So theres this girl I like
Many years ago, I found a girl that I really liked. I was so childish in it that I thought I could ask her out every day of the week and be able to be her boyfriend. I was so stupid. I was rejected every time without a hitch. I did this for a while without realizing it would never happen. So I stopped and thought I would never like someone again. But then I saw a girl in a different way for the first time. She was extremely beautiful and I did not even notice her because of how much I was in dumb love with the first girl. After a few days, I started to fall in love. One day I noticed she was on my bus because she moved. I couldn't believe it. So my stupid antics about how love should go kicked in again and I asked her out on the bus while barely knowing her. Of course, I got rejected. But this rejection was different. I actually felt hurt for no reason. I kept telling myself I would find another girl again but it didn't work. This time, I was really in love. Being as awkward as I am, I sent her weird texts over the summer asking her why I loved her. How the hell would she know? She did, however, send me a text along the lines of, "you are probably just attracted to me." So I took the advice and tried to get over it. But it was just the beginning. Over the next year I just silently admired her. I did always try to sit with her on the bus though. But the love really kicked in my sophomore year, when I started to actually get to know her. We went on runs around the neighborhood and we talked quite a bit. I got to know some of her favorite music, her obsession with Harvard, and her future goals in life. At some point in that year I had one of the best days with her. I asked her if she wanted to study for the Algebra midterm and she suggested doing it at her house. I came over and she held her dog back to let me in. I don't think anyone was in the house except her and I. I couldn't believe it. It was the perfect chance. While we studied, we listened to some of her favorite music and she showed me a cool snack where you take a pretzel and some chocolate chips and shove them in your mouth. It tasted really good. I was about to ask her out again, but her parents came home and I stopped myself. After that night she was always so nice to me. We always carpooled and talked about things. But then something happened. I got very sick one day and it caused me to miss a lot of school for the rest of the year. I don't know why, but around the same timed, the girl and I just stopped talking. We didn't take rides together as often and she didn't answer my calls or texts. I really couldn't figure it out. Over the next year I just kept asking her to go for a run or if I could give her a ride because those were the only reasons I had to be able to talk with her. But she either didn't answer or was too busy. Instead of asking her to study for calculus, I was kind of able to mooch off my friend who also wanted to study with her. We had such a good time at her house. After studying, we ordered pizza and watched movies. It was one of the best nights ever. She fell asleep and my friend and I walked back home. I accidently woke her up by texting her that we left and she was so thankful that we cleaned up after ourselves. I thought I would finally be able to talk with her again. But I was wrong. We just didn't talk much ever. Senior year came along faster than I thought it would. I still wasn't able to talk to her much other than some things for multivariable calculus. And yea, I still liked her. Nothing much happened between her and me during the year except that I decided to man up and ask her to go to prom. I was devastated when she told me that prom was the same day as the State Qualifier track meet, which I had to go to as well. When that day came, she decided to not race but instead go to prom. She didn't tell me about it. I was starting to lose my mind. I must have done something wrong without knowing. I had to give an excuse to talk with her no matter what. So I asked her if I could store my cello bow in her locker with the hopes of being able to talk with her. But she just tried to give me her locker number and told me she was busy. I was so stupid. In hopes of reconciling myself I tried to talk to her on Facebook. This time she actually responded. I told her I was sorry for acting so weird that day. She told me it was okay and actually apologized herself for not telling me she was going to prom by herself. I told her it was no problem and I actually had a lot of fun running and jumping at State Qualifiers. But that was a lie. Although I did want to go to that track meet, I really just wanted to spend the day with her whether it was at prom or state qualifiers. I decided that I would ask her out at the end of the year as my last chance but I held in my emotions knowing that I would have screwed up anyway. I took the rest of the summer trying to forget about her, but I couldn't. There was this track series going on at another high school and I found out through Facebook that she wanted to go. I thought it was perfect because I actually needed a ride there. But alas, she didn't answer her phone or her Facebook. I soon found out that I actually didn't need a ride. While my brother was taking me, I saw something I couldn't believe. She was running in our neighborhood. It blew my mind. I thought it was because I was going that she decided not to go. Again, I was going nuts in my mind. So I said to myself, there is no way she likes me. But then I came to college and I was still thinking about her and have dreams about her. I told myself for better or for worse I have to at least try and ask her.
[b]tl;dr[/b]: I still like my crush from high school. She goes to UPENN and I go to Stony Brook. What do I do?
EDIT: I already know that I will tell her how I feel. The question is when and how especially since we go to relatively distant universities.
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Lol k so google maps tells me that you're 3 hours apart. Frankly speaking, it's most likely not going to work. You generally need a good deal of time spent dating the person in close proximity for at least a year or two before the relationship has a chance at surviving long distance, even 3 hours (unless you're willing to drive to see her every weekend).
THere are so many subtle nuances about a person that can't be conveyed through instant messaging, phone calls, or even webcamming. Even though internet dating has grown in popularity, it makes sense that relationships often are stronger when the two people involved chat, cuddle, and even argue in person. You might have noticed that arguing via instant messaging is much different from arguing in person. The same holds true for normal chatting.
Just something to take into account.
I would of read this but I didn't see any paragraphs.
@askmiller
Actually, it depends mostly on quality and marginal returns. It peaks at one point.
[quote=radkai]Multivariate calculus in high school?[/quote]
I'm taking it in my senior year atm.
OT: You should learn to move on. She seems disinterested in you, whether it is your personality, your hobbies, or something else.
[quote=Al3xL3g3nd]Yes. But how?[/quote]
Seek peace and pursue it
Wellllllll maybe your life will end up like those awesome romance stories where you decide to move on and forget about her and live your life. Then you start other relationships with other girls because you promised yourself that you would move on, but in reality she's still in your heart but you decide not to display your heart for everyone to awe at. Then like 5 ~10 years from now you accidentally run into each other while jogging or at the gym or something and your heart just starts racing again. You try to calm yourself but you're too worried that at the same time, she can hear your heart pounding the hell out of your chest. You two eventually catch up while meeting up for coffee and you start hanging out again doing awesome friend stuff. You secretly think that this time you can't go wrong if you ask her again, but then when you do go ask her you see her with another man and you think he's the new boyfriend in her life. Of course this is the time where you create a distance from her and she tries to do what you did back in High School. BLABLABLABLABLABLABLABLBALA she ends up falling for you and you two live happily ever after with a few kids and dogs. THE END
If your life ends up like that, I would really be happy for you two but most likely not. Who knows. Move on for now and see what the future holds for you two.
@Al3xL3g3nd: What high school would this be?
Well.
Are you a nerd? Are you unattractive? Are you socially awkward?
Maybe there are reasons for the rejections?
[quote=SriLankanKen]Hi Andrea.
I never had my heart broken, I probably never will. Or experience "true love" as well. I wont know what I'm missing lol. XD
I have seen people destroy themselves for relationships that don't last. There lives ruined for a relationship that MAYBE could last... Suicides due to relationships, people abandoning education just for a girlfriend or boyfriend. It's not worth having that over someone who may not stay with you. Most relationships are temporary. That's the only reason I said that. The ends don't justify the means. Again this is all opinion based.
So I guess if the TS feels "love" over a girl in another college from high school than I suppose he can try to make her his GF. Maybe he should try to contact her over via phone or social websites or w/e. xP Good luck I guess.[/quote]
Hi Ken
Well love is a risk worth taking. From what I've observed..many people don't value true love. In some cases people end up in happy marriages like one of my aunts and uncles and my grandparents. They truly love each other.
OT: you could make a surprise visit to her college and tell her how you feel. You could say that you were looking for your friend in case it gets awkward.
[quote=Laker1294]That's not true..love is one of the things that makes life worth living. I'm sorry if you had your heart broken, Ken..[/quote]
Hi Andrea.
I never had my heart broken, I probably never will. Or experience "true love" as well. I wont know what I'm missing lol. XD
I have seen people destroy themselves for relationships that don't last. There lives ruined for a relationship that MAYBE could last... Suicides due to relationships, people abandoning education just for a girlfriend or boyfriend. It's not worth having that over someone who may not stay with you. Most relationships are temporary. That's the only reason I said that. The ends don't justify the means. Again this is all opinion based.
So I guess if the TS feels "love" over a girl in another college from high school than I suppose he can try to make her his GF. Maybe he should try to contact her over via phone or social websites or w/e. xP Good luck I guess.
[quote=radkai]Multivariate calculus in high school?[/quote]
It's an elective that our calculus teacher offered to teach at our high school.
I think she's just sick of you.
[quote=SriLankanKen]Love gets you no where in life from what I've seen.
Worry about yourself and abandon your emotions over your crush.
That's just my opinion.[/quote]
That's not true..love is one of the things that makes life worth living. I'm sorry if you had your heart broken, Ken..
I'll just hit you with reality
She doesn't like you.
K, now find someone else
[quote=SriLankanKen]Love gets you no where in life from what I've seen.[/quote]
err WHAT? Had bad experiences or something? no reason to be so pessimistic right there.
Multivariate calculus in high school?
Just try to ask her if you could go drink a coffee with her or something. Tell her you just wanna have a chick chat about this and that and you still gotta do things afterwards (of course you don't, you just say so if things get awkward and if you feel uncomfy so you can get up and leave if needed )
then just explain her your feelings for her and see how she reacts.
Good luck with it and don't sweat all that much. You're both humans and if she doesn't like you all that much then it just wasn't supposed to be and you're simply meant to be with someone else.
Wish ya the best~!
Love gets you no where in life from what I've seen.
Worry about yourself and abandon your emotions over your crush.
That's just my opinion.
tl;dr
Tell her how you feel.
Find someone else.
It's that easy.
[quote=Mhmmmm]How long did that take to write? O:
I'm sorry, I don't know what you could do. [/quote]
I don't even know. I was just sitting in my room one day and I just decided that putting my feelings on word would make me feel better. Oh yea, I wrote this a month ago.
[quote=Blakedanny]Dat Paragraph.[/quote]
Paragraphs are usually 5-8 sentences long.
This is Mountain Text.
Tell her how you feel. If she doesn't feel the same way, move on. Good luck.
[quote=swish5]Nike said it best, "Just do it."[/quote]
Yes. But how?