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Buy a baseball bat or a hammer, dink tail lights from expensive cars parked throughout the state.

Good to see you're still lifting heavy bro. When getting over your fear of talking to girls you need to ask yourself this question, what exactly are you so afraid of? Are you afraid of rejection? Scared you'll say the wrong thing? My best advice is to not hold pretty girls up on pedestals, talk to them with the same confidence you'd talk to a dude with. They're just normal people with their own problems and once you realize that you'll realize you're really stressing over nothing. Girls appreciate confidence, especially the shy ones because they're usually socially anxious themselves and don't want to make the first move. The more you talk to them the easier it will get and eventually it will just become second nature to you and a part of who you are.

Good luck man, approach women with the same confidence you approach that 4 plate deadlift and you'll be just fine.

@chema: I wish it was just a glance lol. When I am doing pull ups with 90 extra lbs then like 3 people walk up & ask if they can try then everyone around us are staring & then the people can't even do 2 pull ups with 55lb while I am doing 6 with 90. It's kinda fun! Like someone has said they come around to see how great you are.
I spoke with a therapist the other day and she told me that people tend to work extra hard on the issues they have. For me mine was that I am insecure. So I HAVE to be the best in order to hide it. The loudest strongest fastest. I tend to put others down along with myself. She didn't say it was anything serious but I do want to work on being more accepting of people.

Today I was found out by one of the cute blonde girls BFF. They know I am sexy T-T. I was sitting in the sauna room with practically no clothes on. I saw them again & she started the conversation with me!! So ya I'm nerves about the next time I see the blonde girl.

I am not the buttercup who breaks down when strangers glance at me

@chema: In your situation I believe you should take your own advice.

@wellness: I've started to come to terms that I can't control other people's actions. When we run I am out there yelling cadences while the same people who put me down, are quiet. Is my presence really that intimidating? I hold no ill will there are people still yelling & running even if they aren't.

Tomorrow may never come for the guys that I was doing the training OP with. They will be deploying soon. It makes me mad. That great people like that have a chance to die, but nasty disgusting individuals who can't even show any form of comradery don't have to worry. When I am around these types of people I never feel down. I want to make people feel this way.

@upcomingnerd: It means a lot that you put out your own personal life to help me. After today all I can think about is those men & woman who are in the wire. While I am stateside & the way they walked with so much pride. Knowing WE JRs are why they are risking their life.

I know when they look at us they see we are not prepared for what they are about to do. I just want to walk with them. Carrying a sea bag & an assault pack pushing forward wondering if they will ever comeback home. That type of presence is what I will have someday.

Before dating and attempting an intimate relationship, you should first hone your basic social skills

@xdarkshynobi: Oh that's not very long at all. lol Smart man, don't invest the time.

People look to me in life, I chose my girl over my sister's party and now my sister cancelled the event. And I say that with pride because it will teach her a lesson in life to not be such a child. But being a child she looks up to me. So while it hurt to do that to her, it was nec.

My point is, embrace who you are in life. If all eyes are on you, let them be. No other opinion should matter but your own.

I assure you at any given point someone around you or in the room is looking at you and/or judging. You are correct. It is only natural. All the world is a stage.

What you don't have to do is let that control your actions and mentality when what you want to do is hang out with that girl and workout.

Also, rather than let it be a negative, you can let it be a positive that fuels your energy. i.e. "these people are looking at me and they can see that I'm great."

@upcomingnerd: about 6 months ago and 3 weeks. Longest relationship was probably 2 or 3 months.

@xdarkshynobi: How long was your last serious relationship?

@readers: I have before =.= when I first attempted 370 awhile back ALL THESE F***ER gather around me for no reason other than to see me fail, because they didn't show up to see me succeed.

My Seniors have always told me that you will always be judge by everyone for earning the title of UNited States Marine . Can you blame me for being self-conscious? I am suppose to be a certain way, confident courageous & aggressive. To be selfless & willing to sacrifice.

A small part of me is still that kid who would cry to his dog. That is how I feel sometimes. There are others around me though who need me to speak for them. Who can't carry all the weight. Who flinch in the face of adversity.

So I come to basil. Where I have been since I was 12 years old. In hopes that I never forget where I came from & what I've been told. Never give up on what you want even if it's just a girl.

@xdarkshynobi: Sounds like you're too self-conscious. I highly doubt that's the case if you just actually observe what others are doing while you're working out. Note that the buff ones at one point were also skinny and small too.

@readers: I am rather small, 5'7 160 lbs. It's like the people are watching me to fail? When I throw on 370 lbs to squat. Or when I am dead lifting 405. =[ I feel like everyone is just watching me too so they can see me fail, but I don't....well sometimes I do . I am usually in the gym for about 3hrs so ya probably another reason there.

@upcomingnerd: I think I'm very attracted to girls who have a lot of control? The girl I was talking to before is in charge of like 200 MARINES. This other girl I am really interested in is also in charge of about 100 MARINES.

There are few girls who I know are attracted to me. Just by the way they behave. When I'm talking to them there is no... adrenaline? For lack of a better word. If I flirt with every girl T-T they will talk about it.

@killeem I can promise you that when 1467932 thirsty guy are also trying to "tap that ass" you'd feel some typa way as well.

You're inner self is not scared, it's smart. Women are trouble. I've been seeing a girl for a few weeks now and it's been all kinds of stress. Being single and having one nighters is so much more enjoyable than being in a relationship.

So Sat is my Sister's bday, and I met my girl through my sister. They're both 21, I'm 30. So now that me and T have become an item, my sister is jealous that I have taken her friend away. Well that I am more important to her now. So now she has uninvited her to her bday, which puts me in a spot. Cause I can't miss my sister's bday but now I have to tell my girl she ain't invited cause my sister is being unreasonable.

So in the end, be happy that you are free. Because being in a relationship is just bs. You don't even understand how much crap I get into for 'flirting' with other women when I'm with my girl. Even though I'm not even flirting, I'm just being myself. I am trying to train her though, so I do cuss her and put her in her place but it's a lot of work. Enjoy your freedom, I'll be there soon.

insecure

There's nothing wrong with you. It's normal. Fear of social situations =/= fear of heights. Take baby steps. First be around attractive people. Once you've got that down and you're not scared of that, start talking to them. Then start asking them out. Etc.

Though I don't understand how you're getting attention while working out (unless you're the grunter who throws down the barbell every time). People are doing their own thing all the time in the gym.