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possible to turn platonic into sexual relationship? my girlfriend and I were discussing about our relationship and she thought it was platonic, whereas I thought because we were dating, it would be more passionate. nevertheless, I respect her decision and said sure. but still, we've gotten physical (hug, hold hands, her leaning on my shoulder, make-out, cuddle, but no s3x) and she does get really touchy when we're alone...so i'm confused on her definition of platonic. still, is it possible for platonic to turn into sexual as the relationship goes on?

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help in assuring girlfriend everything will be ok up until today, my girlfriend seemed find. she texted me how I was her fave and how she loved my company and how much better I am than her previous boyfriends. then all of a sudden today, she got really distant and said she was thinking about a lot of stuff. so I asked if everything was ok and she told me that she thinks she is paranoid about our relationship because everything was going so well and her previous relationship left her really hurt so she's more detached with her emotions in public, but when we're alone she's much more open. we're currently in different cities rn (summer break is hard) but how can i assure her everything will be ok? she told me everything's still scary and than

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line between being too clingy and checking up on gf Obviously I don't want to appear clingy/needy, but at the same time, I should be checking up on my gf in case a lot is going on with her life. In my opinion, clingy/neediness is sending at least 3 messages within an hour when she hasn't responded, while checking up is sending a text 2 or 3 hours after she hasn't responded, then texting her later tonight if she still hasn't responded. But what do you guys think the line is? And what would you consider clingy and giving her space and checking up on her?

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How bad did i screw up? Does she hate me? How can I restore? so three days, i arrived and visited my girlfriend. however, i completely screwed up and just didn't have much contact with her. i didn't talk to her much, i didn't give her a hug, not much. but at the same time, she didn't seem too excited in seeing me so i assumed she wanted to be left alone (massive mistake). then, she texted me later that she'll talk to me later, which i said ok to (another test cause she expected me to check up on her) and then later texted me how she would have talked to me had i talked to her and that she skipped class and study group just to see me and is trying incredibly hard for this to work out because she's put so much time and effort into it, even th

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surprise visit gf or let her know? just some background info: -we started dating about 2 months ago. we live about two hours apart from each other. -she's pretty independent and strong and bad at expressing emotions, but she still told me she cared a lot about me and i was her fave (next to her best friend) and best boyfriend(good thing?) -she generally doesn't like surprises, but does seem happy when her high school friends visit her -was tearing up the day i had to leave campus and has had some powerful emotions regarding longing for me on some nights now i'm planning on visiting her tuesday and waiting outside for her after her bio exam with a piece of paper with her name on it (like how chauffeurs wait for ppl outside airport terminal?)

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gf and parents arguing, what to say to cheer her up my girlfriend and I are back home (well, in her case, she lives in the town so...and I'm two and a half hours away) from college and today, she got into an argument with her mom. If i can recall correctly, this isn't the first recently, as I remember she had an argument with her about a month ago after she finished tutoring one of her students when her mom picked her up. she told me that she dreads coming home today after work and that her mom is just always mad at her. I told her if she wanted to talk about it and she responded with idk, so i told her that in the event that she does want to talk about it, ill be here for her. then she switched topics to work and now she responded about no

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Strength training for a distance runner? Hey y'all. So after about a 2 year hiatus from running, I think it's time to get back into it. The thing is that because I'm not in high school anymore, I don't have to exclusively focus my exercising on running and so with that being said, I want to venture in some strength training to build some lean muscle. The thing is, I haven't the slightest clue on how to lift weights or even what exercises to perform or anything related to weights...I only know how to run and do core exercises (pushups, planks, etc). Anyone with weight lifting experience able to give me tips as to how I can start strength training? I don't want to get big, just have more muscle and muscle definition. tl;dr: I'm a runner. I wa

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really scared for gf what should i do? so my girlfriend is out with her friends tonight and from her text messages, it looks like she's sobered up. but when she first started texting, she was completely gone, saying she had 12 shots (she usually stops at 7). she's with her elementary school friend (lets call him bob) and they're at bob's friend's place. she was constantly responding to my messages until 12:30, where she didn't respond until like 30 min ago, saying she took a nap and was feeling tired. from the sound of her messages, it sounds like she's sobered up, but not she hasn't been responding and idk Im actually Really worried about her and the fact that something may have happened to her (drugged, harassed, etc). am i overreacting o

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Tips on keeping a long ? distance relationship? college is over and I'm going back home in a couple of days while she's lives here..well, not really long distance; we're live about 90 min away from each other, so it won't be THAT bad, but its def not an easy task to visit her everyday. What i plan on doing is trying to visit her, and ONLY her, about twice a month, not including special surprise visits. Also plan on doing all sorts of communication with her, ranging from standard text and snapchats to old fashioned hand written letters. But, any other tips on how to maintain a long distance relationship?

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girlfriend stressed should i be scared? so my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a month now and at first, she was really happy and peppy until last friday, where she told me she felt like she was getting too attached to me. then the next night she said she wanted to talk, but said nvm. then the very next morning she seemed ok. not as down as the previous nights, but still i could notice she wasn't her usual self. Then the next few days were good; she seemed to be back to her usual self (putting head on my shoulder, holding hands, getting close to my face), until recently, where i felt like she started to become more distant again. This week and next week are exam weeks for both of us, so i can imagine her being under a ton of stre

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Does it seem like she wants to break up? I ve been dating my girlfriend for about 3 weeks now. we're really happy with each other and constantly enjoy each others presence. She told me that she still liked me this morning and not to worry, but literally like 3 hours ago she asked if we could "Talk" and then said nvm lets not. I was really confused and this has been nagging me ever since because most relationships i ve been in have ended because she wanted to "talk". it was really abrupt too, like one min she was happy to be with me and then the next her messages and tone seemed to be a bit more distant. I do recall her saying that shes afraid she s getting "too attached" to me at this point last night, which ma

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i need girl help this girl and i have been friends for about half a year now. about 2 weeks ago, she messaged me, asking if i liked her or not. she asked because her friends thought i did. tbh, i really never thought of it until she brought it up, so i really didn't have a response. then, just a moment ago, she messaged me, asking me the same question and this time saying she brought it up cause she thought id say no and it'd make things "Easy" and whether or not she's "wasting her time". she also said shed rather have things not be ambiguous and such, so I'm assuming she might have some feelings, but at the same time, she really hasn't shown much signs besides holding my hand once coming back from a party.

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girls and guys, help settle a dispute Lately, I've been crushing on these 2 guys. My friend says to go for Guy B cause she thinks he's cuter, but I personally find Guy A to be cuter. So then we brought the question to our friend group and their responses are evenly split as well...Personality wise, they're both really similar (party animals, cuter nerdy engineers, loyal, honest, etc). The real major difference is that Guy A doesn't have as much confidence as Guy B A: B:

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Girls -and guys- i need yalll inputs A girl i met around 4-5 months ago recently messaged me asking if I liked her, saying that she's asking cause her friends have been implying it. Overall, I'd describe our relationship as playful; we make fun and tease each other constantly, always laughing and such, but always know that we're joking and can be serious when the situation calls for it. I do like her a little, but there's another guy that's in our friend group who she and I have the exact same relationship with so I really can't tell if she likes me back or if she asked him the same question too. One part of me says to go for it, but another doesn't want to cause awkwardness and making the other friend feel like he's third wheeling. your gu

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Is 12x19 ft dorm room really that big? So I'm moving to my dorm in 3 days and I was just wondering if a 12x19 ft room is considered "big"? Apparently, its the biggest sizes for a double, but Im just afraid my roommate and I won't be able to fit everything in it. Between the 2 of us, we're bringing: a 32 in. TV, Microwave (duhh), mini fridge (...of course), and a futon. I'm also planning on bringing a garment and shoe rack. The only concerns I have are how we should organize our room and if the garment rack will even fit. Would just saving the beds on the ground provide too little room? Would lofting really provide us with that much more room? Also, should we buy a TV stand? I was thinking of just placing the TV on one of our dress

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