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Yes, expectations of which I made for myself bc my parents dont push me which is good and bad at the same time.

are u kidding me? Nope. Sometimes it isn't all about your damn parents cause it's your life. That's what I learned.

Nope.

No. I never seem to be good enough, so my parents say.

@Capricious: indifferent

I don't believe in expectations. I believe people should do what they can and have as much free will as they can.

My parents had super high expectations for me because of my straight A, Stanford attending brother, and I got straight A's until high school. Now I have a 2.9 GPA as a senior in HS and I'll probably go to a state university or something like that.

And yeah, I don't know what other people expect of me. It took them years to get used to the idea that I was "smart". My personality doesn't exactly signal smartness, And now I get bad grades sometimes and they say "I thought you were smart." It's kind of annoying and insulting and retarded that schools have taught us that grades make someone smart.

no and i don't care. expectations are stupid.

I'll have to say no. My parents aren't like those stereotypical Asian parents who are strict and stuff. My parents expect me to make a lot of money in the future. So I told them, I'll become some sort of doctor then. But I keep thinking it's something that won't fulfill my own expectations and happiness.
I want to travel around the world, volunteer my time and money to people in need, do spontaneous things like bungee jumping, sky diving, etc. I know my parents won't want me doing those sorts of things, but it's what I want to do in my future, at the moment.

I overestimate myself most of the time, so I usually don't. But when I do meet my expectations I usually believe that I set my goals too low.

[quote=xDracius]What part of Buddhism conflicts with being a doctor? Besides the possibility of mistreating a patient and killing them, which conflicts with just about everything and not just Buddhism.[/quote]
Well doctors are not allowed to use a certain product, that will truly effectively heal someone, because of the government. They use almost 100% of the time drugs with side negative side effects, and it will make the patient heal something but worsen something too, and Buddhists want true peace.
Buddhism uses a better method for peace, it can heal better than any doctor and should be payed far more than a doctor (this is just my opinion though), since it focuses on the root of sufferance while doctors focus on the seed of sufferance. And Buddhism got a better way to have a better immune system: positivity.
Have a good day!

[quote=PerfectSight]Not really, my mom wants me to become a doctor, but in my opinion it's a totally bad job, since I know a lot about Buddhism,.
My dad doesn't care, I believe.[/quote]

What part of Buddhism conflicts with being a doctor? Besides the possibility of mistreating a patient and killing them, which conflicts with just about everything and not just Buddhism.

OT: To my parents' expectations no. I got a 5 on the first AP I took in my sophomore year, and their only reply was "You could've done better"
I don't live up to my expectations either, because I know that I'm good enough in a lot of things, but I have this nagging feeling that I could do better. Wonder where that came from.

My parents are Asian ~ so no.

Not really, my mom wants me to become a doctor, but in my opinion it's a totally bad job, since I know a lot about Buddhism,.
My dad doesn't care, I believe.

[quote=Capricious]If you don't mind my asking, what exactly did you talk about? :S I don't have a particularly good, open relationship with my folks. I can somewhat open up to my mother, but my father... good lord, he's this larger-than-life shadow that I just cannot escape. I can't talk to him without feeling like a failure... or without having the talk devolve into a lecture. [/quote]

I have no idea what we talked about. It wasn't about anything in particular. I still get lectures and the expectations are there as well, but the conversations were more sincere. Well, basically I just tried to get to know them.

[quote=Pereeia]I get good grades and that makes my mom happy. My dad wants me to be more feminine but that will probably never happen. Dunno about friends/extended family.[/quote]

Hi Paria.
I remember you from dat guild.

No, everyone in my family goes on about how smart I was as a kid, how smart I should be, and how I'm gonna do great things.
I'm lazy and play games all day.

[quote=xoqtprincessxo]Nope not at all. It's probably a difficult thing to do. My parents didn't live up to expectations either. There are these sorts of things too. It's an obnoxious sort of love.
That said, it's gotten better as I've talked to my folks more and more, and to be fair, I've done a good amount of goofing off over the years.[/quote]

If you don't mind my asking, what exactly did you talk about? :S I don't have a particularly good, open relationship with my folks. I can somewhat open up to my mother, but my father... good lord, he's this larger-than-life shadow that I just cannot escape. I can't talk to him without feeling like a failure... or without having the talk devolve into a lecture.

I feel that I exceed expectations. Although I didn't go to some ivy university, my parents are grateful that I had them in mind and am pursuing what I have a passion for. Honestly, I can't recall a time where expectations hindered me or even came to mind, though.

I get good grades and that makes my mom happy. My dad wants me to be more feminine but that will probably never happen. Dunno about friends/extended family.

Nope not at all. It's probably a difficult thing to do. My parents didn't live up to expectations either. There are these sorts of things too. It's an obnoxious sort of love.
That said, it's gotten better as I've talked to my folks more and more, and to be fair, I've done a good amount of goofing off over the years.

I definitely live up to my own expectations. I'm pretty happy with where I am.
I don't think my friends have any expectations of me in terms of academics or careers. They're just people I spend time with because I enjoy their company and vice versa. How my grades are or what job I get doesn't affect that whatsoever.
I don't really know what my parents' expectations are. They accepted years ago that I would never become a doctor because there was one time my mom cut her finger while cooking, it was bleeding profusely and I was the one that cried because I couldn't stand the sight of blood. I was not a child either, I was like 17.

[quote=MegaZord]i don't think my parents have any expectations.[/quote]

Does that make you sad? Or happy?

Tbh, it's depressing and upsetting that I don't live up to my parents expectations... but I'm glad they have expectations of me. I can't explain why, though.

Btw, as a.. uh, note? I guess. My parents don't care much about my career choice - well, my mother doesn't (my father seems adamant on me changing majors to comp. sci) - but they expect me to be this incredibly organized, prepared-for-anything type of person... someone that's so cookie-cutter, that it's frustrating sometimes. They expect me to have the answer to any and all problems life may throw at me, at the age of 20.

As of late I have come to the conclusion that I've spent my life living up to my parents' expectations rather than my own.

My parents like to compare the bad genes they gave me with other kids who have better genes

i don't think my parents have any expectations.

i don't know about my friends, don't really talk about it to them. I definitely don't live up to my parents expectations though, since i'm not becoming a doctor. However, i'm satisfied with where i am in life and the choices i made and accepted that i no longer care about what my parents' think when it comes to my career path.

No one has any expectations for me. Rather I have my own that I can never achieve because I don't know what they are