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Girlfriend a little too competitive on Ms

My gf is awesome, she's pretty and she's a gamer so I was instantly attracted to her when I met her.

I introduced her to MS and we started new chars together and now she's around ~165
I have been playing since before 4th job existed so naturally I am better at merching, leveling, etc because I have spent so much time on MS.
Her range is better than average and she has solid play skill when we go bossing and stuff but she often gets upset that I am better. (my range is roughly 6k higher lol..)
I try to help her learn to merch and what not but she is fairly stubborn and won't take my advice. I don't want to give her hand-me-outs either because then she would never learn how to be self sufficient.

[b]the issue[/b]
Today she said she no longer wants to play with me at all because me being better makes her upset... but she still wants to play MS, just not with me.
Our relationship outside of MS is awesome and getting better every day so that's not an issue.

What do? It just seems a little selfish of her.. she is one of the main reasons I came back to MS.
She's on basil, but I won't mention her name, and I don't mind if she reads this. Hi.

[b]SHORT VERSION:[/b] my character is stronger than my girlfriends so she no longer wants to play with me, but still wants to play MS. Wutdo

March 15, 2013

41 Comments • Newest first

Duckynater

[quote=Yelloh]lol light rifle.

But yeah OP. Tell her it's no big deal and that if it really bothers her so much she should just play something different. She sounds like the type who wants to dominate you. Don't let that happen. Be real with her. Don't let it get to her head. Otherwise your in for some bad mapling times ahead my friend.[/quote]
Yeah, I find the system 343 went with on Halo 4 to be a bad step on multiplayer. But to be fair, if you played for about and hour and 30 minuets you could probably have the light rifle unlocked. I use the BR because I want it to be fair for all the new people, I never bought the light rifle yet, never will. I'll just pick it up from the ground.

Reply March 15, 2013
Yureiaa

My boyfriend and I had this problem. The best thing I did was tell him to chill out before this in-game competitive attitude became an issue in person.

Of course, if your girl is the "Fine, don't talk to me at all" kind of chick when it comes to confrontation, I wish you the best of luck.

Reply March 15, 2013
gible1235

play league of legend with her
or just do somethhing like pq or thing thats fun without including damage

Reply March 15, 2013
Genostigma

The relationship IRL is the one that matters, so if you have that in check then GG. However, if you leave her wandering along in MS, slight chance she'll meet her true Sancho (and get free funds) and it'll be "Hasta la Vista" for you....baby <3

Reply March 15, 2013
nodurr

[quote=xlisalala]As sweet and well-meaning as this is, at the end of the day, you're her boyfriend, not her father. Sometimes your job is to just suck it up in order to make her happy. Her father was the one who should have been teaching her the life lessons.[/quote]

I agree 100% with this lady. Boyfriends aren't really suppose to teach you life lessons. Suppose to shower you with gifts and take care of you, haha but not totally spoiled just enough you know.

Reply March 15, 2013
BIueee

[quote=outfoxed]become an nx hoe. it's way more fun[/quote]

This.

Reply March 15, 2013
alonsorock

Make a Drk

No offense to Drks, i love Drks too so dont judge me wrong

Reply March 15, 2013
outfoxed

become an nx hoe. it's way more fun

Reply March 15, 2013
MmmmmHmm

happy wife = happy life

nuff said

Reply March 15, 2013
trm1

Shes sexually frustrated

Reply March 15, 2013
marchiris

make a new character thats about same lvl and dmg as her, and play with her on that.

her problem is that you're too OP compared to her, which is understandable. it squishes woman's pride like a jelly

funding her will do the same thing, she'll feel bad since you're paying money on her character. and it makes it feel like she ows you something. like she's Golddigging you.
Obviously shes not interested in merching, so don't push her. some ppl dont like merching (me included, the sigh of fm make me wanna puke)

so make another char and play with her on that

Reply March 15, 2013
oneredsockk

I laugh at the people who take this seriously.

Reply March 15, 2013
Green4EVER

Whatever you do, do not fund her. Funding her is babying her and she'll never learn. Plus, it makes her look like a gold digger and once you start funding her she'll just keep wanting more and more.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
Yelloh

[quote=Duckynater]Halo it doesn't matter if you're level 80 and prestiged like 5 times before, its all skill so your girlfriend won't be mad when she's not leveling fast enough. Hope you find a game that you two can both play and have fun in together.[/quote]
lol light rifle.

But yeah OP. Tell her it's no big deal and that if it really bothers her so much she should just play something different. She sounds like the type who wants to dominate you. Don't let that happen. Be real with her. Don't let it get to her head. Otherwise your in for some bad mapling times ahead my friend.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
caryofilles

@manchester8: Because his GF just wants to be stronger. This will make her think she is stronger? Idk, I was just throwing out an idea.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
Ecoutie

Just let her play alone if this is the attitude that you have. After a while she might get bored and be willing to negotiate. Another option is playing different classes. Or not discussing equips and damage at all. Maybe the reason she's jealous and competitive is because you brag a lot?

I personally think @Dorks has the right idea. Are you and your girlfriend partners? If so, does that only extend to romantic aspects of your relationship. Or could you also be business partners? I'd encourage you two (if you're pretty serious about each other) to start pooling your wealth so to speak and working together to keep improving. Make decisions not out of greed or a desire to get better alone, but to help each other. Talk to each other and prioritize your wants/needs. Then work together to fulfill them. Perhaps by taking turns with purchases and helping each other look for deals. IDK. Yeah!

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
Dorks

If you have the money to fund her, then you should. But only if she doesn't have minimum equips, like % stats or a scrolled weapon. Other than that, a new little virtual weapon isn't so bad.
I do more merching than my boyfriend and we still split the money/spending stuff. So even though I have the money on me, he can say no to buying it (since I like NX clothes).

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
AndonG321

[quote=Duckynater]Play a game that's not level and equipment based, play a game that caters to the skilled. It seems you two are cool, just not in Maple. You see every person has their own personality and her's is "~I wanna be the very best, like no one ever was.~". She wants to win and will get mad at anything that stands in her way, am I right so far? So play a competitive game that you can work together on, so that way if you guy's lose she'll be mad at the other players and not you. May I suggest Halo. In Halo it doesn't matter if you're level 80 and prestiged like 5 times before, its all skill so your girlfriend won't be mad when she's not leveling fast enough. Hope you find a game that you two can both play and have fun in together.[/quote]

Thanks for your response dude
I'll have to check some other titles out. No XBL for me so halo is kind of out but I'll look around

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
manchester8

[quote=Duckynater]Play a game that's not level and equipment based, play a game that caters to the skilled. It seems you two are cool, just not in Maple. You see every person has their own personality and her's is "~I wanna be the very best, like no one ever was.~". She wants to win and will get mad at anything that stands in her way, am I right so far? So play a competitive game that you can work together on, so that way if you guy's lose she'll be mad at the other players and not you. May I suggest Halo. In Halo it doesn't matter if you're level 80 and prestiged like 5 times before, its all skill so your girlfriend won't be mad when she's not leveling fast enough. Hope you find a game that you two can both play and have fun in together.[/quote]

Halo 4 ftw. Dmr.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
Duckynater

Play a game that's not level and equipment based, play a game that caters to the skilled. It seems you two are cool, just not in Maple. You see every person has their own personality and her's is "~I wanna be the very best, like no one ever was.~". She wants to win and will get mad at anything that stands in her way, am I right so far? So play a competitive game that you can work together on, so that way if you guy's lose she'll be mad at the other players and not you. May I suggest Halo. In Halo it doesn't matter if you're level 80 and prestiged like 5 times before, its all skill so your girlfriend won't be mad when she's not leveling fast enough. Hope you find a game that you two can both play and have fun in together.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
AndonG321

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Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
manchester8

[quote=caryofilles]Say you got hacked and decrease your range by switching out things when with her.[/quote]

Why decrease range when it can favor her by killing mobs faster and gain exp.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
caryofilles

Say you got hacked and decrease your range by switching out things when with her.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
d4rkxStrIfe

And how old are you two?

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
manchester8

@AndonG321: that or you talk about it, but as you stated she being stubborn she won't want to talk about it. So just train with friends i suppose, but if she wouldn't care she wouldn't say "i dont want to play with you on MS"

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
HolyDragon

By the way, you don't want to do anything for her. You'll just seem like you're patronizing or belittling her.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
AndonG321

[quote=manchester8]She's just butt hurt. You should just either create a new character, train alone, or let give her that disappointment look.[/quote]

Yea aight I'll just play with my other friend I have on MS. She's chill as doesn't really care if I have better or worse gear

*sigh* @ my situation though
F7 disappointed look hahaaha

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
manchester8

[quote=AndonG321]She's pretty, rides motorbikes is cool in general, has a great sense of humor and play games.
The gamer thing wasn't the trigger of the instant attraction, it was the whole package.
Gaming gives you something to talk about that is actually interesting. Most non-gamer girls who aren't intellectual want to talk about boring rubbish like TV shows etc..

Can we keep on topic, what do I do about the current situation? I don't want to fund her, I don't want to stop playing with her and I don't want to spank her?[/quote]

She's just butt hurt. You should just either create a new character, train alone, or let give her that disappointment look.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
AndonG321

[quote=metaghost4]I don't understand the instant attraction to gamer girls. Sure I understand girls playing games w/ their friends or bf and some by themselves is a plus, but what makes a hardcore gamer girl better?[/quote]

She's pretty, rides motorbikes is cool in general, has a great sense of humor and play games.
The gamer thing wasn't the trigger of the instant attraction, it was the whole package.
Gaming gives you something to talk about that is actually interesting. Most non-gamer girls who aren't intellectual want to talk about boring rubbish like TV shows etc..

Can we keep on topic, what do I do about the current situation? I don't want to fund her, I don't want to stop playing with her and I don't want to spank her?

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
manchester8

Don't train with her. Let her train by herself. Get to 200 and see who's better then.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
SlashNStab

Play another game.. Bloody MS is just all about stupid damage now.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
Barquifa

extremely childish. do you wanna be with a child or a woman?

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
AndonG321

[quote=lilyzors]Just fund her. Lol.[/quote]

I don't want to fund her, I am only just stronger than her and I want her to be self sufficient. I want her to achieve a high range and say "look what I have accomplished", not "thanks andy for giving me all this pro gear"

[quote=AlterSniper]you betta get yo woman in check brutha[/quote]

word

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
Stat

you let go 6k of your range by donating the items to me, simple!

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
d3eath4ng3elx

its simple, take off some of ur equipment so you will have a lower range OR you play a character that has low range but has high dmg output through % skills for Ex: nl range=not good but they have good % per second dmg

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
HolyDragon

Hard to believe actually. Just let her pride run its course.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
AmyrIin

posts like these make you wonder what really matters in life

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
xradioKILLA

quit together

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
Croodle

Hack her account.

Actually, no. Don't do that.

Reply March 15, 2013 - edited
Skaia

fund her

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