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@Player45: Don't, I laughed too.

Online dating men, ppl might think it not real but for some ppl like me it is. Love, what we know is unfindable in an online game. U may not see what the person look
like but if the love on first sight, love will grow. Look, rich doesn't matter, it matter that u guy fit in together, like 2 broken half into a whole. I experince this when i was lv 71,
I was pretending to be a tiger, try to scare/troll ppl, then this gurl come along and say how cute and give me a random name, i remember her ign, stalk her. One day, we talk
our personalities match, i was a noob, she was like lv 160 bishop. Love can grow on a small scale. Online love work out. I have seen a couple in a game actually gettin
Married irl ( not from maple). Me and the bishop had met, irl and we constantly chat on fb, we both webcam. It been 1-1.5 years. The relationship is heading in a good direction

Your dating pixels... WTF

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[quote=Barquifa]This is a game. For children.

Don't date on maple.[/quote]

Thats Just bull

Online relationships are just another way to get along with each other. Sometimes people say things that they usually don't in real life because they feel more comfortable online for some particular reason. Another reason could possibly be building up courage online and applying it to real life.

Does it count if we were already dating when we started playing? :s

pro:you can log off when they annoy you

con:you cant bang her/him and cant physically interact

Ever heard of Catfish:The Tv Show? I think people really can make it with online dating

[quote=WunderKind]I think it's only okay if you see each other through webcam, and have intentions to meet the person after doing so. If not, it's creepy, weird, and won't work.[/quote]

pretty sure it's the other way around... it's creepy if you maple date, but then meeting up in real life is creepier/rape-worthy.

Sounds like a fun topic. My older brother met someone on a different game, and they ended up dating for about 5 years. Moved in together and all that.

Smoothsails covered it pretty well. There is a mutual exchange of personal information in any friendship or relationship. When you're online, you may feel more comfortable than you would in real life, so the exchange of information is accelerated. The problem with this is that an exchange of personal information forms some pretty deep bonds, and these bonds are formed before you have learned the more mundane information. Such as their favorite foods and colors, or the strange quirks they have that you might later find very annoying. You don't get to see how they operate on a day to day basis outside the confines of cyberspace. There is a whole level of interaction that you don't have available to you. This is especially true if you aren't using skype or some other form of video chat. You'll tend to fill in the gaps with fantasy, which can only lead to disappointment when those fantasies are disproved.

Dating people randomly online and in Maple specifically is usually using the guy/girl for NX and mesos. Really sad. This is USUALLY the case, though some people have married people who have played Maple with them and lived happily ever after. My opinion is that get to know them well enough, and I mean like EVERY LITTLE DETAIL before committing yourself into a relationship. And don't fall for their evil deeds like them asking for more and more stuff like NX.

The problem isn't with the nature of online dating but rather the age or maturity level we see in participating parties from this game. This game is targeted at teens and you don't see a lot of high school sweet hearts in life. Let alone the ability to do this without a physical relationship - we all have urges. Expecting people who naturally want to explore life's options and are not content to settle down to slow down because they met someone online is silly. I have done a lot of online dating myself and it has actually led to a real relationship. We have been living together now for 1.5 years after having moved across the country to be together.

Remember that at a younger age it is hard to project yourself in the future. It is hard to say you want to be with someone long term because you have lived such a small fraction of your life. Well I mean, it is easy to say it, and maybe you are sincere, but that doesn't mean you understand what you are saying. If you enter an online relationship with no goals of actually meeting and being with this person, it is only a fix. This could be a stepping stone to something better but as it is, without the want to actually be together, you are missing out ona lot of fundamental parts of a relationship that change the entire way you will interact with this person. Online all you can do is listen to thier problems and help them out and vice versa, you are not actually part of their real life. They may think of you all day but you don;t actually experience life with them. you don;t go through the thick and thin with them. You are able to sit behind a computer and say that you understand and think of everything you type before hitting enter. It is easy to fall for someone in such ideal conditions.

Of course, as was stated, the success of this all lays with BOTH parties maturity level. If they are ready to take the plunge, it really can work out.

A massive massive danger point in online dating is how rapidly you get to know each other. People get a sense of security that allows them to divulge a lot about themselves very quickly to a person in anonymity. In real life you would date and see each other every so often but online has constant exposure that quickly accelerates the "Getting to know each other" process. This sounds good, cut out the fat and get to the feels, but from a lot of experience I can tell you it takes away from being able to talk to them. You lose things to talk about rapidly, boredom overcomes a lot of very strong couples and irritability sky rockets. During times like these it is easy to let people go over small mistakes or trap them with questions you know have no answer you want to hear.

As far as friendship goes, there is definitely a high level of bonding on games. A game like wow where you are on voice programs like vent a lot of the day allow you to get to meet people in a very personal way and long term exposure often leads to genuine concern about the person and their well being. Understand that even in real life, friends come and go despite all of those motivational pictures saying Bff lol omg. As your personality changes, you and your friends will lose interest in things you had in common and it just wont make sense to hang out. You drift apart and it is completely natural. the same applies to games where you bond over common interests like bossing or leveling and then if one changes their style, either you follow or spend less time doing what you used to do allowing separation. You will also notice that despite being exposed and hardened to trolling and rude people, someone you build respect for online still have the ability to hurt your pride, make you depressed or even fill you with a sense of accomplishment.

Remember that people who game online in a more then casual basis tend to put a lot of themselves in the game. they treat it like a hobby and they are actually proud of what they do. It is very easy when on a game like this, goals are so clean cut and force most players to have a lot in common.

[quote=marilanna]This. An online relationship is very different from its more childish counterpart, the exclusively in-game relationship.

If the two of you ONLY talk while on Maple, clearly it won't make a good transition into real life, and you can't be in a relationship with pixels forever.[/quote]

Preach ma sista!

[quote=mikeee]i've known people who met up irl after having ms relationships[/quote]

I met these two people who met in Maple, started dating and stuff, and stopped after around half a year or so. However, they learned that they live just a 20-40 minute drive from each other (near Toronto) and they added each other (and myself) on Facebook. Now they are still really great internet friends. So it comes to show that, sure their relationship didn't work out, but their bond still exists.

- Had a relationship online for 2 years
- Decide to meet her
- Happiest time of my life for 8 months
- She hates me for not being "perfect" as I was onlne
- Wtf

Well sometimes it works out sometimes... it fails. In my case it's working <3 I've already met my girlfriend in real life and planning on seeing her again soon for Christmas~

This is a game. For children.

Don't date on maple.

To be honest, I used to be so against online dating.

Then...it happened to me lol.

But really, if both people are adults and committed, I do think it can work out. I wouldn't advise online dating if you're still in high school, nor is it something that is for people who are constantly in and out of relationships. It is a very big commitment and it takes a lot of patience, trust, and sacrifice. A pro would be that it does indeed force you to communicate with each other, which in my book is a definite foundation of a stable relationship. I'd recommend both individuals have a strong sense of independence from each other, as well, yet not to the point of not talking to each other for days. It's just not good to be constantly texting/mapling/skyping/etc so much that it detracts from your friends and family.

However, if the relationship is purely online and there is no plan on ever meeting each other face to face, I think it's pretty pointless. Obvious con would be lack of.. being able to spend time with each other and do things together without the use of electronic devices.

friendship: sure.

[quote=WunderKind]I think it's only okay if you see each other through webcam, and have intentions to meet the person after doing so. If not, it's creepy, weird, and won't work.[/quote]

This. An online relationship is very different from its more childish counterpart, the exclusively in-game relationship.

If the two of you ONLY talk while on Maple, clearly it won't make a good transition into real life, and you can't be in a relationship with pixels forever.

If you really want one and you see the person/whatever sure who cares.

I think they're not as...hm...legitimate? Unless the couple has actually met in real life. There are a myriad subtle nuances about a person which can only be sensed in person, so I think to bond as much as you can with someone, you have to know what they're like in person.

Maplestory? Why not eHarmony? <3

maplestory: no commitment, just for fun, doesn't really get any farther than the game, for those seeking a companion lol