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What is it with guys and fixing problems? I noticed the other day that whenever I talk about problems (small, random, not-important ones) like hw, or how I have a cruddy memory, or just complaining about something in general in order to relieve stress, they usually immediately start offering suggestions for how to fix things. I don't mind, but I'm not looking for answers a lot of the time b/c most of the time I can find an answer just fine on my own. So I was wondering guys, if someone talks about a problem to you, do you immediately take it as a plea for help? Do guys only talk about their problems when seeking help, and never just to complain? Most of the time my immediate frame of mind upon hearing about someone's issues would be to say

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A Question for the Guys A friend of mine said that guys like being depended on by the girlfriends and doing stuff for them so that they can feel like they're taking care of them or something. I was kind of skeptical about this, or I can't really empathize. I'm really lazy, so the idea of being happy to do stuff for someone else is kind of alien to me. All those really bored looking guys sitting around in clothes stores in the mall while their girlfriends / female relatives shop can't be having a blast. So Basil, please enlighten me. What is your opinion on doing tasks for a significant other, such as shopping / carrying stuff, helping to fix things, etc? I always thought they were necessary evil kind of things, not that guys were happy to b

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He's so unreasonably happy to be going out with me. :( I mean, it's not bad that he's happy, but I like him nowhere near as much as he likes me. Actually, I'm not sure if I like him like that at all, but he's my closest guy friend. And I sort of feel like I'm using him since he's so nice to me / does so much / would probably do whatever I wanted. When he asked me out, I thought to myself, "Well, it'd be interesting to see what having a boyfriend's like," since I've never really felt the need for one. Now that we've been going out for a bit, I don't know if I like him anymore than I used to when we were just friends. Sure, the hugging and cuddling (and occasional free food) is nice and all, but if he told me he wanted to break up b

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Should I apologize? So two or three years ago, I once took this semester-long class where we had to do a lab every ...week or two? I can't quite remember anymore. Anyways, we had to have a lab partner for the entire class. I admit my lab partner (let's call him Bob) did more work than I did, because whenever I had a test or something coming up and I'd put off studying till last minute, I'd..sort of stop working on the lab and just study instead, leaving him to do a lot of the work. And then he'd have to explain to me what he did, so I could answer questions about it when it came time to turn it in. I felt bad about him having to do so much, so I did an entire lab by myself once, although it turned out later I'd messed up a part of it and ha

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My boyfriend is cheap. How do I make him understand why this makes me unhappy, without sounding like a gold digger? We have been going out for over a year. I didn't get a birthday present. I told him not to get me anything for Christmas. For Valentines he gave me a Twix and a pack of Reese's he got for free from work. Granted, I didn't give him any presents either. He asked me out on a date once to some Italian place, because he had a coupon for buy one pasta dish get one free. Then it turned out he read it wrong and he would have to pay for both of our entrees, and so he said "Hey, I've been thinking that I've been picking up an unfair amount of the bill lately and it's been bothering me, so can we split this one?" It was $30 tot

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If you pay for someones food, do you have the right / is it socially acceptable to take their leftovers, assuming they have any? And I don't mean like bringing a bag of chips to a party. I was arguing with someone today about this. o_o [quote=simuthetheif]wait do you mean as in they don't finish and ask for it to be packed up to take home? or they can't finish and it's either you eat it or it's getting thrown out I assumed the latter when i answered if you mean they want to pack it up and you say since you paid you're taking it home...that theoretically makes sense but it's kinda super awkward I'd think :P[/quote] They are not going to just leave it, they want to pack it up to take home.

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Dear Basil, I got cussed at by a policeman today Or tonight, I guess I should say? I was on a highway entry ramp, when I see a motorcycle switching on to my lane. I can't really see too much of it at all, just pretty quickly flashing red taillights on it. I don't know what it means, I figure police lights are red and blue, and this guy's just driving really slowly on the top of the ramp. I thought maybe they were weird looking emergency lights, and I try to go around him on the right / shoulder because there are people driving on the lane to the left. Next think I know I hear a honk and look back, and whaddya know, he's flashing red and blue and has a shiny reflective yellow vest that says 'police'. I get pulled over, so I roll down the win