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So I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half, and I'm in a bit of a pickle with her right now.
So let's just say I'm the kind of guy that hates being mad, I can't handle it. When something happens and i get mad about it I just get over it and forget about it and just go back to her. I work 5 times a week 8 hours a day from 8pm to 4am so I'm usually sleeping all day and just go back to work. I see her twice a week on my free days always. I'm always good to her, I respect her, I take her out to eat wherever she wants, I buy her gifts etc. But last week was a big red flag for me. It's her little brother's birthday today and she wanted to buy him a gift. I like her little brother so of course I was gonna buy him a gift too. But the thing is she doesn't have an official job like I do, she's mostly on call. So she only had like 15$ so I suggested why don't we buy something together? She said: "no, don't be cheap with my bro" I wasn't being cheap I just wanted to help you. She said: "I didn't ask for help, forget it ill buy double." And like the wuss I am I said fine (censored) it.. on my next free day we'll go out and buy the stuff" she got mad at me cause apparently I had attitude with her..? Wow seriously? Afterwards we stopped talking for a couple hours. Of course I felt bad so I sent a text asking for her "honey?" No reply so I told myself I wasn't gonna talk to her until she would talk to me. I'm gonna be a man about it now I'm always the one looking for her whenever something happens now its her turn. A relationship is 50/50 its not always 1 that looks the other, both have to look for each other right?
So yeah.. its been 5 days already since that day and she hasn't talked to me since, not a word, all she does is post stuff on fb. What does that say? What do you think about this? Should I just talk to her instead and talk about this? Cause apperently she won't be the one to start

Im just ranting here I guess about my most likely ending relationship but yeah thanks for reading and whoever gives me some advice bye guys have a great day

October 2, 2014

9 Comments • Newest first

SodiumOH

This is why you should date a guy.

Reply October 2, 2014
fradddd

This is why texting is stupid.

Reply October 2, 2014
iDrinkOJ

in a relationship you're suppose to be equals.
if one feels they're more important than the other, someone is about to get dumped.

Reply October 2, 2014
Rianael

[quote=HoriStick]I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now and this is just something that happens. Girls (im sorry for saying this) but they get upset or mad over the smallest dumbest things sometimes, as well as guys. It's a relationship and arguments over the smallest things sometimes happen. Just explain to her where you're coming from. There is no right or wrong. I happen to find myself in the same shoes with my girlfriend as well sometimes. Just boils down to how much you like/love her to get through stuff like this. Dunno if this helps at ll but yeah. Gl bud.[/quote]

Your last sentence pretty much sums down the theme of what BoredAF and MilkInABag mentioned. The solution boils down to how much you love/like her to see this through along with what do you want from a relationship and your limits. If you truly look over the relationship(everything including what's she done for you, what she gives to you, how she makes you feel) and if it's one-sided like you said, I would say end it since it's not healthy? Or at least bring it up. Most girls usually don't like to initiate confrontations or things in general(generalization I know) so go to her, say "sorry for whatever I did," only if you mean it and ask her what you actually did wrong and/or your opinion of what happened, how to make it better, etc. Be calm about it I guess(she did mention attitude?), try not to say "you" in any sentence. I hate blame-games.

Secondly, for better or worse, I think you should bring up how you think you're carrying on this relationship if you truly feel that way. When you do bring it up, never say "YOUs", or "YOU did this", etc. The argument just leads to a blaming game. Keep in mind, there's more than one way to "contribute" to a relationship. She could be your best friend, the person you talk to, etc. She could contribute emotionally, it's also about how she makes you feel. With that said, if you still look over the time you've spent together and it's pretty crappy and one-sided end it. Unless you like that... I don't judge.

disclaimer: don't blame me when **** hits the fan lol, i've only been in a few long relationships and most of this comes from Qoura haha.

Reply October 2, 2014
CeroFX

She sounds unreasonable as a person and crappy as a gf. I definitely wouldn't want a to be in a relationship with someone like that and would probably dump her.

Reply October 2, 2014
Wordolio

It'll get better once you dump her. Hang in there.

Reply October 2, 2014
MilkInABag

She has no job, you're apologizing first, and you worrying about this whole situation? Sounds like somewhere along this 1 1/2 year you've lost the thing in your pants and I won't say that what she said was right but if I could step over my partner like that then you'd better believe I'd take advantage of that. You need to be the one making the calls and the one demanding respect; otherwise what if another guy( you said you only see her a couple times a week right?) comes at her, you gonna act like you care when your like a number 2 to her? Sorry bro, if she act like she don't care especially when you the one providing all the support, then don't be the one to crawl back to her and don't be so forgiving so next time she knows to stay where she needs to be/act

Reply October 2, 2014 - edited
HoriStick

I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now and this is just something that happens. Girls (im sorry for saying this) but they get upset or mad over the smallest dumbest things sometimes, as well as guys. It's a relationship and arguments over the smallest things sometimes happen. Just explain to her where you're coming from. There is no right or wrong. I happen to find myself in the same shoes with my girlfriend as well sometimes. Just boils down to how much you like/love her to get through stuff like this. Dunno if this helps at ll but yeah. Gl bud.

Reply October 2, 2014 - edited