Help with potential friend issues
EDIT: I edited the names. The first comments will be confusing to other people, so Z is Martha, K is Rose, and M is Donna.
First of all, I am sure that there is at least 1 person who plays Maplestory from my school, so I'm not going to use any of their real names. So keep in mind when you see the names "Rose," "Martha," and "Donna," that I don't conveniently have friends who have the same names as the Doctor's companions. Sorry. Second of all, I don't think I'm going to get any serious answers because this sounds like "typical teenage drama," but I really don't know what to do, so I'm doing this anyways.
So during lunch, I sit with a group of around 11 nerdy people (including myself) who talk about Doctor Who, Harry Potter, The Avengers, Sherlock, and whatnot. We all get along, and have the occasional fandom argument, but there's never been any "drama" between us. But one day, my friend Martha announced that she's going out with her classmate Rose! We were all talking about how we were SO happy for Martha, but my other friend Donna seemed really upset. She even left our lunch group halfway through the lunch period! My other, OTHER friend and I were talking about this after school, and we think that Donna likes Martha. And that works. For the past... year, I think, Donna and Martha were ALWAYS seen together, and joked around, calling each other soulmates. It honestly wouldn't have been a surprise if they announced that they had hooked up.
I seriously don't know what to do. If I tell Martha, then it would be awkward, since... well, Martha is who Donna would be interested in! On the other hand, if I asked Donna, it would still be awkward if the theory wasn't true, and again, would be awkward if it was true. Asking Rose isn't really an option either, because things would get awkward between her and Martha. I know that basil isn't the right place to ask this (INCOMING TROLLS), but what do you think I should do? I just want a happy fangirling group!
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In my life experience...
Stay out of it. Interference between relationships is never acceptable. It destroys camaraderie in groups of friends.. just..
Don't try to puppeteer their decisions..
Just ask your friend what was wrong. Let it be her decision to tell you whether she likes Donna or not - or rather what her problem is.
Otherwise it's not really your business, don't ya think?
Of course i understand you want harmony but there's nothing more you can do but care for Donna and be understanding. Anything else would be disrespectful (->intruding). You shouldn't bring anything up in front of the other girls. If they decided to date then that hopefully was a mutual decision and they'll hopefully be happy together. They don't need any love-triangle drama at the beginning of their relationship, AT ALL.
So Donna should stay away, too, and IF she does like Martha she should realise that Martha isn't her property and she has no right to interfere or be mad about Rose's and Martha's relationship. At least that's how I see it.
It might not be the same again between you girls but it could be similarly good if Donna is mature enough to grow over whatever issue she has.
A table full of bi-girls. That's something I could really get into.
[quote=Pashmimi]@cool123ter: They're all bisexual girls. Not sure if K is only lesbian though.
@Laker1294: It would be really awkward if our theory's wrong though... Like what if M doesn't like Z after all?
@Jellal: ...Well sorry! It's hard to make up names without them being like "Mary" or "Sue!" And by J, do you mean Z, or K?
...FINE I'll edit it to make names...[/quote]
Well sorry to break it to you but things will never be the same. I'm not as close with one of my friends anymore after the incident. Well why would M be upset if she didn't like Z.. It doesn't make any sense sorry. o.o usually when someone doesn't like a person they usually distance themselves or cause drama. o.o
@Pashmimi: but i cant tell whos a girl and whos a guy. Him asking out another girl just proves he doesnt like who likes him back...
[quote=Pashmimi]@cool123ter: They're all bisexual girls. Not sure if K is only lesbian though.
@Laker1294: It would be really awkward if our theory's wrong though... Like what if M doesn't like Z after all?
@Jellal: ...Well sorry! It's hard to make up names without them being like "Mary" or "Sue!" And by J, do you mean Z, or K?
...FINE I'll edit it to make names...[/quote]
I meant Z. Or you can ignore everything. Like a [i]real[/i] friend.
Play maplestory, who needs friends anyways?
@cool123ter: They're all bisexual girls. Not sure if K is only lesbian though.
@Laker1294: It would be really awkward if our theory's wrong though... Like what if M doesn't like Z after all?
@Jellal: ...Well sorry! It's hard to make up names without them being like "Mary" or "Sue!" And by J, do you mean Z, or K?
...FINE I'll edit it to make names...
hey i just meet you, and this is crazy, but do u wanna be friends now, text me maybe?
Just make fake names. I hate seeing "K" made out with the other "k" then had children and named it "K"
OT: Just go to "M" and ask him. Thennnnnnnn confess to "J" trust me it'll work out. I've been in this situation before.
Maybe you guys should just say what's on your minds? Would be a lot less confusing.
It seems like M is afraid of their friendship (with Z) is "falling apart" and things will never be the same anymore. You could tell M that since Z and K are together, their main focus is each other. I was like M before..when 2 of my friends were going out..
Wait wait wait, You for got to mention one important thing. What 2 people are ghey?