How important are you friends to you? Your experiences?
They come and go, but some last for a lifetime.
I value my friends. We do fun stuff. I want to say they are the most important people in my life, but I find it true that life could and may go on without them, but it would be a bit more lonely. I'll cherish the memories after High School when we all move on.
For the College Students or above, do you still talk to any of your HS friends? Are you still as close?
I remember in Elementary School where I would get along with most of my class and I thought we would all be friends in Middle School. Middle school was an awkward stage for me. I had friends, but not strong bonds with them aka out of school. High school was different. I'm starting to realize my true friends and things. Some 'friends' may do stuff that might make you feel bad, or not, but I feel like you could either learn to accept/resolve it or not be friends with them, and either seems fine.
Has anyone's friends changed? Or have you got to just know them too well to end up despising their negatives more than appreciating their good?
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a lot of my friends have been out of high school for a while now (2~5 years) and are really busy with work now and doing their own things but the ones that still live here are pretty important to me, but even then, after this year i'll be moving so
it's not that hard even though you do start missing people, but it's never really that hard to talk on facebook or whatever which you can do with pretty much anyone
It depends on which friends they are...
[quote=DrXbowman]When relationships weaken, do you think one should attempt to strengthen it, break it before it's too late, or leave it be until it deteriorates or ends up strengthening itself.[/quote]
I tried to strengthen it but it didn't work and that is why there is the saying some people come and go in your life. Maybe it is just a hint telling you to move on
I have this one, amazing, true friend that I really, really hope I never lose. Realistically, I don't know if we'll still be together after HS, and the thought of losing her honestly scares me a bit.
I have several other great friends that I hope to stay friends with, but she's the best.
There's only a few friends that I can that I honestly love. When it comes down to my newly made friends, I pretty much feel as if they're more of acquaintances, but that's most likely because most of my friendships have lasted for that long.
Honestly, I could say that I love all my friends, but I also feel that I'm obliged to. It's confusing.
There's probably less than 5 friends that I would do anything for. I have shared most of my secrets, laughed and even cried with some of them, so yeah, probably just htem. I used to want as many friends as I could have, but now I don't think I really care.
To answer your question, I don't think friends are all that important to me, well, only those few I mentioned. Erm. I know my answer is extremely confusing, sorry.
Edit: Geez... I feel shallow when I read it now. But really, I'd do anything for any friend I make, though I won't expect any long-lasting friendships. I guess that's more of clear answer. I don't think having much friends is all that important.
As a person who's been stuck at home for the past year or longer due to legal reasons I can't disclose, I value my friends dearly. They mean a lot to me, as right now the one's who actually put an effort to stay in my life are the only ones who are still here for me. It really hurts to see some of those friends I used to call close, just disappear. For them, I'll probably fade away. But for me, It still seems like yesterday since they were still in my life, because It's been the same for so long.
When relationships weaken, do you think one should attempt to strengthen it, break it before it's too late, or leave it be until it deteriorates or ends up strengthening itself.
[quote=Casey]@ZombieOverlord: Your quite the emotional pessimist aren't you? Just because you don't see them anymore doesn't mean you're not friends. You get what I'm sayin', right?[/quote]
[quote=ZombieOverlord]You're quite the idealist aren't you?
I wish it were that easy, I really do, but it's not.[/quote]
There is no definite true answers because it is subjective, but from my experiences, Zombie's right. You've got to experience it to know it is not that easy. Relationships weaken and things become awkward. It is like when you first fall in love, you just want to be with each other for the rest of your lives. A few years pass by and things wouldn't be as strong. It is not a pessimistic mentality, it is just as you grow older and older, you realize life is not like the cartoons we watch when we were little, it is just the way it is.
[quote=Shir]How do you value friendship? I don't seem to quite get it.[/quote]
Like how you value family.
"My friends are my power!" (anyone get the reference?)
uh. well... i'm still tryna figure out myself bud.
How do you value friendship? I don't seem to quite get it.
I have an extremely close group of friends, most of whom I've known since I was five years old. A couple of them are attending the same college I am currently in and the rest are still in the same state. They're pretty much family to me. Of course with time, you'll get to know your friends more and more. With this knowledge, you'd learn both the positive and negative traits so becoming annoyed by your close friends is pretty common (from my experience). Even so, you just move on and just continuing having fun with your friends.
When I was in elementary school, I really thought it was possible to have life long friends, can't really blame myself cause relationships was so well. Especially with my best friend, people would say "you never see one without the other". And then came high school... high school killed it for me. Everyone just drifted off and went into bizarre directions. My best friend and I just kinda drifted off...I tried my best to bring the bond back together but he seems to be on a new mission, replying with those one letter responses >.<. You know...I am just hoping whatever God is up there would give us another opportunity to just sit down in a quiet place, just me and him, and become best friends again.
Well im very close to my friends(girls) not so much about the boys.
I'll definitely check that book out. It will go on my bucket list once I create one. Thanks for the suggestion.
[quote=stealthike]Sometimes pessimism is required to keep yourself from being hurt[/quote]
agreed, and I don't see much wrong with that.
@ZombieOverlord: Your quite the emotional pessimist aren't you? Just because you don't see them anymore doesn't mean you're not friends. You get what I'm sayin', right?
I feel like if you get too attached to friends then things can (not saying it will) eventually end up hurting (in a way, like if there is an argument or they just change, then you will get caught up in it, instead of just saying whatever) you. Does anyone else feel this way? Or do I just have relationship issues?
[quote=Casey]Just because their doing their own thing, doesn't mean they were "old" friends. If they were your good friends, they would stay your friends no matter they went across seas for 12 years.[/quote]
You're quite the idealist aren't you?
I wish it were that easy, I really do, but it's not.
Friends are important to me but I also know that in the future we all will go our separate ways & may not able to like how we are right now.
Though, it still doesn't change my love toward my friends.
[quote=ZombieOverlord]That's the thing, I had good friends, really good friends.
But they're gone now, off experiencing life in their own paths.[/quote]
Just because their doing their own thing, doesn't mean they were "old" friends. If they were your good friends, they would stay your friends no matter they went across seas for 12 years.
[quote=teresa]I still talk to some of my high school friends, mainly the ones i was close to at the time. I think the two girls i met when we were 1 year olds are probably lifelong friends because we've known each other our whole lives. We don't see each other much, but they feel like people i can count on for life because they're like family.
i'm with zombie; everyone else is likely to be temporary, they'll disappear at one stage or another. It sounds sad but i don't value friendship as much as others seem to.[/quote]
I use to value it as much as my own life..but now, not so much.
Thinking about others ahead of yourself only hurts you in the end.
[quote=Chepfer]This is my life with my "friends", I don't really have good friends, and i dont know what a best friend is but oh well.[/quote]
I believe I have some really good friends. I don't feel like I am super-dooper close w/ anyone, but I guess that's that. They are great to spend time with. I'm just in a somewhat confused stage right now. Hearing good discussion about it helps me think, hence this thread.
[quote=Casey]You need to find yourself a good friend. One you can actually call a friend. Gnome sayin'?[/quote]
That's the thing, I had good friends, really good friends.
But they're gone now, off experiencing life in their own paths.
My friends are important to me but not to the extent that they mean the world to me. Friends come and go as well like TS said.
[quote=ZombieOverlord]Now? I'm not so sure.
No matter how close you might think your friends will be, it's temporary.
They all come and go to live their own life, leaving you behind in the process.[/quote]
This is my life with my "friends", I don't really have good friends, and i dont know what a best friend is but oh well.
[quote=ZombieOverlord]Now? I'm not so sure.
No matter how close you might think your friends will be, it's temporary.
They all come and go to live their own life, leaving you behind in the process.[/quote]
I understand what you are saying. Friends are great and important to have, but they shouldn't be your whole life because they have their own lives as well. Well, I believe that some friends, like childhood friends, or possibly later adulthood friends could last?
I'm not a big people person.
[quote=ZombieOverlord]Now? I'm not so sure.
No matter how close you might think your friends will be, it's temporary.
They all come and go to live their own life, leaving you behind in the process.[/quote]
You need to find yourself a good friend. One you can actually call a friend. Gnome sayin'?
Now? I'm not so sure.
No matter how close you might think your friends will be, it's temporary.
They all come and go to live their own life, leaving you behind in the process.
Haha, in what scenario?
I have a group of close friends. We call eachother a circle.
Those are the guys who if they were in a fight like 1 on 16, I'd jump in to take the ass beating too.
Edit: I was actually thinking about you today, TS. <3
All my friends are assh0les. Sure we have memories, memories of them raging on League of legend. So what friends?