I think I am a bad friend but not really
EDIT: Thanks to all that helped :* I got around to talk to him and reset boundaries. Mods please lock or kill this thread tyty
Hi idk where to start but I know I need some advice. This whole weekend I've been very pissy because of a friend who is very "nice".
Last week I was able to confirm that this friend could store his stuff in my new apartment. I wasn't up there yet but my housemate gave him my key to use for the time being.
I didn't want to rush moving so I came to town to start packing and stuff and I let him know cus he had my key. He texts me if he could stay over "(:". I make a sneaky move which was to use my housemate who was a mom to say no. He said he didn't have anywhere to go so I said he could use my new apartment. His text tone became "sure..." But later it was canceled cus my housemate in the other apartment was going to have parents over and she didn't want a lecture about boys. He then asks me if he can come over for a bit which I was assuming was the key but it was a bag. I thanked him for the bag which was doused in Old Spice (it really is) and asked if he was going to go. He's like nah...I'll chill for a bit. So I kept on packing and came down AND HE IS LAYING DOWN ON THE SOFA MAKING PERSONAL CALLS. disoanbf
Basically it got late and he ended up staying for the night and I was like ok but you have to leave tomorrow yeah? And he agreed.
But the next day we did lunch and I ran around doing more packing. Long story short, he ended up staying the night again even after I reminded him it was time to leave but he stayed for so long that it got late again (what a surprise). He sat in the living room when I told him I was going to be busy for a while cus I was taking care of something for the buppy.
This morning I reminded him that my sister was coming over and I didn't want him around and he wanted a hug and I said no. I told him I was very irritable and he can let himself out and he left.
TL;DR I have a friend who is "nice" but it always seems like there is a motive. I have set boundaries between us before because he got the wrong idea (girls don't usually approach him or something) and it was fine for a while but afterwards he's been pushing the "you're a rly good friend I want to be your best friend" thing. He constantly and openly wonders what I think of him and all I can tell him that he's just a friend. He is also a mumbler and kind of deaf which pisses me off.
Pls yell at me or give me some advice on how to deal. I really hate this sort of clingy-ness. Thank you