationship?

3: Not sure what to ask here. But what I'd like to say, is would it be wrong if she were to offer cheating with her boyfriend on me (it's the only real outcome I can see if the way our relations are going now stay the same), and I said yes?

~Riley (Yes. My name's Riley. And I'm a dude. Shut up. :< )

January 16, 2013

6 Comments • Newest first

partyanimal

all totally utterly meaningless

Reply January 16, 2013
Kiwiigreen

For girl 1, I act somewhat the same like that when I'm comfortable with anyone, but I don't know about her.

Girl 2: Most likely has mutual feelings, but they could potentially develop later on, who knows.

Girl 3: Uh, no. She can just break off with him, I don't really see why she needs to cheat instead.

Reply January 16, 2013 - edited
Zunoku

[quote=pinoymystic]1: Probably dropping hints. If a girl acts quirky around a guy, she most likely has a crush on him.
2: Seems like it. I think she only keeps you as a friend if she goes on like that. Most of my close guy friends are people I'm not really shy to talk to. If I liked a guy, I would be super shy at first or really quirky.
3: don't ever mess with a relationship. Ever. Just lay off from her.[/quote]

1) Thanks for input (Lookit the answers I gave previous posters. I don't wanna copypasta. :&lt

2) See previous answer.

3) Believe me, I am NOT one to screw up relationships. I've been cheated on and lied to countless times. I know it hurts like hell, and I do not wish that upon any of my fellow kindred (aka her boyfriend). All I'm really saying is, if she needs someone, should I be there for her?

[quote=Sparxxors847]Girl 1:...seriously has a love interest in you.
Girl 2: you're straight up friendzoned, my friend. See what I did there?
Girl 3: she's trying to inch away from her feelings towards her (old) boyfriend and feel that way for you. Watch out with this one.[/quote]

1) Good to hear. I'll see where I can take it if you guys all agree with this

2) Yep xD Anyway, no biggie. I doubt we'd ever really take it seriously anyway. She's a good friend, too.

3) I'm always cautious around these types of things. Read what I told to pinoymystic.

[quote=BlackOpsII]Define cuddle, pretty much any physical touching besides hugging or playing paddy cake is considered flirting?[/quote]

Hugging, hooking her arm in mine while I walk her to class, me picking her up just so she can gloat to her friends "look what this generous man here does for mehh! Haha, suckers!", etc.

[quote=Assumptions]Girl 1: go brah

Girl 2: 6 months luls, probably friendzoned

Girl 3: hit & quit[/quote]

1) So far everyone's up for this. Might give it a shot in a few days when the time's right.

2) See previous answers I've given *__*

3) Er.... No. Again, I've been cheated on. I'm just asking if I should be there for her if she needs me for something like that, or something as simple as a hug (or something more... Intimate). I'd still be seriousl cautious, though, seeing as I don't want to meddle in something that isn't my business.

Reply January 16, 2013 - edited
pinoymystic

1: Probably dropping hints. If a girl acts quirky around a guy, she most likely has a crush on him.
2: Seems like it. I think she only keeps you as a friend if she goes on like that. Most of my close guy friends are people I'm not really shy to talk to. If I liked a guy, I would be super shy at first or really quirky.
3: don't ever mess with a relationship. Ever. Just lay off from her.

Reply January 16, 2013 - edited
Zunoku

[quote=BlackOpsII]Girl 1: Might like you, need more details

Girl 2: I was thinking Friendzoned before you asked if you were friendzoned.

Girl 3: well if you cuddle, doesn't that show she has a physical attraction towards you? Also if she's doing this while she has a boyfriend, i wouldn't trust her to be my girlfriend, she sounds like she's a whore[/quote]

1) EDIT: Example of what I said: One day I saw her walking out of her first period class, a grimace on her face and rolling her eyes at one of her best female companions. Said female companion looked as if she was trying to cheer her up. Girl 1 just shrugged and tried to avoid talking.
Then she makes eye contact with me, smiles, brightens a bit, and comes up to ask me how I'm doing, if we should grab lunch at Cruiser's (burger joint near our school. Best shakes ever <3), etc. She giggles as I tell her a the story of my normal morning and how my cat likes to use my face as a bed at 4:00am when he comes back inside, hugs me, then we go off to our separate classes.

2) Thought as much. Eh, we're still good friends. :> Was just asking this to see if it would work out if either of us wanted to be anything more.

3) No. Nothing of the sort. Think shy and kind of in need of attention. When we first talked she cuddled not as if she was attracted, but scared or something. I could just be being stupid and took her actions as something completely far from the actuality of them.

[quote=Icephoenix21]High school relationships are laughable.[/quote]

Indeed they are, but I'd venture to say that I take them a bit better and a little more seriously than most. I for one respect women, rather than use them as sexual objects and just hook up with 'em for a one-night stand and gloat about it the following day to the guys in the locker room.

But yes. They can be ludicrously silly and meaningless.

Reply January 16, 2013 - edited
Icephoenix21

High school relationships are laughable.

Reply January 16, 2013 - edited