What exactly are you calling blackmail? Blackmail would be threatening to reveal damaging or embarrassing information in order to coerce money or other goods or forms of cooperation out of the victim. Ie "Son, you better do this, or I'll spread this picture of you around town." That seems like a really unreasonable thing for a parent to resort to and I would definitely consider that bad parenting.
On the other hand, using a sort of cause and effect punishment to me is good parenting. You do something wrong, you lose a privilege, like allowance, phone, internet, etc., as a payment for the wrong doing. It's the same kind of reinforcement you'd endure in the real world. You get caught speeding, you pay money. You commit a crime, you get jail time. Basically saying, that if you want to behave that way, fine, but it's going to cost you this much. It may be annoying sure, but it's designed to motivate you to [i]not[/i] do whatever it was you did. And there's nothing wrong with that kind of parenting, when done the right way anyway.
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Of course. Kids need to appreciate their parents more nowadays.
What exactly are you calling blackmail? Blackmail would be threatening to reveal damaging or embarrassing information in order to coerce money or other goods or forms of cooperation out of the victim. Ie "Son, you better do this, or I'll spread this picture of you around town." That seems like a really unreasonable thing for a parent to resort to and I would definitely consider that bad parenting.
On the other hand, using a sort of cause and effect punishment to me is good parenting. You do something wrong, you lose a privilege, like allowance, phone, internet, etc., as a payment for the wrong doing. It's the same kind of reinforcement you'd endure in the real world. You get caught speeding, you pay money. You commit a crime, you get jail time. Basically saying, that if you want to behave that way, fine, but it's going to cost you this much. It may be annoying sure, but it's designed to motivate you to [i]not[/i] do whatever it was you did. And there's nothing wrong with that kind of parenting, when done the right way anyway.
no way black mailing is good parenting