Well I feel like crap now
So there's this girl that I went to elementary school with and for the longest time I had a giant crush on her, (I'm in gr 11 now) and last year I worked up the courage to ask her out and she said no, and it really wasn't that bad, I had really low self confidence to the fact that I asked was a real accomplishment to me. So later on (maybe a month later) I asked her if she wanted to hang out and she said no and I said that I didn't mean it like that and she told me that she knew. I was kinda confused by that and wasn't really sure what to make of it so I just left it.
Fast forward to a couple days ago, I just realized that I spend to much time inside and I have a lack of friends that are girls, so I decided to ask her if she "wants to hang out" and she says, "I already told you no twice. I don't wanna be mean but I'm really not interested." and so I'm said "Ok I'd just like to make sure we have something clear, I'm not trying to ask you out on a date, I did that once and you said no, and until you say otherwise I'm going to assume that the answer is always no.
I recently realized that 1. I need to get out more and 2. I need more friends that are girls and for the same reason I decided to ask you out I'm asking you to be my friend, because you always seemed really nice." and so then she responded "I know that I'm just not interested in either"
And that just really hit me, I complete crap now.
I don't really know what my goal is by posting this, but I need to vent.
EDIT: I'm not looking for advice or people that are going to say mean things about her, I just want to vent.
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[quote=OneAndOnly]You make it seem like girls have to give every guy a chance to be friends with them[/quote]
Yeah, I guess I shouldn't have said being a friend. I think she should have got to know him at least before saying no.
just slap a ho
@OneAndOnly I agree but I just wasn't really prepared to hear that.
Hey man, if she doesn't even give you a chance, AT BEING A FRIEND, then she isn't worth your time.
@RiverStar Unfortunately I was kind of a tard and decided to go to an all boys school, so meeting new friends that are girls isn't quite as easy for me.
If you want to make new girl friends then organise a group outing with some guys and girls. Makes it feel less weird
@OneAndOnly: I never said I don't have many friends, I said I didn't (past tense) have many friends, high school was a new beginning for me, I have a ton of friends now and I'm a completely different person. Also just because I misjudged one girl doesn't mean that I'm not a good judge of character, I'm just not perfect.
@IliekAranDx Sorry that part wasn't meant for you, I meant that towards all the people saying F her and she's a horrible person.
@FrozenFlameO I agree, but it's been 4 or 5 months since the last time I even talked to her, so I figured it was long enough that it would be fine.
[quote=SuberKieran]@IliekAranDx: I know I can't become friends with every person, and there's some people that right off the bat I know that I dislike, and I avoid those people. I'm a pretty good judge of character and I just figured that we could be friends and and being told that she doesn't want to is really hard for me, because that's kind of a first.
I'm not looking for people that are going to say rude things about her either because the things you're saying are worse than what she did, I don't think she intended to make me feel bad. I'm not looking for advice either I just wanted to say this because talking about things makes me feel better.[/quote]
Uhh how are the things I'm saying worse than what she did? All I did was simply pointing out that she does not seem all that nice to me.
I've personally come across girls like the one you described, just because they don't make fun of you like other people does(As being said in your thread), does not mean she's taking an interest in you. Maybe she's just not the type of person that bully others.
Everyone is calling the girl out, but it's really her choice to say no.... She didn't do anything wrong, and there's no reason to insult her.
OT: Most girls wouldn't want to be friends with the guy that just decided to ask them out.. they would think he's trying to make a move.
@IliekAranDx: I know I can't become friends with every person, and there's some people that right off the bat I know that I dislike, and I avoid those people. I'm a pretty good judge of character and I just figured that we could be friends and and being told that she doesn't want to is really hard for me, because that's kind of a first.
I'm not looking for people that are going to say rude things about her either because the things you're saying are worse than what she did, I don't think she intended to make me feel bad. I'm not looking for advice either I just wanted to say this because talking about things makes me feel better.
no offense but thats no way to become friends with someone. it starts with just one conversation and grows from there. if someone out of the blue just came up to me and said "wanna be friends" id say no too. its just kind of creepy
[quote=SuberKieran]Honestly it's not so much that I still want her, it's more that it just really, really hurt me when she said that she didn't even want to be my friend.
Moving on isn't really the problem it's just hearing that got to me, I'm a really friendly person and I get along with just about everyone now so this is just really painful for me.[/quote]
You can't become friends with every person you come across in your life you know.
She may have felt awkward after you confessed to her, thus you can't become friends with her.
You've got to understand that people change over time. That girl who used to be all nice to you? She's now wearing revealing clothes and hanging around jocks and druggies. You've just got to be more confident. Somewhere there is a group that will treat you like family. Just because some girl rejects you doesn't mean you're crap. It means it's her lost opportunity, not yours. Don't feel let down Try to have fun.
[quote=misoh0rny]Yes you are complete crap
Leave her alone ya freak[/quote]
You must be her o.o
Honestly it's not so much that I still want her, it's more that it just really, really hurt me when she said that she didn't even want to be my friend.
Moving on isn't really the problem it's just hearing that got to me, I'm a really friendly person and I get along with just about everyone now so this is just really painful for me.
tell her your ELO
oh crap, didn't they change that now? Somethin' bout leagues...
Lol did she really just replied "Yeah I know" to your "You always seemed really nice"?
Just move on, if she's not interested then don't bother her. She doesn't seem all that nice to me.
i've known this girl since elementary school too. still the same old b1tch
@drakanz: She hasn't seen me in a long time, as I said, we went to elementary school together, but we go to different high schools, I've seen her probably about twice since elementary school and both were in grade 9. I've gotten a lot taller, more mature, my voice changed dramatically and I'm in better shape.
@pinoymystic I know, but I really thought that she was a nice person and I just really took a hit to my ego hearing that she didn't even want to be my friend.
Well, ts, you should try to do something then. If you don't want to feel like crap, then try to make friends with people. Just try to talk to someone and if they don't wanna listen, go to the next person and so forth.
You just keep searching by talking to people and you will eventually find friends.
You need to initiate it because no one else will.
@SuberKieran: This kinda reminds of that one Denko story that @ZombieOverlord posted
@Zulucker We weren't exactly friends, I was one of those kids that didn't have many friends and got picked on by most people. But she never picked on me and she always seemed really nice. There was a point where I think she might even have had a crush on me, but even if that did happen I never would have had the confidence to act on it.
Were you guys friends or was she just in your classes?
I know there's multiple sides to every story, but it seems like she's not worth your time and effort.
or maybe you just smell
shes not worth being friends with to begin with.