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Mademoiselle!, I didn't know you're a T-girl
No wonder you are so kind to help me with make up.
Ooo You're so beautiful

its going to be hard for me to be anywhere near that pretty, I hope I can pass

Would you ever date a crossdresser?

Ps: Please respond to my pm

[quote=Nashi]blargh so I assume you live in America? Do you by any chance know the process of legally changing your name? I think in Germany you can't change it unless your name damages you socially (like a person called "Axel Schweiß" (sounds like armpit sweat in German) could change it since others could make fun of them or bully them etc), from what I've heard it's not like that in US (phew!). I hope I'll be able to though.

Besides you seem really content with yourself and everything, congratulations! ^^[/quote]

it's very easy to change your name. it's just time consuming.
it also entirely depends on the state, so.

[quote=fradddBS]Well now I can make fun of the people because they actually thought a GUY was HOT. LOL.[/quote]

lol a lot of guys find me hot. not so much a laughing manner.

[quote=Aren]I can get along with homoseuxals, but I don't really know if I can with transsexuals. It just seems to me that you never were comfortable being a man, so you switched. Good on you, mademoiselle, but why not just be a gay dude instead of switching genders?[/quote]

[i]because i'm not a gay dude[/i]
i don't get why that's so hard to understand ahahahah
i never switched genders, i just started living the way i felt inside. the only switching involved was to the outside world.

[quote=metaghost4]So you go to the girl's bathroom, but you have male genitalia? Just curious.[/quote]

yep~

[quote=pinksinsftw]This is off-topic, buuut

I have black hair and remembered that you pulled of some really nice light colors. How many times did you have to bleach your hair to do that? Also, how much does it hurt? I hear that my scalp is gunna be fried, but I really want to make a small strip of my hair platinum blonde so that I can make it a light blue color. What's the recommended amount of time to let the hair rest between bleachings?[/quote]

1) bleaching should never hurt
2) a few times? i don't know. you should space out the bleaching periods at least every 2 weeks.

i could go in-depth about this, but this isn't really what this thread is for :c

[quote=blueflammes]Ohhh I have one other question that poped in my mind today. (Dont ask why I was thinking about you today tss)
Can you still use your man voice? I mean, like if a random guy tell you "hey you're beautiful" can you answer like "Thanks sexy boy" but with a man voice? Would be kinda hillarious to see his reaction. Anyway, thanks if you answer me.

Btw, I find the fact that you live so well with that admirable. The fact that you dont hide it is quite courageous.[/quote]

yeah i can. i have a cold at the moment so man voice all over the place~

[quote=angramainyu]Depending on how long OP has been taking hormone replacement therapy, possibly. I have a few transgendered friends, and during the first while of their hormone treatment it's usually fairly obvious.[/quote]

HRT doesn't do anything to your voice in case of male-to-female individuals.

[quote=fradddBS]We're proud of transsexuals now?

....[/quote]

[url=http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mehseg1moO1rnb76oo1_250.gif][/url]

[quote=dyel]While I cannot personally understand someone on a psychological level to ever consider themselves as a female whilst technically born as a male, I can say that it is definitely a subject which is debated. I would personally classify you as a homosexual male. While your gender in society would be arguably female, you are still in its technicality a male who is attracted to males, undergoing genital reconstruction does not change the basis that you are male. However, don't take this as a personal attack, my opinion on your own characteristics or personality isn't a negative one. While I disagree with your mindset, there are many advantages which come out of it. [b]You may be a desirable person among the bisexual or homosexual community[/b] as a good partner and I'm definitely a firm believer that if you ever choose to adopt or have a surrogate in the future, you would be able to provide a child with a good father and mother [by 'gender'] role model. It's your life and whatever the hell you do doesn't impact anyone on this website or myself, so don't take personal attacks to heart. I just love a good debate.[/quote]

not to be too mean or anything in response, but this entire post, especially the bolded portions, are laughable at best.
if you want to consider me a homosexual male that's fine, although incorrect, but i'm not considered a desirable person among the bisexual/homosexual community.
gay men aren't attracted to me for obvious reasons, and a lot of bisexual men aren't either.

a person's appearance is a cosmetic one in that it's all based on drawing a "mate" in, so to speak. that being said, it doesn't really matter as to what genitals i have... if my body looks like a woman's, only men who find women attractive would be interested in me. most people, believe it or not, aren't attracted to genitals. they're attracted to people.

the whole debate as to what makes a man a man or a woman a woman is a sexist, and ignorant one. because all you do is simplify people to their genitals.
you make a woman out to be an object by stating that women are essentially only their breasts and vag.

also i would agree that there are more than two genders, and that i may not necessarily fit into the female or the male, but in our society we only have two. there are various other societies which acknowledge more than two, but we do not live in one of them.

transgender women also aren't stereotypes of a societal gender model. we are not all the perfect homemakers and mothers by default.
just saying.

if you approach everything you've addressed logically there isn't much to debate.

I need a girlfriend, and I'm freshman in college. How do I exactly do that?

[quote=HelloBerry][url=http://i50.tinypic.com/fk8ajs.jpg]so this was me at 16.[/url]
[url=http://i49.tinypic.com/kro08.jpg]this is me now.[/url]

excuse me,in the first picture u had no mole
in the second picture u have a mole[/quote]

there is this crazy thing called 'make up', have you ever heard of it?

This is off-topic, buuut

I have black hair and remembered that you pulled of some really nice light colors. How many times did you have to bleach your hair to do that? Also, how much does it hurt? I hear that my scalp is gunna be fried, but I really want to make a small strip of my hair platinum blonde so that I can make it a light blue color. What's the recommended amount of time to let the hair rest between bleachings?

Totally awesome! Mmm...you look nice as a girl. Not my type, but nice!
I went through the first 6 pages, and no one asked it, and there's too many pages to go through to find the answer, so if you could please:
Where do you pee in public? Male or Female restrooms/bathrooms?

[quote=Aren]@Theblueface8: But why shouldn't she feel right in her body? What's so bad about having a pen0r?[/quote]

Homosexual just means you're attracted to the same gender. Having the mind of a girl doesn't necessarily mean that. It just means that you're into things like makeup and stuff.

Looking at your before picture, i would have never guessed.

[quote=fradddBS]@Mademoiselle: Well now I can make fun of the people because they actually thought a GUY was HOT. LOL.[/quote]
She's not a guy though

@Mademoiselle: blargh so I assume you live in America? Do you by any chance know the process of legally changing your name? I think in Germany you can't change it unless your name damages you socially (like a person called "Axel Schweiß" (sounds like armpit sweat in German) could change it since others could make fun of them or bully them etc), from what I've heard it's not like that in US (phew!). I hope I'll be able to though.

Besides you seem really content with yourself and everything, congratulations! ^^

[quote=fradddBS]See, I'm glad I never voted her as one of the hot ones! LOL.

But all you guys did![/quote]

i don't even know how to respond to this lol
i don't really think my gender status has much to do with my attractiveness

[quote=IKickCats]I have a friend of mine that wants to be a girl. Except his situation is different he's really poor and can barley afford the medication for it to happen any ideas? Also gratz to you for coming forward I'm surprised there aren't many trolls in this thread.[/quote]

state insurance and informed consent

[quote=ChildsPlay]Something I could never wrap my head around when trying to learn about this sort of thing: when talking about transgendered persons, does this extend simply to gender roles? Or is it more concise? Does it only apply to those who are unhappy with their biological sex? If it applies to the former and not just the latter, I don't really get it? It's kind of difficult for me to look beyond biological sex when it comes to these sorts of things I guess. Could you explain it to me a bit better? Hope I didn't offend you.[/quote]

gender roles obviously play a part of it, but they only play into the negatives. the stereotypes fuel the dysphoric thoughts.
like transwomen for example will think they have to be "the homemaker" and might hate themselves for not being able to fulfill that role if they transition at an older age, or some transwomen will hate themselves for not being able to fit into a cute dress or something to a fancy event like they're 'supposed to'

transgender people are unhappy with a facet of their body, or the way they look. being transgender means your sex does not match with your gender identity, not based on a gender role, but based on what's in your head. gender, and gender expression are different.

there are a lot of different factors to it, and it gets sort of confusing depending on who it is you're talking about, but essentially when you wake up in the morning you don't think about your gender. you just know. it's the same for trans people, but the degrees by which they feel their bodies don't fit to what's in their head varies through each person.

[quote=metaghost4]Which bathroom do you go into?[/quote]

i use the women's restroom ^__^

[quote=juliacat]Do any of your family members/friends still call you Damian out of habit?[/quote]

some do at times, yes. it doesn't really bother me all that much. i just correct them. i know it bothers a lot of other trans people though to an extreme.

[quote=iamasuperstar]Bwah this will sound so fanboy of me But you are so awesome and like inspired me to not give a crap about what others say to/about me and effect the way i want to live my life and like not let others kill my creativity. and your youtube is amazeballs and i started screaming when i saw u guest on androgenetics.[/quote]

:> D'AW omg thank you so much
i mean i'm glad that i have a positive effect on you if anything, that's so flattering

[quote=LittleTLK]I think you're cute before and after.

Either way, gender and sex are difficult topics. For the sake of pleasantries and just preference, I refer to transgendered people by their identified gender.

However, I always consider a person's sex determined at conception from their chromosomes and reject the idea of "subjective sexual identity." I believe it's possible to be biologically male, but identify as female (or vice versa), but I simply refuse to entertain the notion that someone can change their [b]sex[/b], which is determined purely biologically, whereas gender, orientation, and sexual behavior is a psychological thing.

This is just my opinion, and I know it'll probably anger some people, but biology is biology. You can't reassign your DNA.

This comes from a homosexual male, btw.[/quote]

no i agree. gender =/= sex, and i know that my sex will always be male. even if you get SRS, it's still the same.
i know that it upsets a lot of other transpeople though so i don't discuss it with them very often.

[quote=Dorks]I've been lurking the past few days so sorry. <:
But I was wondering, going back to the picture of you and your amazing body, did you diet and exercise to get that figure? Or were you always kind of skinny/lost baby fat as you grew up?[/quote]

[url=http://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-snc6/179340_497010266238_6741218_n.jpg]this is such an old picture[/url] but that was my body before HRT.
i did a good amount of cardio, basically. i'm still just as thin for the most part, but i have light curves. i was fatter as a kid, but i kind of became sparing with my eating patterns for most of middle school/high school and i just kept getting thinner and thinner. now my metabolism is fast enough to be fine for the most part, though i still get tummy fat.

[quote=Nashi]Did you officially change your name or just in private? (What's your ID saying?) Do you feel kind of confused with your own identity due to your name change? I've been thinking about changing my name in the future but honestly I'm kind of "scared" about the consequences of it, I wouldn't wanna slip into an identity crisis.[/quote]

i haven't had my name legally changed yet, i suppose just privately? as in everyone i know, as well as anywhere i can give my name without legal paperwork knows me as edie. getting your name changed here is a hassslee. then you have to get your gender mark changed, etcetera

Did you officially change your name or just in private? (What's your ID saying?) Do you feel kind of confused with your own identity due to your name change? I've been thinking about changing my name in the future but honestly I'm kind of "scared" about the consequences of it, I wouldn't wanna slip into an identity crisis.

I've been lurking the past few days so sorry. <:
But I was wondering, going back to the picture of you and your amazing body, did you diet and exercise to get that figure? Or were you always kind of skinny/lost baby fat as you grew up?

I think you're cute before and after.

Either way, gender and sex are difficult topics. For the sake of pleasantries and just preference, I refer to transgendered people by their identified gender.

However, I always consider a person's sex determined at conception from their chromosomes and reject the idea of "subjective sexual identity." I believe it's possible to be biologically male, but identify as female (or vice versa), but I simply refuse to entertain the notion that someone can change their [b]sex[/b], which is determined purely biologically, whereas gender, orientation, and sexual behavior is a psychological thing.

This is just my opinion, and I know it'll probably anger some people, but biology is biology. You can't reassign your DNA.

This comes from a homosexual male, btw.

Do any of your family members/friends still call you Damian out of habit?

Can't even tell you're a dude biologically

Something I could never wrap my head around when trying to learn about this sort of thing: when talking about transgendered persons, does this extend simply to gender roles? Or is it more concise? Does it only apply to those who are unhappy with their biological sex? If it applies to the former and not just the latter, I don't really get it? It's kind of difficult for me to look beyond biological sex when it comes to these sorts of things I guess. Could you explain it to me a bit better? Hope I didn't offend you.

[quote=Mademoiselle]wait wat

lol hormone replacement therapy has given me boobs, hips, a girly ass, etc
i haven't had any procedures but i just look like a super thin girl. with something extra.

ee-dee. it was inspired by edie sedgwick.

well i usually tell them before the date even happens, so they're okay with it. ^_^
90% of guys are very calm about it when i tell them before though.
they'll either be fine with it, or they'll say "i think you're gorgeous but i'm not really into that" and i say okay ahaha.[/quote]

I have a friend of mine that wants to be a girl. Except his situation is different he's really poor and can barley afford the medication for it to happen any ideas? Also gratz to you for coming forward I'm surprised there aren't many trolls in this thread.

[quote=HoneyBunny]Can you please give me a backrub? I hear you guys give great backrubs! [/quote]

wait wat

[quote=gangar32]i meant even after finding out your a guy.
did you have any procedure or you literally just put make up on?[/quote]

lol hormone replacement therapy has given me boobs, hips, a girly ass, etc
i haven't had any procedures but i just look like a super thin girl. with something extra.

[quote=Aervas]How do you pronounce your shortened name[/quote]

ee-dee. it was inspired by edie sedgwick.

[quote=Treno]i dont know if someone asked you this, i didnt see this thread before and im so dam sleepy to go through all pages o.o

Everytime you go out on date with a guy and you tell them youre a transgender, how do they react to that? what are their responses?
Im pretty curious about this topic since in my country this is considered a big taboo and ive known cases of people who were kicked out of their own houses for stuff like this.[/quote]

well i usually tell them before the date even happens, so they're okay with it. ^_^
90% of guys are very calm about it when i tell them before though.
they'll either be fine with it, or they'll say "i think you're gorgeous but i'm not really into that" and i say okay ahaha.

Thanks for sharing Edie, I really appreciate how you approached the poster's questions.

Congrats! I started using Basil around the same time you started your transition, so none of that icky awkward "are you a guy or a girl" nonsense.

[quote=gangar32]i dont really care about your judgment since its your life. i just say, once a guy always a guy.
[b]and i like how people are like "shes not a guy". sure, so i guess you would totally smash him/her[/b][/quote]

lol a lot of guys do want to "smash" me, actually.

[quote=decency1]oh well sorry i was just saying your pic as you as a guy u just looked like a normal guy that's all i was saying you know?f[/quote]

i guess i kind of get it, yeah? but it didn't make me happy at all.

[quote=onigiri123]Thank you for the extensive reply, I didn't know about the particulars and it's good to be able to understand.

Another two question if I may: After the hormone replacement, did you see the world differently? (I know that you had already embraced the 'feminine' side, but did you view things differently as a girl?)

How was the process of adopting 'female etiquette',did you mimic others? (Also, do you sit down to pee?<-Feel free not to answer.) [/quote]

i would say that i didn't really see the world any differently when i started HRT. i was already living as a woman anyways. i think for a lot of transgender people though that can sort of happen because of the psychological and emotional things that occur through being able to transition. i can definitely say that starting HRT was emotional in a positive way.

what made me see the world most differently was when i started to pass as a girl. you get treated a lot differently.

i've always had female mannerisms, as well as etiquette. i don't know why exactly, but i have. i may have mimicked others without realizing it.
also it depends on the circumstance. i use the women's restroom in public places and such, so i do sit ahahahah.

[quote=Braviary]That's good that you seem open and happy about becoming a woman.
It'll take a while not thinking of your name as "Dami[i]a[/i]n" any more.
Anyways, are there medical complications that come sex-change?[/quote]

i mean there are a lot of medical complications that can arise through infection and such, but they very rarely happen. a lot of rest and general recovery time is needed, and a lot of transsexual women who get sex changes get them done in thailand where it's done quite often. so it's a fairly largely tested, and successful surgery which causes less complications generally speaking.

@Mademoiselle:
That's good that you seem open and happy about becoming a woman.
It'll take a while not thinking of your name as "Damion" any more.
Anyways, are there medical complications that come sex-change?

@Billionz: Sexual orientation doesn't depend on your gender and cannot change. Remember the "gay clinics" that were proven to be outlandish in California and were shut down for scamming parents of gay teens?

@Mademoiselle: Thank you for the extensive reply, I didn't know about the particulars and it's good to be able to understand.

Another two question if I may: After the hormone replacement, did you see the world differently? (I know that you had already embraced the 'feminine' side, but did you view things differently as a girl?)

How was the process of adopting 'female etiquette',did you mimic others? (Also, do you sit down to pee?<-Feel free not to answer.)

@quaker: I don't think you'd mind going to Thailand then.

A male doing female things is different from a male being attracted to other males. You might have to elaborate on that one because I'm still confused. Do you like men or not? And what does wanting to look like a woman or in favour of stereotypical female activities has anything to do with it?
I have never questioned my sexuality nor gender. Even if I turned to a woman overnight (...I hope not), I would still be attracted to women.

[quote=Elleee]Why did this make me grin a bit?.__. "silicone up in there."

srs q. So do you shave your legs? And do you shave more often since you were a guy and guys are hairy? Do you also needa shave your arms since guy arms are hairy-ish too?[/quote]

idk it made me laugh a little too tbh. just how it was phrased ahaha.
um well i mean the hormones slow the hair growth, but being mexican/persian i sort of naturally have very thick hair. it's not so much the amount of it as it is the texture, and color. i shave a decent amount i suppose? i shave my face every day, and my whole body at least once a week. though recently i have started using an epilator, which makes quite a big difference.

i do shave my arms, yes. though i know a lot of women with hairy arms. sort of a preference thing.

[quote=Weregarurumon]Do you ever get bullied due to the fact that you are a transgender? (Assuming you are in school)

Do you still have your male genitals?[/quote]

well i am 21 years old, so at this point in my life i don't. i was teased a small amount in my senior year for it when i was wearing makeup, but i went to a cosmetic school after highschool so a boy wearing makeup wasn't really something anyone looked down upon. then after i started wearing women's clothing and stuff they all understood and were all very understanding.

also yes.

[quote=Xgo321]Yay.. I remember when you were a LexiconDoll :')

Anyways.. really nice way to clarify the difference between gender/sex.[/quote]

ohai~
and i would hope so! i'm trying my best here ahaha

Yay.. I remember when you were a LexiconDoll :')

Anyways.. really nice way to clarify the difference between gender/sex.

[quote=chewkup]@Mademoiselle

Did you get a v@ginoplasty? Because if you didn't, I don't consider you a true transgender. If you are going to act and feel like a woman, you need to go all the way. You can't have a hidden weener and try to fool yourself into thinking you are a girl. It doesn't even look like you have boobs in the picture. At least get some silicone up in there.[/quote]

Why did this make me grin a bit?.__. "silicone up in there."

@Mademoiselle: srs q. So do you shave your legs? And do you shave more often since you were a guy and guys are hairy? Do you also needa shave your arms since guy arms are hairy-ish too?

[quote=WhiteChristmas]please answer my question? do you still have your male genital or did you get it cut off?[/quote]

FAQ~*~

[quote=TrueAtheist]On the issue of transgendered people, I honestly don't care what people choose to do with their bodies. As long as it makes you happy and you're not hurting anyone then who are we to judge.

Gender isn't even a real thing it's a socially constructed concept.[/quote]

definitely agreed!

[quote=KrissyRin]Dang it, I forgot "for the lulz" as one of the "reasoning" for people harassing others.

Unfortunately, it is what it is. Many people see black and white, rather, [i]their[/i] perception of black and white and do not try to see any other shades than the ones they accept. Even if they see, say, a hint of gray, they don't try to view the values from another person's eyes and thus are skewed by their own judgements. It is unfortunate, and I do hope that one day, people will not be so ignorant. I know that the tides are turning and people are being accepted for who they are... but it seems like a snail's pace, all things considered.

But, I am glad that you've managed to garner support from people in your life, both online and in person. Having that support, be it one person or ten, makes all the difference. I hope that your depressive days are not as... heavy on your heart or shoulders, now that you can freely express who you've longed to be. c:[/quote]

i definitely think we're moving at a decent pace at this point, but it sort of happens in spurts. it's more like running, then stopping sort of thing in my mind ahaha.
also thank you :> i am definitely much better now.

[quote=xXSkittl3zz]This is amazing.
Props to you, you have earned plenty of respect.
Must have been psychologically painful, but i guess youre set now.
Awesome!

I hope things didnt go to extreme on your end, and you are hell of a woman
Ignore all the haters online. You are WAY braver than all of them.[/quote]

^__^ thank you very much. honestly though i don't feel like bravery has much to do with it ahaha.

This is amazing.
Props to you, you have earned plenty of respect.
Must have been psychologically painful, but i guess youre set now.
Awesome!

I hope things didnt go to extreme on your end, and you are hell of a woman
Ignore all the haters online. You are WAY braver than all of them.

[quote=Mademoiselle]
thank you for that
in all honesty it does get emotional for me at times, like when i think about how depressed i used to be and such, but generally i'm okay. what concerns me more are the people who are just genuinely ignorant rather than the trolls.[/quote]Dang it, I forgot "for the lulz" as one of the "reasoning" for people harassing others.

Unfortunately, it is what it is. Many people see black and white, rather, [i]their[/i] perception of black and white and do not try to see any other shades than the ones they accept. Even if they see, say, a hint of gray, they don't try to view the values from another person's eyes and thus are skewed by their own judgements. It is unfortunate, and I do hope that one day, people will not be so ignorant. I know that the tides are turning and people are being accepted for who they are... but it seems like a snail's pace, all things considered.

But, I am glad that you've managed to garner support from people in your life, both online and in person. Having that support, be it one person or ten, makes all the difference. I hope that your depressive days are not as... heavy on your heart or shoulders, now that you can freely express who you've longed to be. c:

On the issue of transgendered people, I honestly don't care what people choose to do with their bodies. As long as it makes you happy and you're not hurting anyone then who are we to judge.

Gender isn't even a real thing it's a socially constructed concept.

[quote=CaptCandy]What are the social implications of this, I mean, you were once a guy and treated as a guy, and now you are a girl.
How did your family react?
How did your friends and relatives react?
How did your peers and teachers react?[/quote]

i am trying to put a sort of FAQ together from the questions that i am asked more often, so you may find the answer you're looking for there, but i suppose to get slightly more personal... my transition was just that; a transition over time. i started out looking sort of androgynous, then starting wear makeup, then i started wearing women's clothing, etc.... it didn't really occur to me at all as to what was happening until it had pretty much already happened. so by the time i talked to people about it, i suppose they had already seen what was happening, and it made it easier to understand.

they all reacted rather positively, and i'm blessed to have those kinds of people in my life.
socially speaking it really depends where i am in regards to the implications. there are a lot of things i have to do because of societal standards as well, which does kind of suck. however they're things any woman is "expected" to do, i guess.

[quote=KrissyRin]I disagree; this is an emotional subject, one where it emotionally effects the original poster. It is easier for people on the internet to attack or harass someone like her, because they do not understand, be it from simple ignorance, intolerance, fear, or what have you than in real life. While the physical thread is prominent in real life (and yes, it is more deadly in those terms), it is at least [i]possible[/i] to physically restrain people from physically hurting someone. You can even put a restraining order or an order of protection against someone who is emotionally harassing you in real life.

It is nearly impossible to stop harassment on the internet, especially when it's driven by hate. That's just how I see it, though.

But, she already did take the steps to "coming out" in real life. Either way, she's braver than I.[/quote]

thank you for that
in all honesty it does get emotional for me at times, like when i think about how depressed i used to be and such, but generally i'm okay. what concerns me more are the people who are just genuinely ignorant rather than the trolls.

[quote=blueflammes]Another question: When you go at the pool or the beach, do you wear a bikini? And if you do, are you shy? (because of your manly parts I mean)[/quote]

i do sometimes, yes. i'm the kind of person who just wears oversized shirts to pools though ahahaha.
i can be shy, but i have really tiny boobs so i can wear a bikini top, and some shorts if i like. i can wear a bikini bottom if i tuck.

[quote=Demonlord]Have you ever had a guy hit on you? If so, did you like it?[/quote]

i'm attracted to men, so of course i liked it! ahaha
it has happened quite a few times. it happens a lot more when i go out to bars with friends, or something of that nature. although admittedly it's a double-edged sword. i love it obviously, but i hate it because my initial instinct and thought is "they probably don't like transwomen."

@Demonlord : Well why ask whether she would like getting attention from men if you weren't curious about her sexuality... I mean the answer to your question was quite obvious. Of course she would like getting hit on, what normal person wouldn't?

[quote=Demonlord]Have you ever had a guy hit on you? If so, did you like it?[/quote]

She's straight.

[i]Why is it so difficult for people to differentiate sexuality from gender?[/i]

ITT: people asking trivial and stupid questions

@Zoneflare2: Oh really? What if you spent a lot of time, effort and value into your character? Now you have reputation to be careful of, because you can't simply delete your account and make a new one and add your main on there, because people will notice. Remember how we all knew @MellowYellow was @HoneyBunny?

[quote=zoneflare2]@KrissyRin coming out on basil isnt brave since many people say/do stuff on the internet that they wouldnt normally do irl. Now if the TS were to do this same speech to a crowd of people irl then that would be considered brave.[/quote]I disagree; this is an emotional subject, one where it emotionally effects the original poster. It is easier for people on the internet to attack or harass someone like her, because they do not understand, be it from simple ignorance, intolerance, fear, or what have you than in real life. While the physical thread is prominent in real life (and yes, it is more deadly in those terms), it is at least [i]possible[/i] to physically restrain people from physically hurting someone. You can even put a restraining order or an order of protection against someone who is emotionally harassing you in real life.

It is nearly impossible to stop harassment on the internet, especially when it's driven by hate. That's just how I see it, though.

But, she already did take the steps to "coming out" in real life. Either way, she's braver than I.

@zoneflare2: *Facepalm*

TS has already come out in real life, because TS is living life as a girl, so of course people know TS is a transgender. Also, TS would also have to provide details to psychologists and parents too, which would be very brave for the latter case.

What are the social implications of this, I mean, you were once a guy and treated as a guy, and now you are a girl.
How did your family react?
How did your friends and relatives react?
How did your peers and teachers react?

I think you're rather brave to come to Basil with a post like this. c: Sadly, most people will not or do not understand that just because you were born a certain gender does not mean that you identify with that gender.

And I must say, you look rather stunning. ^^ I am glad to see that you are embracing who you feel you should be and going with your heart.

Also, don't worry about feet size - - a woman as well, I have a size 9, 9 1/2 so... I wish I had smaller feet, too. ;___; <3

You go girl!

I'm glad you aren't ashamed of yourself or anything, or are scared of how others judge you. I can only imagine other people like you that are experiencing it, and here you are sharing this with everyone. Don't be brought down by those people saying that oh you're still a guy, you are what you are!
You also look really pretty for one that has gone through a sex change procedure. Be proud of who you are!

[quote=Juxos]Actually I do have a question
Is there any aspects of being a guy that you miss?
Any let downs of changing gender?
I'm just really curious thanks[/quote]

male privilege. being taken seriously, and treated with respect just for being male is kind of nice.
no let downs though. ahahah
i also have certain privileges being female, so i guess in that sense it sort of works out?

[quote=quaker]Um... so do you date [b]heterosexual[/b] guys or homosexual guys? I thought homosexual guys only like guys who look like guys and have a shlong. I've read some stuff about trans males and it said they wanted to actually date straight guys and be penetrated.

Are homosexuals attracted to you? When you are essentially a man but look like a woman and act like a woman?[/quote]

i date heterosexual, or bisexual men. or pansexual i suppose.
gay men wouldn't be attracted to me because i look, act, and live like a girl. gay men want to date [i]men[/i], not women.
a decent amount of heterosexual men are actually fine with it, but i guess many are also scared of what other guys will think of them for liking me.

[quote=JamesInNinja]Didn't read the whole thread, mostly because I'm lazy, but wow, haters gonna hate, you're a beautiful gal. I'd be interested (not in a creepy way and don't answer if you're uncomfortable about it) how the hormones/transition has effected your "tool" because I've been friends to a few TG girls before, and it seems to be different for everybody depending on the amount of hormone therapy and such. Stay strong, and don't like haters get you down. Donno if it makes me slightly bi, but if someone looks like a girl, acts like a girl, doesn't matter to me what kind of hardware you've got, you're a girl.[/quote]

[quote=Sirenize]honestly i agree

though i haven't seen many pictures of damien, you were a pretty good lookin' dude like wow i'd totally hit that. and i guess that transferred over to how pretty you are as a woman.

at BazulCreeper2: sex change surgery is extremely expensive, while it's easier for narc because she's MTF and MTF surgery is around $7,000 to $24,000, female to male is a whole lot more expensive and complicated and can go up to $50,000. so she needs to save up a lot if she really wants to do it, and if i recall it's only been 2 years since she decided on this lifestyle. hopefully though everything works out for her. (you do want to go with the surgery right? sorry i've only read pages 10 and above of this thread)[/quote]

ahahaha i mean i don't really think i looked too great, but i guess it's more that i just didn't feel like i looked the way i should? i was always confident in a lot of things, but my appearance wasn't really one of them.

also i will probably get surgery in the future, but i'm not ready in many aspects for that as of right now.

[quote=CaptCandy]Just wondering, how do you feel after going through this. I heard that after M to F surgery, there's a 40% suicidal rate, and that many people regret going through that.
I also heard that many of the people who go through this also are attracted to females and would thereby be lesbian.

Also, what will you do about your XY chromosomes and your skeletal shape after puberty (ie broadened shoulders, sharper jaw, etc.)[/quote]

what you're thinking i suppose is the emotional/psychological problems associated with being transgender, rather than i guess the byproduct of surgery. ^_^
the suicide rate is definitely significantly lowered after SRS because you feel better in your body.

in regards to how i feel about all this, i'm definitely a lot happier now. i mean it's a lot of work don't get me wrong, and there are a lot of days where i just want to lay in bed, act like a slob, and order pizza, but i'm really happy for the first time in my life. i was diagnosed as manic depressive when i was very young, and i had a lot of periods where i was severely depressed. when i talked to my great grandmother about all of this she mentioned that she had said "damian looks really depressed. he looks really sad." to my mother a lot. so i guess it was very noticeable.

your sexual orientation doesn't change going through transition, but i suppose the way it can be referred to may change. for example a transgender person who has always liked girls will have been straight before their transition, and a lesbian after. i was gay before, and i'm straight now. though i suppose that depends on who you ask as well ahaha.

i was blessed with a lot of things fortunately. i'm not that tall, i have a very androgynously thin body (like a thin female body) and my shoulders aren't all that bad. my voice is something i still work on a lot, but the jaw sort of thing is fixed with fat redistribution. i do wish i had smaller feet, though. i wear a size 10-11 in women's.

you seem very educated about this already, or have sort of an idea. i very much appreciate your question.

[quote=HitmanTutor]You didn't have that beauty mark at 16 on your left cheek? o.o looks like a fake pic to me.[/quote]

i did, and do, but it's smaller. i draw on my beauty mark sometimes with liquid liner. ahahaha
[url=http://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash3/680420_393165367424638_2133959825_o.jpg]you can see that it's not really there in this picture.[/url]

[quote=Dragontearz]Seems like you just wanted an excuse to come out of the closet lol.[/quote]

what are you even talking about

[quote=Dragontearz]You don't get the point I'm trying to bear across.

But I blame lady gaga for this.[/quote]

I don't get it either...

[quote=Dragontearz]You don't get the point I'm trying to bear across.

But I blame lady gaga for this.[/quote]

Was your comment a reference to something that I didn't catch?

[quote=WontPostMuch]She's been out of the closet for the longest time now (at least on BM). Not sure what you're going on about.[/quote]

You don't get the point I'm trying to bear across.

But I blame lady gaga for this.

[quote=Dragontearz]Seems like you just wanted an excuse to come out of the closet lol.[/quote]

She's been out of the closet for the longest time now (at least on BM). Not sure what you're going on about.