So there is this girl
So there this girl I know for few years now and we talk a lot.
We were at a party on Friday together and we ended up just talking for 2 hours straight.
On the weekend she was messaging me and we made a meet up after school beside the library on Monday, I told her I can't because I got work so we made it today.
We met up and we ended up going to a food place next to the library. We order our food, we talked what was going at work, talked about other friends, and out of the blue she asked me out!
I was like "wow!"
I was weird because I saw this girl as a really close friend, I told her that I can't be with her because our friendship is like brother and sister.
I can tell she got upset and was really quiet in the rest of the meal. I finished my meal and she said something like don't tell our friends about that thing that she asked me out and I was like "ya" (reason why there is no names in this thread).
I went on Facebook a few minutes ago and on my news feed I saw that she posted this link
http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/d9/5e/bc/d95ebce08ee97acfdf0d39f347f2479f.jpg
I clicked on her name and saw that she posted this before (i guess when she came back home or something)
http://fbcdn-photos-g-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-prn1/934622_597152800336544_515857711_n.jpg
[b]Had any situation like this before where you had to reject someone because you see them as a close friend?[/b]
[b]or have you been rejected?[/b]
I guess I can relate to her because I been rejected job offers in the past but I never made a facebook post about it.
I don't know what to say to her, it isn't even my fault, I didn't like her... o.o
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do you see her differently now? like would you change the things you say to her at all? you should also try and help her get over you
[quote=fradddd]@Gyumaru: is it bad that I just wanna do it with all my female acquaintances.[/quote]
no its normal brah
@Gyumaru: is it bad that I just wanna do it with all my female acquaintances.
Yeah.
At least she was cool with it after one to two weeks though.
[quote=fradddd]@Blackest: I didn't know guys can become friends with girls they don't find slightly attractive. It's just instinct. Or it should be...[/quote]
i always tought the same thing, guys can't be friends with girls they don't find attractive, I can't...
@Blackest: I didn't know guys can become friends with girls they don't find slightly attractive. It's just instinct. Or it should be...
Wow I'm impressed, but you shouldn't suffocate yourself with your career/school. Sure, those things are the main priority now but in the long run, being in a relationship will be more meaningful if things do go great with her. You can date her but she can understand that you have "more important" things to focus on (don't say that directly, just say that you are trying to maintain balance).
It'll take a while, but try to get back to your "normal" with her I guess? But don't act like it never happened because that's like insulting her feelings. The facebook stuff you can probably ignore because that's just how girls cope (this coming from a girl). Don't spend too much time with her alone too because that would be awk.
I rejected someone once. And then I avoided him.
just be nice to her like give hugs, kisses or whatever then see how things turn out later down the road you might start viewing her as more then just a friend
You'll know when is the right time.
10/10 if troll tho.
It's nice to see that not all basilers are insanely desperate.
she knows you stalk her fb, abort ABORT
Inb4 you never get asked out again and end up having no girlfriend in ur whole life time and end up suiciding.
You dodged a bullet there OP. Those pictures made me cringe.
What were you thinking OP!
You will never have this chance again with another girl and you know it.
[quote=BBD]I am so focused on getting a nice carrier at the moment, at the moment I have a nice job and I am sucking up so much for promotions and eventually I want to hit the 100k mark. I don't think I can focus on a woman, a carrier, and update my school at the same time.[/quote]
my bad for going all grammar nazi on your ass but did you mean to say career
[quote=NoCoply]Are you ghey? Go out with her see what happens. Or friends with benefits is also a possibility [/quote]
I am so focused on getting a nice career at the moment, at the moment I have a nice job and I am sucking up so much for promotions and eventually I want to hit the 100k mark. I don't think I can focus on a woman, a career, and update my school at the same time.
Edit: thanks below, i was eating and typing, so I guess my train of thought was not focused.
[quote=BBD]@Patrician @Unsilenced ya a part of me does want to make distance for a while, but I can't just 100% ignore her. My plan was to let her talk to me (so that means she is ready), but that awkward silent when we meet again.
@Ipoopster [b]she is hot[/b], but the golden gates ruins friendships[/quote]
Are you ghey? Go out with her see what happens. Or friends with benefits is also a possibility
[quote=fradddd]You friendzoned a female who you're obviously already compatible with?
What the hell is wrong with you?[/quote]
He could have been nervous.
He may not be looking for a relationship.
Maybe she's not super physically attractive to him.
Maybe he's talking to other girls and has options.
You friendzoned a female who you're obviously already compatible with?
What the hell is wrong with you?
@Patrician @Unsilenced ya a part of me does want to make distance for a while, but I can't just 100% ignore her. My plan was to let her talk to me (so that means she is ready), but that awkward silent when we meet again.
@Ipoopster she is hot, but the golden gates ruins friendships
[quote=Blackest]why do you ignore me bae[/quote]
If this post gets 500 likes and 5 RT, I will not ignore my bae
[quote=WontPostMuch]Lol A+ parody of friend zone posts. Good job.[/quote]
why do you ignore me bae
Lol A+ parody of friend zone posts. Good job.
Any time you invest time in someone, you run the (extremely probable) risk of giving them the wrong idea and playing with their heart (No matter how unintentional it may be). The only way to avoid that is to be clear up front that you're not interested in a relationship. This can be awkward to explain at the outset, but when it is reinforced later, there are no false expectations being crushed.
Not a whole lot you can do at this point besides apologize, be as clear as possible, and probably distance yourself to avoid causing further damage.
tap into the golden gates then run away.
It happens, ignore it because its obvious she has imagined a fantasy in her head of the two of you (link 2) and that reality has hit her (link 1).
lol a friend-zoned female
what is this