Help Giving Advice to a Friend
So my friend asked me for some advice about parents which I am for a big part, very oblivious about since I don't associate a lot with my family & therefore have little trouble dealing with them.
My friend told me that once she got home, her mother was really angry & sobbing at her, saying things like how she is so disappointed with her, how she sucks at school, how she won't make it into a university, etc. Now my friend is crying because of it & I don't know much to comfort her. My friend comes to me for help on problems, but I'm a complete noob when it comes to dealing with parents.
What should I tell her?
October 19, 2013
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@cyberdudelol: gotta ask questions when you give a vague explaination of your friend lol
[quote=civfanatics]She just needs to believe and accept Jesus into her life. [/quote]
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[quote=cyberdudelol]I might not get back to you until a little while depending on how fast she responds. It's 7PM where I currently live & I'll probably be able to respond for 6 more hours or so. I'll get back to you with helpful information about her current situation when possible.[/quote]
That's fine. Take your time with her. But do consider my advice of getting her out of the house for a little bit.
@ZoneFlare4 : From what I remember, she has only gotten one C throughout highschool (currently a junior as of now). For the most part, it's mostly consisted of B's & A's.
Her ethnicity is consisted of Japanese/Hawaiian/Caucasian by the way
@Skyenets : I might not get back to you until a little while depending on how fast she responds. It's 7PM where I currently live & I'll probably be able to respond for 6 more hours or so. I'll get back to you with helpful information about her current situation when possible.
@cyberdudelol: I'm more than willing to help out. Though mind you I might not respond until a few hours from now. It's 3 AM here.
Give her the D
@Skyenets I can PM you more information about it once I get to talking to her about that stuff.
Not sure if you'd be interested in helping to that extent though, but that would be great.
Depends on what her grades are? If they are C and below then the mom has every right to yell at her.
I literally just had the same problem except it was because my friend broke up with her bf. I had no idea what to say and was just like "its gonna be ok".
Give her a warm hug, pat her head and send her on her way. She'll get over it in a few hours.
Maybe you could fill us in on some details. If you're not a bit more specific I personally can't really give you more than a generic answer to what you should do. I tried to think of a more detailed response to give you but every time I try to type something out I can't really seem to get to the point that would actually help out here.
What is her home situation like? What part does her father play in this? How did it become like this, for her mother to react like you said? Just a bit more details would be great.
My advice to you however: Trying to comfort her is just something that will make her feel better right now. But it won't help her in the long run. If you truly want to help her, help her change the situation she's in.
If you don't want to go into detail or the situation is too complicated for you to handle, then I suggest just talking to her about whatever. Don't leave her sitting alone, but be with her. Get her out of the bad environment and just talk to her and have a good time. Take her mind off of things. But really, get her away from her mother for a bit when this kind of thing happens and she tells you. Being at home is nothing more than a direct reminder of what happened.
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@civfanatics
She's Buddhist for one
This is a serious thread by the way
I'm sure you wouldn't be too happy in this situation if it were you (talking about being her)
[quote=civfanatics]She just needs to believe and accept Jesus into her life. [/quote]
Never again.
She just needs to believe and accept Jesus into her life.