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Join the navy! Away from family, travel the world, and have a job that actually matters.

pray to God and ask for him to forgive you for being a bad person in your past life. Once you have been forgiven you will be able to enjoy life

@MrAbyss: You all might be different, but you're still a family, and you said before that you love them. I don't know your history, but if there's tension lingering from the past, then I suggest you step up (even if you're not the one at fault), and apologize. This way they'll know that you're willing and ready to move forward and that you want to build a relationship with them. If this isn't the case and you lot just don't seem to spend enough time together out of personal convenience or preference, then take the initiative to be the change. Find neutral activities (maybe something new) that you can do together. For example, my family plays golf together once every two weeks (something my father got us into) and one of my sisters has recently gotten the rest of the siblings into rock climbing (something I thought I'd never do since I'm afraid of heights). We all have different hobbies, beliefs, and interests, but it's good to keep an open mind and try new things. Don't be afraid to bring this up with them because chances are they're feeling the same way.

I'm not very familiar with the education system in the Netherlands, but if it's a required field of study then the best advice I can give you is to find other hobbies that occupy your time. Since you find it easy, I'd assume you have a lot of free time on your hands. Take this opportunity to try new things and break out of your shell NOW, don't wait till after you get your diploma. Start preparing for your life in America, find an internship that seems interesting and rewarding (rather than taking one to make your resume seem appealing), or take on a job and save up money for your travels. You should never say "I'm young, I have time..." or "Wait till I'm XX age" or "In the future, I'm...". This type of thought leads to just talk and no action. Take the initiative, set daily goals for yourself, and don't linger on the past or daydream about the future. Remember, yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is gift, that's why they call it the present.

[quote=BigHero6]One thing you have to remember is that you set your own limitations, no one else. If you feel your life is boring, change things. I feel like in today's society, many of us put ourselves into boxes which limits our minds, potential, and experiences. If you want to have a traditional Christmas holiday with your family, then make the effort to change things, don't just sit on your bum and expect things to go your way. If you feel like you're wasting your time with your studies, change it to something you might enjoy. Life is not just one linear path, which unfortunately is the path I feel like most of us are conditioned to walk upon, it's full of twists and turns that branches out into many different routes. These uncertainties and risks are what make life fun and interesting, but it all starts with you. If you don't break out of that shell, you'll find yourself regretting the past. If you want to go to America and travel, then take a few years off and do it, but know that such luxuries comes with expenses, hard work, and sometimes even hardships. The world is a big and wonderful place, and the only thing keeping you back from experiencing it is yourself. [/quote]

Thank you for the inspiring words.
However, things are not that easy.
I don't like my family at all, we're different. We don't have the same humor, they don't really accept me for who I am.
So during xmas for example we only see each other for 2 hours and then we leave.

Changing study can't be done right now, due the fact that I have to complete this one to advance to more studies.
We have this stupid regulation that you have to complete mbo first, and then you can go to hbo (hbo offers a lot more studies, that pay better and are a lot more fun).
After I have my mbo diploma I'll surely break out of my shell and start changing my life

I think that 19 would be more suited than 17 after all when I'll start traveling.

One thing you have to remember is that you set your own limitations, no one else. If you feel your life is boring, change things. I feel like in today's society, many of us put ourselves into boxes which limits our minds, potential, and experiences. If you want to have a traditional Christmas holiday with your family, then make the effort to change things, don't just sit on your bum and expect things to go your way. If you feel like you're wasting your time with your studies, change it to something you might enjoy. Life is not just one linear path, which unfortunately is the path I feel like most of us are conditioned to walk upon, it's full of twists and turns that branches out into many different routes. These uncertainties and risks are what make life fun and interesting, but it all starts with you. If you don't break out of that shell, you'll find yourself regretting the past. If you want to go to America and travel, then take a few years off and do it, but know that such luxuries comes with expenses, hard work, and sometimes even hardships. The world is a big and wonderful place, and the only thing keeping you back from experiencing it is yourself.

[quote=Sammi]I don't mean this personally, but I hate it when someone expresses their concern or situation and they're shot down with the usual "others have it worse than you".
Of course there's always going to be someone better or worse, but it's better to just listen to their person and understand what they're going through, rather than compare. Compare. Compare.

OT: I'd suggest the same with the person I quoted, that last line. It's up to you, and only you to change what's going on in your own life.[/quote]

But at the same it's true. Everyone has their own problems to deal with and there's always going to be someone who has it way worse. In most situations, like the OP's she has the power to change it for herself yet she's posting about it on basil instead. That is more irritating to me than if someone were to answer with the phrase of "others have it worse than you."

Thanks for the words guys, 2 years seem so long though.
Can't wait to travel and enjoy life more than I do right now.
My family is not rich, so I have to do everything on my own basically.

@Sammi: I agree. After all it doesn't mean someone can't be sad just because another person has it worse right? I just wanted to put it out there so the TS doesn't know he/she has it the worst.

[quote=tsubasa128]Dude, I only have my mom here. My parents are divorced, my family is small, the rest of them are in another country. The only person I ever spend my holidays with is my mom. A lot of people have it worse than you. Sorry I just had to get that out there.
But for your condition, you have to most power to change what's going on in your life. Go do something,[/quote]

I don't mean this personally, but I hate it when someone expresses their concern or situation and they're shot down with the usual "others have it worse than you".
Of course there's always going to be someone better or worse, but it's better to just listen to their person and understand what they're going through, rather than compare. Compare. Compare.

OT: I'd suggest the same with the person I quoted, that last line. It's up to you, and only you to change what's going on in your own life.

Dude, I only have my mom here. My parents are divorced, my family is small, the rest of them are in another country. The only person I ever spend my holidays with is my mom. A lot of people have it worse than you. Sorry I just had to get that out there.
But for your condition, you have to most power to change what's going on in your life. Go do something,

Think about the goal you're trying to achieve for the future.