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can we be crazy cat ladies together?

How are they going to stop you when you're 26, do you plan on living under them till then?

@Squirrely:

yeah
O_o

My mom married at the age of 19.

Harharhar.

i heard from a friend that if you start paying your parents some rent money, theyll be more open to letting you do what you want. it worked for him.

I know parents like that. Their child still dates but doesn't tell them.

i don't think i'm ever gonna be allowed to date,
my mum wants me to marry whoever she thinks is suitable, and good enough.. she discussed this matter with me, once. .____. it was a depressing conversation.

haha , you said "stupidest" xD

16, never had a girlfriend.
I'm doing fine.

[quote=LonePiggie]They want you to head the warnings and go to a school for your future, not for them mostly.[/quote]

True say.

Baby i'm available anytime! LOL Jk!
There goes your freedom

@edits: ignore it then, sooner or later, they'll realize, this is actually a very common scenario in most non caucasian households.

Also, you can very well experience life to the fullest without dating. Dating, on its own, is not a harmful thing, but, it's the curiosity that comes with it that can lead to danger.
I'm not saying people should remain celibate/sexless, but i'm saying that sex =/= the only experience in life.

If your parents seem overprotective, let them be like that, they have absolutely no ill intent regarding that. It's just that, today's lifestyle probably vastly differs from the lifestyle they had. OR, they made a mistake when they were your age, and dont want to even let you think of approaching the route that led them(parents) to that mistake.

@above, due to overprotective parents who set many such rules, a majority of young people these days "feel" that it's their "duty" to go against every single rule.

For example, when parents tell their children to get home early, most of what i've observed is that the kids go to parties/clubs/raves /whatever JUST to spite their parents.

In doing so, they dont realize the reason behind doing so.

Most cases, the reason they (parents) enforce such rules, is to avoid drugs/addictive dangerous substances, which, majority agree is a nuisance to society.
Many cases are heard where some nut attends a party, and injure others, it's not uncommon.
Parents, see this on the news, and freak out, which leads to the above mentioned cycle...

Another reason many "old school" parents are weary about dating is sex.
Many a time, dating leads to a relationship, which in today's world = sex.
Statistics in the UK show that many first timers usually go for unprotected sex, leading to either teenage pregnancy or the mental strain/moral dilemma of abortions.

Another is today's TV's portrayal of underage sex and drugs as "cool", while mostly leading to trouble....

The cure for this is not to rebel against, but rather to act sensibly, they'll naturally begin to have more trust in you.

My parents tell me dont be out late at night when you go to college, dont do this, dont do that. How many of their warnings am I going to listen to? None >_>. If I go to this one school, I'm going to party hard right off the bat

My parents told me to not date but didn't say until when.

So you're NOT planning on going to college?
(Getting a dorm, etc.)

I can see their view. They don't want you to screw up your life chances. They wanna wait till yer out of uni so that your education isn't hindered and you'd live a succesful carreer. So whilst you are being chaparoned you are taught different values. Mostly for Domestic reasons ehh it could come up Idk I'm not you. However they are disregarding its your life and you are bound to make mistakes everyone does. Thats how we learn. However they want you to stay safe and in arms reach. With your sister my guess is depending on what job she got is that she'd meet new people find someone to date etc etc. Only way to resolve this is come to a mutual understanding with both your parents to say that you need a little bit of freedom belive me Primary socialization can be a bint. depends on how your brought up. To solve the dating issue try to persude them that you'd find a respectable guy someone who would understand your parents values as well as respect them. He should also respect that your education and life chances are just as important too. Thats about all I can think about my brain hurts -_-

Hey after 18 youre free so do as u WISH!

@Acousmatic: "At least you're still masculine." He works in the fine arts program at the university here, so he's seen the gayest of the gay. He was happy for me to be able to come out at 16 instead of 22, because a lot of the last year students will make a gay themed final project while they went through university in the closet. Meanwhile I've told a couple friends, and the day I'm done highschool, LOUD AND PROUD GIRL

[quote=edits]No, it's the age by which I should have graduated from university.[/quote]

Tell them you're a woman and you don't need education. Problem solved.
(I joke... maybe)

[quote=TeenDream]Every guy wants to have sex with a virgin.[/quote]

Untrue, actually, most experienced men don't want to have to go through the process of gaining the trust of the girl they're with such that she allows the mto take her virginity. Most men also don't want to have to teach her how to do different things while in bed nor to have the confidence to do them. (A lot of women lack confidence in that area, they feel degraded, which is never the case unless the relationship is abusive.

[quote=LolCats]26 seems like a random number.[/quote]

No, it's the age by which I should have graduated from university.

26 seems like a random number.

[quote=Shroomsly]That's happened to me three times before.[/quote]
Loool. I think I've told you this story already, but I remember when I was at a New Year's party and I saw my friend with a guy and I asked who he was my mom told me it was her fiance. I didn't even know she was dating anyone, and when I asked how long they've been together, she said 2 months. I was like wot. Yeah, my parents think that marriage is this magical entity that keeps people together, because they stigmatize divorce so much. :$

[quote=Dacarlover]Rebelling against your parents wont lead to anything good.[/quote]
I really didn't have plans to.

[quote=Dacarlover]The fix to this, is to actually prove to them that you are indeed a level headed person who wont make dumb choices in life.[/quote]
They tell me that I am, but then they still want to "protect me." So they're always contradicting and it makes me more frustrated. Plus they say I need to get "experience" in life, but they don't let my sister and I experience anything for ourselves.

[quote=Dacarlover]Staying with family even after maturity has its good points as well, provided the family members have a mutual understanding.[/quote]
I do want to stay with them, I'm just frustrated that they have ridiculous, over-the-top ways to "keep me safe."

I can't date until I get a job.
What's my career? Something in the medical field like a doctor.
That means I'll be in my late 20's or early 30's. Be happy.

You know when you're 18 you DO have independence and the free will to move out and support yourself..

Rebelling against your parents wont lead to anything good.
parents go to such extreme measures due to being overprotective.
in their mind, they dont want their "precious young child" going into the world, to be "dumped/sexually harassed/drugged/whatever they see in movies" like on TV series etc.
The only solution they see is enforcing their authority.

The fix to this, is to actually prove to them that you are indeed a level headed person who wont make dumb choices in life.
Depending on your current age, this may take a while.
As for your sister, @EenRite is kinda right, it's not odd for a 22 yr old to live with family.

Many people these days think of living with family as being chained, and thus, "want to express their freedom" by moving out....

Sure, at a certain stage, moving out is a good option, but that doesn't mean those who choose not to are outcasts....
Staying with family even after maturity has its good points as well, provided the family members have a mutual understanding.

[quote=smiles1337]Lol, dating isn't even spoken about in my family, other than in negative terms. My parents have this ideology that one day I'm going to meet someone, and that someone is instantly going to be the person I marry, haha.[/quote]

That's happened to me three times before.

[quote=Renob]Maybe you should hit yourself with a pan and show the scars to the police and make them take your parents away. Problem solved.[/quote]

You know what, if you're going to be an ass then just get out of my thread.

[quote=EenRite]that's not abnormal.. especially if your sister is a commuting student[/quote]

She does but it's really that they don't want her to move out.
They didn't want to let her go to a better school where she'd have to live elsewhere.

show me a pic
and if your hot enuf
ill wait till your 26

[quote=Acousmatic]How is that possible?[/quote]

You'd be surprised.

also lol @ people who are calling me a troll.
For one that's against the rules, and secondly I'm serious. I was feeling annoyed about my parent's rule today and decided to share with basil.

@edits: get out while you can then

You're not alone

Anyways, you're legally an adult at age 18, at least in the U.S., so you can get a date then.

[quote=Biolite]Your age likely is why you are so ignorant to the fact that you will be able to date much sooner. !hen you go to college you are free from the rules of your parents, when you go to college your parents lighten up substantially, you graduate college before 26 and will be on your own and be able to make your own decisions, shall i continue?[/quote]

My sister is 22 and still lives with us.
They won't let her move out.

[quote=Acousmatic]I did not suspect you to be gay. At all.[/quote]
I've probably hooked up with more girls than all of basil all together; but despite popular belief I am homosexual.

FWB, baby, FWB.

You can leave at 18 if you don't like their rules...

[quote=Renob]You don't seem like you have many redeeming personality. Regardless of the existence of this rule, You wouldn't be getting any dates until you were 26 anyways. All that will be left will be some eharmony accounts, blatantly bluffing with a couple pictures of early Megan fox or late blake lively and there you have it. Maybe even plentyoffish.com i suppose. You should try it out. I hear the success rate is quite high. Better start building your profile now eh?[/quote]

Hi.
You don't know me.

[quote=edits]My sister is 22. they just barely let her have a job.[/quote]

That's really sad. And weird.
My parents couldn't wait for my sister to get a job again. She had a job when she was 16, and now she's 18.
When she was like 13 or something, she had a paper route o-o

And, your parents can't really control you after you become independent (or whatever the adult age is where you live).

Lol, dating isn't even spoken about in my family, other than in negative terms. My parents have this ideology that one day I'm going to meet someone, and that someone is instantly going to be the person I marry, haha.

@TeenDream: my mom did too after 45 minutes of crying

Once you're 18 you shouldn't really care what they say, unless of course you are still staying at home. But by than you should be able to drive yourself or go out on your own so you can keep it a secret!

[quote=Zevenrudett]@edits: ok so you're asian and your parents are hispanic

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no. we're all hispanic.

@Kaplooney: they'd disown her as a daughter. I'm not lying.

@easyrolling: I accept you for who you are babe.

@TeenDream: with my short hair i kind of look like one of the gay guys in the video...
but i feel like a plastic bag

[quote=Deciduous]well why wouldn't you be moved out several years before then? or dating secretly because your parents are idiots to socially stunt you like that, even if they are worried about your safety.[/quote]

My sister is 22. they just barely let her have a job.

well why wouldn't you be moved out several years before then? or dating secretly because your parents are idiots to socially stunt you like that, even if they are worried about your safety.

[quote=Zevenrudett]btw are you asian?[/quote]

no. They're hispanic.

[quote=easyrolling]I don't like girls anyway if that counts for anything[/quote]

Baby you're a firework.