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I'm sure there are people that do, but I think it's becoming more widely accepted. Online dating worked for me!

Do whatever works best for you. =/

Depends what gen you belong, like your parents probs look down upon

[quote=quackoutloud]l guess some people do, but l don't see any problem with it. At our current time, our world is so connected online, online dating and meeting new people is just another medium, it's normal to me.

However, stuff that is just for quick hookups and sex like grindr and l think Tinder, l still look down upon because it tells me you're that shallow to just meet anyone you think looks good or whatever and do a quick bang, like what.[/quote]

As an avid Tinder user with over 500 matches I can assure you that Tinder isn't just for hook-ups. It is true some people use it for that, but most do not, there are a lot of normal people on there just looking to meet new people, have conversations, and/or potentially date.

OT: Something like 1 in 4 marriages in the United States last year originated from having met online. I met my first girlfriend online and I met my last girlfriend on a dating app. My brother met his soon to be wife on PlentyOfFish and they now have a kid together (my niece). So does meeting people online work? Absolutely. But it's important to draw a distinction between using online mediums to meet and facilitate a date, versus carrying out your entire relationship over the web or through text. Both parties should have realistic expectations of actually meeting in person. I've experienced online dating, that's how I went about relationships when I was younger, so I completely understand the people who do and I'm not against it, people have different comfort levels when it comes to relationships. Me personally though, I could never do that again. I think I just matured and grew out of the whole online thing, I need the real thing now.

@yoseriousiy: I'll never use a dating site even if I have to. Come on, there are people who have it way worse than I do in the girl department. Like most of my friends.

It's really narrow-minded to look down on something that has a lot of gray area. Some people use dating sites as flings. Some people use it for meaningful relationships. Some people do this because they're socially awkward. Some people do this because they are just too busy and never had the time to "court" a girl or are too busy pursuing their ambitions to find time. Some people don't care about having a s.o. and when they finally do, they're old and everyone around them is married off.

To generalize, yes. It would definitely have a negative connotation because generally.. most humans need physical affection.

@fradddd
inb4 you have to use dating sites.
Keep us updated on those female 'friends' you want so bad.

@icephoenix21: like I said, I just hope I never have to use dating sites.

i don't look down on it but it does seem really sketchy to me. plenty of people put on different personas and act differently online than in real life, but if it works out that's great..

@fradddd: I typed out some long reply and then basil got mad at me because a string of words made up a derogatory reference to a black man so I cbf'd to properly reply.

I just think it's a bit hypocritical, that's all.

[quote=icephoenix21]You're judging those who date online, though.[/quote]

I'm looking down on the idea of online dating, and I hope I never have to. Yes I still have hope.

idk i'm just wary as hell of catfishers n would not trust a friends online SO without meeting i n person

@fradddd: You're judging those who date online, though.

@icephoenix21: I ended up hand delivering though. And I'm just getting-a-girlfriend-ly awkward.
Don't judge me.

[quote=fradddd]I still do. I really hope I never have to resort to that.[/quote]

But you're the guy who wanted to mail a book to your crush instead of giving it to her in person because you're so socially awkward.

kthen.

Why should it matter what others think about something you do?

Not trying to be condescending or arrogant...but seriously...whenever you're worried about it...just ask yourself why it matters what whomever thinks.
and I'm not implying there's some static answer to that question...bc maybe you're a horrible judge of character and more prone to get abused/used by people than others are...on and on...and the opinions of friends is one of your safe guards for self protection (tho at least have the dignity to select just a few individuals for this that u know u can trust and know -why- u trust them.)
But whenever you're concerned about what others think about you or your playstyle in life...at least determine if that pov is of any relevance to you and your life.

It's always easier to live your own life when you can at least identify the relevance anyone in your social orbit has on you. As long as you know where other people end and you begin...when they decide to get nosy and cross the line you can confidently tell them to go make a Shadower.

Something that has actually helped me a lot in my own life...when I come across an issue where my opinion clashes with the opinions of ppl who I respect and/or have to deal with...rather than being regretful and wishing things were easier...just pursue in your own mind why you feel how you feel. There's a saying that whenever you come across a contradiction (such as your inability to sync with another person's opinion about what you're doing.) - take a step back and check your premises before moving forward. You'll inevitably find that one of them is wrong. That could be you or it could be them. But once you have identified whats right for you - even if it doesn't work out easier for you...its still a lot easier to go forward when you're confident in the truth of your decision itself.

You'll find that an astonishingly high proportion of the time...the people imposing their opinion on you are doing so as a pathetic expression of weakness. Such as this issue you just mentioned - I'm willing to bet that 95% of people with an actual, developed opinion on this subject actually only care about it since it's common to look down on others for it - so its obverse becomes a pathetic tool to boost their own ego. By proclaiming their agreement with the crowds idea and vocally declaiming anyone outside of it - they're betraying the truth about themselves...which is that they lack the self confidence to be their own person. Not saying they're inherently 'bad'...but their opinions are poison and their justification for them have nothing to do with the subject at hand. Noting that trait about people it's even easier to stop caring about the mob's opinion.

after being in two really long ones (2yr ea) i look down on them

not as much as b4

i met my boyfriend on team fortress 2 and all my friends are okay with it
we live 3 hours away from each other and thats pretty cool i guess

The a good chunk of the people I know looks down on them. I don't see anything wrong with it mostly.

[quote=shini]Not really. But one may wonder why are you on the internet looking instead of in real life. Like, they think there's something wrong with you if you can't pick up girls/guys in real life and have to resort to using the internet.[/quote]

All the straight guys get offended if gay guys hit on them.

l guess some people do, but l don't see any problem with it. At our current time, our world is so connected online, online dating and meeting new people is just another medium, it's normal to me.

However, stuff that is just for quick hookups and sex like grindr and l think Tinder, l still look down upon because it tells me you're that shallow to just meet anyone you think looks good or whatever and do a quick bang, like what.

I still do. I really hope I never have to resort to that.

Not really. But one may wonder why are you on the internet looking instead of in real life. Like, they think there's something wrong with you if you can't pick up girls/guys in real life and have to resort to using the internet.