Im pretty depressed
3 years ago I met this girl named Stephanie at school.
She was in my class and I didn't really get to know her until the teacher made us partners.
Then at this point, I started falling in love for her.
She was brilliant and everything about her was just so wonderful.
A year after, I finally had the guts to finally ask her out.
Fortunately for me, she said Yes and I was possibly the happiest person in the planet.
She was nice and she made me happy every single second I was with her.
We were dating for about a year and a half and I'd say she was the best damn girlfriend I had in my life.
then.. 6 months ago things started getting really hard for us, she had to move really far.(I live in California and she moved all the way to Toronto.)
I still loved her with all my heart and we basically had a long distance relationship communicating through phone sometimes and usually through ooVoo.
4 months later after she moved, I noticed she wasn't on ooVoo for a week and I started getting really worried.
So I decided to call her and she wasn't answering the phone, I started getting really frustrated and kept calling.
I was really insecure and thought she didn't want to be with me anymore and I got really depressed because of that.
I quit Facebook and deactivated my profile 7 months prior to her moving so I reactivated it to try to message her profile and confront her.
I noticed her profile on Facebook was gone and I was pissed because I thought she deactivated it to avoid me.
I was depressed and I didn't know what to do, I started ditching school and started staying home.
Then one day I get a call from Zoey(An old friend of Stephanie and I that went to our school)
She tells me that Stephanie died in a car accident, at first, I couldn't believe it.
I told her she was lying to me and that she was covering up for her.
Zoey started to cry and told me she found out when she called Stephanie's mom and asked about Stephanie.
I thought she was BSing because, I was in such denial. I eventually had to face the cold hard truth.
When I realized it, I never cried so hard in my life.
It's been almost a month now and I can't seem to get over her.
I just felt like sharing because, I want to ask you basilers how you deal with loss.
Thank you kindly.
R.I.P. Stephanie.
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bummer. but that's life.
Dang bro, that really sucks. Sorry for your loss
I would be pretty bummed too if on of my best 'girl' friends died.
I almost cried
[quote=oimie]I'm not saying it's a lie. But it is possible that it's a set up between Stephanie and Zoey. The main reason is that Zoey said she called Stephanie's parents and they told her about it. Seriously now. Who the hell has friends' parents' numbers these days? There are lots of reasons a person may think lying to someone far away that they are dead than to let them know they want to break up.
But if she did pass away, R.I.P. Stephanie.[/quote]
It could be the possibility that close friends are contacted. One of my friends died and I had to do several middleman exchanges, so I wouldn't completely doubt it.
I'm not saying it's a lie. But it is possible that it's a set up between Stephanie and Zoey. The main reason is that Zoey said she called Stephanie's parents and they told her about it. Seriously now. Who the hell has friends' parents' numbers these days? There are lots of reasons a person may think lying to someone far away that they are dead than to let them know they want to break up.
But if she did pass away, R.I.P. Stephanie.
I'm so sorry.. Just get comfort from family and friends. That's the best you can do. Did she already have a funeral?
EDIT: err i meant if she had a funeral, were you able to go to it?
I don't deal with loss very well. I get stuck in denial of reality to the point that I feel numb. I wish you the best of luck with moving on. I'm really sorry she's gone.
i know how you feel i had a friend die last year. its ok to cry but you have to get over it especially since its already been a month. you havent lost everything and something like this really tests and changes your character
I too, had a depressing experience.
4 years ago I found a lucky penny
She was as fine as a penny could get
It was love at first sight.
Then I spent it.