Im scared my sister is going to kill herself
My sister is 19 years old and she has depressed ever since she was a junoir in highschool. She started to not go to school alot because she was depressed. after she barely graduated she went to seattle to some school to help kids out. She came back home after 6 months cuz of depression again. later that year she went to college but came back after a month. Then 5 months later she went to a different college but came back after 2 weeks. she never takes care of her teeth and now she just got back from the dentist she has 10 cavities. I hear her talking to my mom and she says she hates her life and wants to die. i am very scared that she will kill herself and i dont want her to cuz i love her and life wouldnt be the same without her. i don't know what to do i am to scared to go anywhere cuz then i think she will kill herself when no1 is home.
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[quote=Jarretboyle]Why do you assume I'm not aware of this? O_O There's nothing suggesting she has clinical depression. You can certainly be depressed about something for a few years and not clinical depressed. If your saying it's not impossible then I'm clincally depressed but I got over it after it lasted 5 years lol[/quote]
The fact that her health is deteriorating, she has contemplated suicide, she's asking for help, [b]and[/b] it's been 6 years with no signs of improvement is substantial evidence that she may need to see a doctor or at the very least get some therapy.
10 cavities? 10? Loll if your sis has 10 cavities then she probably wants to kill herself cuz her jaw hurts so much
but in all seriousness, get professional help.
[quote=Watermelon]She decided and wanted to give up her life. That's her decision and you should respect it. She doesn't respect her life either. The depression might have become so strong that she's already suffering, it's better to finish her ASAP. No one deserves to suffer.[/quote]
Any problem can be solved with a little mental adjustments and therapy. Suicide is a solution to a curable problem.
What do I mean on this? Suicide is not a way to end suffering. That person may think that is the only way out, but think of all the other people that will be depressed because that person is gone. The best way to consult a therapist or a close friend or family member they can relate to.
@Jarretboyle: You need to go take a class on Neurological Psychology and Mental Disorders.
Clinical Depression is a full-blown medical concern; it isn't based on being unhappy or just being bummed out about something.
There are things that can affect your brain that can make you physically and mentally unable to cope or makes you predisposed to disorders like these.
maybe she lacking her love life?
[quote=Jarretboyle]A lot of you guys..should never talk to another human being ever LOL
Depression is silly, I've been depressed and I got over it. This person can to..it's not difficult. They need a person to actually listen to their story and troubles; their very very ego-centric so if you don't focus on them; just makes it worse. If the person kills themselves, then good riddance to a coward who can't overcome a petty emotional or physical problem.
Problem typically is finding somebody who cares which most of you do not care from what I seen, which also puts you in the category of 'good riddance' when you die
@Above Your not suppose to look on the brighter side Your suppose to deal with the current problem, I didn't get over my depression by looking into the future. I dealt with it and overcame it.[/quote]
You're confusing "being depressed" with [url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clinical_depression]depression[/url].
And even if we're talking about "being depressed", your advice is horrible and you're a horrible person to call depressed people "egocentric" and putting them in a "good-riddance" category.
[quote=Cva123]You need to make death seem worse than living. Than she will realize to live for as long as she can instead of dieing. Though it sounds like a terrible idea...its the only one you got. Good luck my friend on saving your sister.[/quote]
At this point, I don't think pep talks will make someone feel better, especially when someone's been severely depressed for more than half a year.
Those type of people need professional help.
She sounds like she may need professional help (aka, tell her to talk to a counselor or seek a psychologist).
[quote=Watermelon]She wanted to suicide and that's her decision. She's already 19 years old and the depression has been bothering her for at least one year. This is very close to euthanasia where you rather see them leave the world happily instead of suffering until that day.[/quote]
Yeah, this not even similar and I'm frankly appalled with your opinion.
Really, just talk to her, and try to make her feel better, do some fun things that she likes to do. Also, because she said she want to die, the chances of her commiting suicide is slim, cuz most of the people who kill themselvs dont leave a note, and hey dont tell anyone
Well Seattle is the worst place to go first of all. It's ranked one of the most suicidal cities of the world. Probably because it rains, but anyways...
I've heard of great remedies to cure depression without any of those horrible drugs. I've heard these tips from random discussions that my English teacher was ranting about how our world is messed up and a couple from health class. I think the one about Seattle is from my 20th Cent US History class. But here you go.
-Chocolate and taking walks have just as much or even more of an effect than those drugs.
-Also I think the mitosin or whatever its called in the sun helps remedy bad moods. So your sister has to gotta stop staying home.
-Religion is what also keeps many people sane. I'm not promoting any one of them, but the true purpose of religion in the first place was to give a reason for something in life. That's where you get creationism and such and if you get those, a reason to live is surly there. You hear it all the time in pop culture about someone who found the ways of God and got out of drug dealing or whatever. I for one don't practice any sort of religion (or yet) so asking me to choose one is something I can't help you out with.
That's all I got. It might be also good that you confront her too.
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Why would she come here to Seattle if she was already depressed? Seasonal depression is strong in Seattle
@Watermelon:
[quote=Sum1outthere]@Watermelon: well. they should atleast trrry helping her before she..thinks abt that or smthing.[/quote]
She had over 6 months to get out of depression. She will have problems to survive in the current world. Economy is bad and she has 10 cavities. I know it's to even think of someone suiciding but sometimes it's a better choice. Just don't commit a suicide where you can disrupt other people's life.
@Watermelon: well. they should atleast trrry helping her before she..thinks abt that or smthing.
[quote=Sum1outthere]um. i think this watermelon guy is really wrong. she just needs to see the brighter side of life. she needs someone to just show her and help her out of the depression...yeah no one deserves to suffer, but that doesnt mean anyone feels down or whatevr they should go kill themself o.o[/quote]
She wanted to suicide and that's her decision. She's already 19 years old and the depression has been bothering her for at least one year. This is very close to euthanasia where you rather see them leave the world happily instead of suffering until that day.
[quote=CountOnMe2]Cavities came out of nowhere lol. If you're really that worried talk to her about it show your deepest concern if that doesnt work her path of life is her choice it'll happen sooner or later.[/quote]
The cavities are clearly the reason why she wants to die.
OT: But, since she told someone, the chances of her dying anytime soon are pretty slim.
um. i think this watermelon guy is really wrong. she just needs to see the brighter side of life. she needs someone to just show her and help her out of the depression...yeah no one deserves to suffer, but that doesnt mean anyone feels down or whatevr they should go kill themself o.o
She decided and wanted to give up her life. That's her decision and you should respect it. She doesn't respect her life either. The depression might have become so strong that she's already suffering, it's better to finish her ASAP. No one deserves to suffer.
Sounds like the solution to this problem is to take care of the cavities. Take care of them and no more depressed sister.
[quote=Sum1outthere]you should try talking to her and tell her how u feel about her and how much u love her and howd u feel if something were to happen to her. knowing the problem and trying to comfort her would help[/quote]
this. express your concern, and stuff.
You need to make death seem worse than living. Than she will realize to live for as long as she can instead of dieing. Though it sounds like a terrible idea...its the only one you got. Good luck my friend on saving your sister.
buy her something that will make her happy. maybe a ps3.
Sounds like she needs a good friend who's been through this stuff before to be there with her and a therapist. There's most likely a cause of what started this and multiple things that add to it.
you should try talking to her and tell her how u feel about her and how much u love her and howd u feel if something were to happen to her. knowing the problem and trying to comfort her would help
Have a serious discussion with her, and just be there to support her. Urge her not to contemplate suicide, that you love her dearly and would not want to see her go. Ask family members and relatives to talk with her, or get her an appointment with a clinical psychologist. Hope it all works out for you.
Cavities came out of nowhere lol. If you're really that worried talk to her about it show your deepest concern if that doesnt work her path of life is her choice it'll happen sooner or later.