dealing with parents
My mom is extremely judgmental and always jumps to conclusions. It gets to the point where she gets so caught up in her opinion that she'll yell at me for 10 minutes over something that doesn't even concern me. On Saturday night, I had a little too much fun and managed to leave a party shoeless to come home barefoot. I thought someone stole them but they just ended up getting pushed in a closet >____> She didn't care because I bought them with my own money. But then she goes off ranting about the kind of people I'm hanging out with, when half my friends don't even drink or do drugs. My dad used to drive us around lots before I we started getting our licenses and he knows I hang out with a good group of kids. She kept on going on about how back in the day, nothing like that would ever happen. Then she says someone who steals used shoes is going to be sooo regretful and feel stupid when they're older. At this point my dad and I just looked at each other like "wow" and I walked out of the room. She got all pissy for me leaving while she was talking, so I told her she was being stupid and that didn't help at all lol.
I go to class everyday, do my homework, only drink about 5 times a year and I quit treating weed like a lifestyle and just use it socially now. I feel like I can do everything wrong with my life (been there) or do everything right (working on it) and I just get criticized constantly.
How do I go about this basil? I can't talk to my mom for more than 30 seconds at a time without getting lectured about things out of my control. I get migraines from stressing out about this and I feel like I'm months away from living in my car just to avoid her.
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@gr3nd31: Thanks =)!
@gr3nd31: Lol the awkwardness... I have an idea for it already, but it's 5th on my list.
yea man, its true, even though i know exactly what your talking about, we all do grow up. give it sometime and relax man, soon you wont get to see them as much as you would like, have fun while your still doing all that crazy high school stuff because i don't think it will last much longer: take it easy
yea, my mom used to be really judgmental like that until i had this really bad emotional thing happen to me, and she kind of realized how i was feeling.
from this, i can tell you to either start crying or talk it out with her.
Your mom just cares about you. Sadly that's their job..
Your mom isn't that bad. She just wants you to become more responsible.
[quote=pollood]I'm sure she did it because she loves you o__o[/quote]
That reasoning stopped working on me a lonnnggg time ago...
OT: Tough it out, I'm in the same boat. Freedom will feel sweet, my friend. Except I'm living at home for some of college, so you're a tad luckier in that part
I'm in 10th grade and I just turned 16 ._. so hopefully in two years me and some of my friends can get jobs and money and pitch in for an apartment c:
Until then I really don't have anything to complain about. The only thing I hate in my house is all the fighting that goes on over stupid things and when my dads in the house my moms inner hell is released. THATS the only thing I would LOVE to get away from.
I'm sure she did it because she loves you o__o
[quote=5hezam]I'm in grade 11 also, I'm with a religious family so my parents would kill me if I had a gf and they ask so much questions if they see me talk to a girl. My parents don't let me go hang out with my friends unless its sports, the movies(nearby theater), or after school stuff. If I drink or smoke I would also be killed(but I wouldn't want to do it any). My curfew for coming home from school is 6 o clock, not a minute late. Woah you got to go a party? I wish I was allowed to go to a party with girls.
You shouldn't complain man.[/quote]
ahaha I bring girls home for a little after school fun then drop them off before my parents get home. get to my house at around 3:15, parents get home at 5:30 so we have plenty of time
also I lied and said I was going to my friend's house. last time I told them I was partying they phoned me like 3 times during the night, made me give them the address and they stayed up until I got home to see if I was drunk / high.
@DerpHurrDer: I'm on great terms with my dad. Our house is getting close to 30 years old so we're constantly doing renovations, and I'm always helping. I shovel our stupid big drive way without them asking, and I clean the kitchen, my bedroom, my bathroom and basement almost daily. He appreciates it so much that I do a ton of stuff without him asking, while my mom never says thank you or even acknowledges my work unless if it benefits her directly.
Walking out the room while she was talking wasn't too good of an idea, my dad would go ape crap when I used to do that. Do whatever you can to please your parents, even if you don't agree.
@lolomgbbq: none of my close friends have to deal with this kind of crap ;____;
@DerpHurrDer: Grade 11. Both my siblings moved out at 19, 99% of the reason being to get away from our mom
Most of basil have the same problem too.