A girl asked me to prom?
First off, let me point out that I am a guy not a girl as my character would suggest (although I figure most people don't judge your gender off your character at this point).
I mean, there's not much to it. She said we'd be going as friends and that she would buy her own ticket and everything...
However, the whole thing seems awkward (especially with her paying for her part. Even if we did go as friends, I'd probably insist on paying).
First off, not to be sexist, but a girl asking a guy seems a bit weird to me... and it'd be really awkward explaining to others that she asked me.
I don't know what to do! I'd be more than willing to go with her as a friend -- it's just that the given circumstances are a bit odd.
Can anyone give me any advice on what to do? If you were in my shoes how would you respond?
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@Orchid: Anything can be called sexist if you bring it to that. Similarly, it can be considered sexist that it's [i]typically[/i] expected for males to ask females (to prom, to be his spouse, etc), to be expected to earn the main salary, and to suck up their feelings and act "like a man" (as seen when a male cries over something).
[quote=chunchild239]It's not sexist as much as it is following a precedent that many people follow (similar to the precedent of the man proposing to the woman).[/quote]
it's not "offensive", but it's still sexism.
if you're fine with her as a friend then just go with her?
[quote=Orchid]"not to be sexist"
you're sexist[/quote]
It's not sexist as much as it is following a precedent that many people follow (similar to the precedent of the man proposing to the woman).
"not to be sexist"
you're sexist
[quote=irockudontz]What happens in prom stays in prom [/quote]
But you said nothing happens in prom! It's what happens after prom...
@DrHye: You know us highschoolers, we always like to over-complicate things. Also, I guess it's cause I'm extremely self conscience and anything that doesn't typically follow the norm makes me feel weird.
@GlitterPumas: That's what I'd normally think, but I also know that she turned down an offer to go to prom with a moderately rich senior kid.
@andy11247: omgplsno.
What happens in prom stays in prom
[quote=Jennyyy]@chunchild239 I like your pixel! it's qt .
& go with @irockudontz 's suggestion[/quote]
Thanks, I like yours too!
And what suggestion? o.o Didn't he tell me "Nothing happens during prom, it's what happens [i]after[/i] prom that matters" or something like that?
It's just as friends, so why are you looking so deep into this
@zoneflare2: That's what I thought too, but life doesn't always give you lemons so you can't always make lemonade.
I like you. Go to prom with me.
[quote=zoneflare2]Feel sorry for your date[/quote]
You could call it a prom date of convenience. Their friends want me to take them so that they would go. I just don't want to go alone.
She sounds desperate to not look like she has no one to go with.
You could either be nice/sympathetic and go for her or if you don't want to go with her you could just tell her you have someone you want to ask out in mind.
Idk, there was an uprise in girls asking out guys to prom on my senior year.
And you just go as friends, nothing touchy touchy except for slow dancing. But that's it, imo.
Adding another question. What is expected for people going "as friends"?
Honestly just go with her if you don't want to go with anybody else in particular. If she said that you two were going as friends then I assume it is only a friendly thing. Don't worry about it though, this happened to me before with some girl similar to yours and I went with her as a friend. Nothing more happened honestly. You shouldn't worry/think about this stuff too much for sure.
Just accept. I rejected everyone earlier cause I wanted to decide closer to the date, and now I have to go with someone meh cause all the people I want to go with are taken.
People think too much about stuff like this.
Based on other people's (and my) experience, one of the following might be true:
0. She's a vampire and she will suck your blood at prom night.
1. She is using you to make a guy jealous.
2. She knows that "girl b" likes you and she doesn't like that girl so she wants to make "girl b" mad.
3. She is setting you up with "girl b." (to be together at the prom)
4. You did something to her in the past and she's in for revenge (she will stand you up and you will end up dateless).
5. She asked you so she would have a date at prom (basically you're a somewhat desperate choice).
6. It's a dare or a bet.
7. She likes you.
8. She just wants to go.
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To start off, 0 is obviously a joke. If you don't want choices 1 - 6. I would play detective and find out if there's some drama going on. Did she recently break up with someone? Did she have a fight with a girl this year? etc, etc. I would consider this heavily if you're not a decently attractive guy / she's not a close friend.
If it's 7 or 8, I would insist on buying the ticket if you're really uncomfy about it, but don't be too aggressive, something like, "Hey, I wouldn't mind paying for your ticket, if you didn't pay for it already."
and spend a 100 dollars or somethin on a ticket for prom? aint nobody got the funds fo dat jesus
i was asked by a girl too! hahaa well, for homecoming though, but its alright xD
You need to chill seriously you're overreacting to this. We're in the 21st century here, it's ok for girls to ask guys out. It's even more ok for girls to pay for themselves.
Just do something to formally ask her to prom.
Example: Set up your backyard with candles that form the word "prom?", and bring her there with blindfolds...
duuuude i love it when girls ask dudes out. that's fantastically awesome and not even weird.
I would go with her... If she asked you to be her prom is probably that she likes you or want to use you...
But you should know if she likes someone so you can really see why she invited you
If she like someone else it might be the reason why she asked you... If not she really likes you
If i were a girl i would ask the guy i like ... I mean it wouldnt be a problem if i asked a friend out but my first option would be a guy i like (even if i dont have a chance with him)
Anyway you should go with her... Maybe dont answer to her right now and maybe ahe will get confused then ask her so you dont have that problem that she asked you out
So yeah you should go... She is a good friend of you and you will have lot of fun and maybe you might like her after you spend some time with her
I told my prom date he was going with me and he said ok. We paid for our share of stuff.
Seriously, it's nothing to worry about. She's probably just comfortable around you or something.
[quote=iShottedSnow]Do you have anyone else who you want to go with? If not, then go with her.[/quote]
Well, if I had to go with a friend (which I probably would choose over someone I like simply because I recently broke up with my girlfriend... like 3 weeks ago or something), she would be one of like the first 5 choices simply because we know each other enough that it wouldn't be awkward (although now it kinda is since she's the one who asked me) but we're not super close so she wouldn't really expect anything too much.
[quote=partyanimal]why in gods name would you want to go to prom with a chick who invited you specifically as just a friend? that's retarded.[/quote]
It's not so much that as it'd probably be rude to say "no" to a friend? I just feel like that'd be awkward.
why in gods name would you want to go to prom with a chick who invited you specifically as just a friend? that's retarded.
lmao if she asked you then she must really like you.
I'd say go for it bro
[quote=chunchild239]See, that's what I'd normally think except I've been pretty confident that she's been wanting me to ask her for a while now (although I'm also fairly confident that she doesn't like me). Before this, she kept asking me who I was going with and kept matching me with people anyone would know I would not want to go with.
@opmeTK: Except she's a senior and I'm a junior. I doubt anything that groundbreaking could happen in the last 2 months of school.[/quote]
Nothing happens during prom. It's what happens AFTER prom.
[quote=Juxos]He means she wants to use you to get another guy, by using you as her "date" she'll seem like she is popular (true or not) there by making said third party jealous[/quote]
See, that's what I'd normally think except I've been pretty confident that she's been wanting me to ask her for a while now (although I'm also fairly confident that she doesn't like me). Before this, she kept asking me who I was going with and kept matching me with people anyone would know I would not want to go with.
@opmeTK: Except she's a senior and I'm a junior. I doubt anything that groundbreaking could happen in the last 2 months of school.
Dump a bucket of pigs blood on her head.
/obscurehorrorreferences
Just tell her that you'll think about it and you'll get back to her within a week. Then man-up and use a reverse psychology and you be the one to ask her out. That way it wont be that awkward and in the end, she gets what she wanted (a real man to ask her out) and you get to appease her.
Why won't you say yes to me we're just going as friends omg
@Juxos Yeah what he said. Lot's of people do that.
[quote=chunchild239]@AkGold: The guy that makes the other person look good? What do you mean by that?[/quote]
He means she wants to use you to get another guy, by using you as her "date" she'll seem like she is popular (true or not) there by making said third party jealous
Well.. These are the little things you should be able to decide on your own. Are you struggling because you don't want to be her prom or you have someone else in mind to be your prom? Is she nice and all? (personality, appearance, etc..)
Personally, If I didn't have anyone in mind, I'd gladly go with the friend and maybe she might like you or even just want to go out as friends
She actually likes you, and wants you to buying the ticket shows more like ily too bro, but she is too afraid you'll turn her down
@MaximumSwagger: I'd say she's a little bit above average.
@AkGold: The guy that makes the other person look good? What do you mean by that?
UPDATE: I still have yet to click the Facebook chat message so it still looks like I haven't seen it.
She's trying to break the gender barrier
Let her pay for her ticket and just flirt at prom
She might be a keeper
Or she is desperate
Lets go with the former
This isn't a poem
Maybe she wants to take it up the next level?
Or she might just want to use you as a umm what's that name again, the guy that makes the other person look good.
If I were you, I'll just go ask someone else to the prom to see her reaction. (Don't do this unless you are me)