General

1. no prenup, if i love someone i'd take that risk
2. forgive, if i really love them and it wasn't intentionally, better not happen 2nd time.

Definately prenup If she really loved me she'd marry me despite that and the second thing I'd forgive if she never talked to the guy again.

[quote=NekoChan]1)I'm a selfish person, I would want to marry that person so I can be with them forever. That's sappy, let me rephrase that. I'm selfish, so I would want to marry that person in order to keep them forever as a pet.

2)I wouldn't forgive them or divorce them, I'd find the guy and break his thing off then paralyze him for life.

But you know, that stuff doesn't even matter to me, because the the first girl I love hates me and the second told me to never look at her recently.

I'm tempted to give up, but I'm stupid and I'm still chasing after the second girl. But after that, even I'm not that retarded, I'll just give up and find a way to die soon.[/quote]

I know that feel, bro. I'm being stupid as well.

@PimpMyTaco: haha, not all asians! some of my mom's married gym friends are really anal about money. one of them doesn't go to the bank without her husband so that there's no "secret expenses" or whatever whereas my dad just leaves my mom to do all the banking alone. another friend of her's purchases her own food with her own money while her husband eats at work. whatever she buys is her's and whatever he buys is his'. maybe these things are normal among other married couples but it's definitely not what i see happening at home

@pimpmytaco lol if my wife isn't gonna work she is definitely not gonna have access to all my money. >.>

1. Get a prenup..no matter what. Besides, you marry a person because you love them and not for how much they make. I agree that some people may think that this affects the trust factor between the relationship, but if your loved one really wants to be with you and not for your money, they will understand. Therefore getting a prenup will not harm your relationship in anyway, unless you find yourself a gold digger from this discussion.

2. A grown married man going to a party and getting wasted/cheating. There's no exception for an adult since they should be in their right minds once they commit to marriage. Besides, a married man shouldn't be going to those types of parties anyways lol o.o End the marriage!

[quote=natalie]1. if i make more than him then so be it. how it works with my parents is that there are no secrets between them, my dad's money is my mom's money and vice versa.

Wow this is also how it works with my parents except that my dad makes all the money and my mom uses it. She's a stay at home mom xD. I'm just saying there's a huge level of trust between them. It's quite common in Asian cultures as I see it.

1. Well their income and trust wouldn't really be a problem for me. I'm not one to keep secrets either. If i was going to marry this person, I would be sure that I'm going to be with them forever and ever, so I trust them. Soooooo I wouldn't sign a prenup.

2. Lmao if they ever did that, they're [b]DONE[/b]. I have zero tolerance for that.

1. if i make more than him then so be it. how it works with my parents is that there are no secrets between them, my dad's money is my mom's money and vice versa. they trust each other with everything from money to staying faithful to each other so there's no way that i'd settle with somebody until i can have that same level of trust with them. i say that as long as he has a job i don't really mind how much he makes. if he's unhappy with it then i'd help him find an alternative

2. my dad drinks wine with his dinner every night and occasionally goes to parties for work. he gets smashed, comes home at 3 in the morning and vomits all around his bathroom. i know what being intoxicated can do but if my dad can get his ass home without doing anything that would end up hurting my mom, don't blame the alcohol

basically it's a deal breaker and i'd end the marriage

@Wanton: what about the husbands that enjoy/don't mind being stay-at-home dads?

@Wanton: I mean I think it is. Although I wouldn't mind if my wife made more than me. Heck I would like that cause then it just means I could spend more money on things i like.

@DragonBandit: Dont you think its a bit embarrassing for the husband to NOT be the breadwinner? Idk apparently it is among men.

@mizuiichan no one does expect virgins. Its something that is decided over time and feelings growing for a person.

1) I don't ever go into a relationship expecting to marry anyone. It places too much rigidity onto the relationship and really kills the spontaneity and flexibility that goes into it. Anyway, by the time I would be settling down, I wouldn't be dating scrubs. Doesn't have to be a homeowner, but golly, zero income is a breaking point. Dating a man who doesn't know how to take care of himself doesn't appeal to me.

2) With a person I'd date normally, it would depend on the other person, context, and whether or not my boyfriend knows the difference between sex and affection. But in this case, if I were dating the guy for a long enough period to actually consider marrying him, that would be immediate grounds for dismissal. That's something I'd expect from a boy, but not from a man that I'd plan on spending my life with.

@dimo so if you decide to get married you will not get a prenup? Even knowing you might be screwed for a crap ton of your salary a year lol. Assuming you are a US citizen.

@wanton how can you expect your husband to be the bread winner lol. Unless you are trophy wife material you can't do that. o.o

I am in a relationship where I make considerably more than that of my partner, she makes around $40k while I make 6 figures, I have never even considered a prenup nor will I. As for the second question I would definitely end it, no questions asked, while teenagers may make such mistakes through trial and error, a drunken romp as an adult has consequences.

1. I'd go for the prenup. Just because I have health insurance doesn't mean I'm planning on getting cancer.

2. Leave her ASAP.

Well, they go together like a horse and carriage. I tell ya, you can't have one without the other.

1. I aint no breadwinner my future husband must make more than me and so Ill just have to wait until they do before getting married
2. I can't properly answer this question since I have no idea what it feels like to be drunk. I dont know if such things like having sex with someone because of intoxication is real or an excuse. But if this was to occur then I would have them cry and beg for my forgiveness

Hmm maybe I used to play a lot way back in the day. I have had a lot of characters. Back when maple was fun.

Lol stay at home wife.

I probably wouldn't go for a prenup. (I had to google it haha...)
I'd try to not let this person know how much money/property I own, that way I'd know if this person truely enjoys my company.
Say we did get married, what she makes wouldn't matter since I'd probably have kids and would prefer her staying at home with em.
I'm only 17 so, I have no clue what I'm saying haha.. Also, I think I know you from loong ago in Khaini xD. I don't play anymore

[quote=SoulBlade]1. I don't intend on getting married, so I must really like the person to actually want marriage. If I love her that much, then I would trust her.
2. I'll get over it[/quote]

is that bcuz you do that secretly as well? #2

[quote=Boss]Lots of trust, zero forgiveness.
I know I'd [i]want[/i] to be certain I could keep everything, but I'm aware of what kind of a guy I am, and my naive ass sucker-for-love self would trust that the relationship will pull through, despite the odds. And despite most women being entitled, manipulative sloots. Fingers crossed, though.

Let's not even talk about cheating. If they showed any indication of being unfaithful, being extremely secretive, etc., I'd confront them. Legit, breaks my heart that men get so caught up in not wanting to be labelled "insecure" or whatever, so their girlfriends go off zucking dink behind their back.[/quote]

You and me are a lot a like. I say I would get the prenup now but when you are in love its completely different. Although still my stuff lmao! Well for this example/discussion there was no signs of being unfaithful before. I don't put up with any signs of that either. Unless I do not care for the girl. Like my last gf that I broke up with 2 months ago. We dated for like 10 months. I am pretty sure she had a side guy. Although it didn't bother me at all because I didn't care much for her.

1. I don't intend on getting married, so I must really like the person to actually want marriage. If I love her that much, then I would trust her.
2. I'll get over it

[quote=WetDuck]Prenup most likely. I'd hope that our relationship would be at the point where we can respect each others' decisions (since y'know, we'd be married)....so that shouldn't even be an issue.

As for the drunken sexcapades, I'd probably end it.
If they're going out without me to get so drunk that they "accidentally" sleep with someone else at that point in their life.. in all honesty that's not the kind of person I'd be interested in to begin with.[/quote]

But shes a WET PSYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

Lots of trust, zero forgiveness.
I know I'd [i]want[/i] to be certain I could keep everything, but I'm aware of what kind of a guy I am, and my naive ass sucker-for-love self would trust that the relationship will pull through, despite the odds. And despite most women being entitled, manipulative sloots. Fingers crossed, though.

Let's not even talk about cheating. If they showed any indication of being unfaithful, being extremely secretive, etc., I'd confront them. Legit, breaks my heart that men get so caught up in not wanting to be labelled "insecure" or whatever, so their girlfriends go off zucking dink behind their back.

@wetduck I wouldn't really be interested in the type of girl like that either. Well at least not in the sense of considering them for marriage cause every girl I have dated has been like that. The party girl that likes to go out etc etc.

Prenup most likely. I'd hope that our relationship would be at the point where we can respect each others' decisions (since y'know, we'd be married)....so that shouldn't even be an issue.

As for the drunken sexcapades, I'd probably end it.
If they're going out without me to get so drunk that they "accidentally" sleep with someone else at that point in their life.. in all honesty that's not the kind of person I'd be interested in to begin with.