thanks anthorix - im not getting married to xtripled
i got into a "fight" with my bf due to this thread: http://www.basilmarket.com/forum/2837056/45885958/1/Marriage_Meow.html
he agreed with you and asked, "if we loved each other, why aren't we married." i got freaked out and broke up with him. thank u
August 16, 2014
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@Rtyu:
Troll or not that's horrible to say.. Then again its Basil
@Rtyu:
It honestly doesn't really matter. I wasn't looking for advice. Was just venting to basil
@Rtyu:
You might not understand. Some girls become clingy and let guys ruin their aspirations. Shes letting some guy get in the way of establishing her future and is messing up in school because she is too distracted (by mess up I mean D's). The guy is an eff up and is a nice kid but not someone that could even support himself to the point where he can live on his own (let alone support her given she messes up with school and drops out over it). Realistically it's just a now type of situation but the problem is that she's being all about the now and not focusing on the future which can cost her her future..
She's not looking to marry the kid.
@AugustRain:
I'm happy for her too but at the same time worried because she's letting someone distract her from doing well. I agree it's all about balance. It's unfortunate to see her mess up over some guy. She's essentially taking out loans too so she would be going into debt and be in a rough financial situation if school doesn't work out.
Ideally, I'd rather see her grow up a bit and focus on herself. The kid she's with is nice and all but would not be able to financially live on his own or support a family (given I think that she wouldn't be irrational enough to marry so young).
[quote=betaboi101]@AugustRain:
Not so much marriage. She's still young so hopefully that won't be an issue. If anything though both her and her boyfriend are extremely clingy (it's her first serious relationship and her boyfriends brothers and sisters that are a few years older than him are all married or engaged..). We worry that since he's constantly visiting her every other week when shes at school that he will distract her from doing well with school (she's going to be a physician's assistant as she messed up grade wise because she was distracted with her boyfriend the first two semesters and had to give up her "dream" of being a doctor..).
Realistically, he's not the brightest crayon in the box. He is older than her (my age) and will not be able to support her in the future (he has a history of going from job to job and struggles.). If she gets distracted again and messes up with school over him, she will ruin her future. If they do end up together, neither of them would be able to financially support each other let alone themselves. And I don't think any parent or concerned brother would appreciate seeing their daughter or sister in that situation.
He does treat her well and is a really nice person especially to her (she's clearly happy) but it would be more ideal for her to establish herself before getting into anything serious. It's awful to see her let someone get in the way of her future.[/quote]
im happy to hear that she's happy and that he's not a scumbag--i assumed he was. you already know where this conversation is heading w. her and your parents, so im just gonna say this. relationships in college aren't inherently problematic, the problem comes in when it distracts and hinders from what you're there for. she shouldnt laser focus on academia, but it's important for her to find a balance. remind her of the opportunities it costed her. good luck. xo
@AugustRain:
Not so much marriage. She's still young so hopefully that won't be an issue. If anything though both her and her boyfriend are extremely clingy (it's her first serious relationship and her boyfriends brothers and sisters that are a few years older than him are all married or engaged..). We worry that since he's constantly visiting her every other week when shes at school that he will distract her from doing well with school (she's going to be a physician's assistant as she messed up grade wise because she was distracted with her boyfriend the first two semesters and had to give up her "dream" of being a doctor..).
Realistically, he's not the brightest crayon in the box. He is older than her (my age) and will not be able to support her in the future (he has a history of going from job to job and struggles.). If she gets distracted again and messes up with school over him, she will ruin her future. If they do end up together, neither of them would be able to financially support each other let alone themselves. And I don't think any parent or concerned brother would appreciate seeing their daughter or sister in that situation.
He does treat her well and is a really nice person especially to her (she's clearly happy) but it would be more ideal for her to establish herself before getting into anything serious. It's awful to see her let someone get in the way of her future.
[quote=betaboi101]@AugustRain:
Nah, it's ok, don't even worry about it .
If anything I've been meaning to talk to my younger sister who is currently a sophomore in college and has been seeing this pizza boy since high school. She doesn't listen to my mom as she is still fixated with being some youth in rebellion and my dad can't deal with anything "stressful". I've been meaning to have a serious talk with her before she went back to school to make sure that she's got her priorities straight. Finally got the perfect words to say though so thanks for the inspirational troll [/quote]
aw, im sorry to hear about that. you ought to have a serious sit down conversation with her and your parents. marriage is a big commitment, especially for someone that young. we grow and change so much through college and early adulthood--it's the prime time where we discover a lot about ourselves. hopefully your sister is in a relationship with that guy for the right reasons. if she's happy and fulfilled, you guys shouldn't intervene. voice out your concerns.
Girl you dont need him. #Jk
If you two do get married you can keep Ms. AugustRain and he'll be Mr. AugustRain.
(edit) WAIT. O_O Who's @AlwaysBeat?
Leave @xtripled alone! What did he ever do to you? You are all just jealous of his superiority!
#Joking
#Hashtag
#ASJGODMGOSRHJBOSRJNBOSDJNROjnrd
now you're all MINE <3
Nooo. </3 @xtripled .. @Augustrain .. </3
[quote=Plenair]@AugustRain:
You're right. I'm so depressed.
Ganna go sepuku </3[/quote]
gonna go watch SAO till your body explodes?
@AugustRain: i'm unworthy? is that why im married and you're not?
@AugustRain:
Nah, it's ok, don't even worry about it .
If anything I've been meaning to talk to my younger sister who is currently a sophomore in college and has been seeing this pizza boy since high school. She doesn't listen to my mom as she is still fixated with being some youth in rebellion and my dad can't deal with anything "stressful". I've been meaning to have a serious talk with her before she went back to school to make sure that she's got her priorities straight. Finally got the perfect words to say though so thanks for the inspirational troll
[quote=fun2killu]the only marriage that matters is mine and Mr.B
#yallgetonmalevelcuzimdaQueenB[/quote]
ya, but ur not a mod, wench. ur unworthy in mr.b's eyes.
[quote=betaboi101]No big deal. The majority of the Basil chat section is trolls.[/quote]
it wasn't my intention to goad you. : ~ (
[quote=Rtyu]lel You fooled me, but I honestly thought you could have been joking about a Maple wedding.[/quote]
there wouldnt be a maple wedding, either, because i rather buy tops from american apparel.
[quote=AugustRain]i hope u realize i was kidding. it was a joke regarding anthorix's comment about marriage is about love, not commitment. i love xtripled, but i have no intention of marrying him, anytime soon.[/quote]
No big deal. The majority of the Basil chat section is trolls.
the only marriage that matters is mine and Mr.B
#yallgetonmalevelcuzimdaQueenB
[quote=Plenair]@AugustRain:
You're right. I'm so depressed.
Ganna go sepuku </3[/quote]
I'm all ears.
[quote=betaboi101]Date someone else that agrees with you? You're young I'm assuming and its good to be with different types of people to get an idea with what type of guy or girl would work best (value wise and to the extent of supporting themselves financially) when you reach the point in life where you want to settle down.
I feel like too many people now a days see one person then rush into something so serious at such a young age (18- early 20's) without realizing that they will change ten fold as they mature as well as change their ideals when reality financially hits.[/quote]
i hope u realize i was kidding. it was a joke regarding anthorix's comment about marriage is about love, not commitment. i love xtripled, but i have no intention of marrying him, anytime soon.
^ even if this thread was a joke thread, it wouldn't matter.
cuz what that guy is saying is great for humanity. 10/10 *liked*
Date someone else that agrees with you? You're young I'm assuming and its good to be with different types of people to get an idea with what type of guy or girl would work best (value wise and to the extent of supporting themselves financially) when you reach the point in life where you want to settle down.
I feel like too many people now a days see one person then rush into something so serious at such a young age (18- early 20's) without realizing that they will change ten fold as they mature as well as change their ideals when reality financially hits. Some people have to realize that for the meantime something can be fine but as you change and progress to a different stage in life, sometimes you have to leave behind the things that don't change with you.
wow, im indirectly responsible for @Plenair and sepuku AND a relationship break-up. what just happened.
#rekt
[quote=Plenair]What is this.
Is this a joke thread.
I am confuzzled.
What is the point.
Do you want attention.
Why even bother.
This thread is worth a lot of muffins.[/quote]
why do u even bother with life
marriage is a financial thing for me
i don't really believe in it
u should just b happy with ur and thats all that matters
[quote=xtripled]lol good, heard that guy was a tool anyways
for the record, i didn't say that.[/quote]
u bombarded me with screaming that i had to mute u. ur so damn brazen.
@AlwaysBeat: i only love u
@AugustRain: but you just quoted me.
#circlejerk4dayz
#cantwaittogetcalledoutforthis
#hashtag
[quote=xtripled]lol good, heard that guy was a tool anyways[/quote]
if u think posting in my thread would get me to talk to u, it's not working
lol good, heard that guy was a tool anyways
for the record, i didn't say that.