@Rtyu That's not necessarily true. You can love more than one person at the same time. I mean, a parent can love all of their children at the same time. It's a different kind of love I know, but you get what I mean.
@ehnogi I agree with @GurlMaybe that it's because of religion. Which is something that actually bothers me about the US. The church and the state are supposed to be separate, but there are so many laws that only exist because of religion influencing the government. Gay marriage, abortion, polygamy, and sodomy (illegal in texas IIRC), are just the laws I can think of, off the top of my head. Then we have things like "In God We Trust" on our dollars, swearing on the bible in court, and several other things that directly reference Christianity. However, the US was founded by those fleeing religious intolerance in England. Plus, the first amendment even says "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion." Yet they make a loophole by making laws that don't directly mention religion, but are based purely on Christian ideologies. Which some say is because a majority of the country is Christian, so the government is just representing the majority, but the laws are supposed to remain neutral and uninfluenced by religion regardless.
But I digress. The point is, if religion were not intermingled with the government the way it is, things like this would not be seen as "wrong" in the eyes of the law. We already have married couples who are swingers and couples who have "open" relationships and they're perfectly happy with their arrangements. It doesn't make their love any less meaningful to them, it just adds a little extra to it. Of course, I personally don't want those types of relationships (although admittedly, polygamy sounds like it would be fun for a time), but I can respect those that do. My girlfriend's friend is in an open relationship and she was talking trash (putting it mildly, she was quite opinionated) about us for wanting to be exclusive. That's the only time I'd have a problem with someone in that type of relationship, when they try to force it onto me. Otherwise, it doesn't affect me, so they can live how they want.
Absolutely nothing. I think that adults should be able to consent to all kinds of relationships. Homosexuality, polygamy (polygyny and polyandry), monogamy, etc.
The [b]real[/b] question is, "What is wrong with polyandry?" In all seriousness, though, why has polygamy existed, but not the other way around?
Is that relevant to why women dislike polygamy? Do you think that women dislike the idea of polygamy because they automatically assume polygyny instead of recognizing polyandry?
In response to the reason why more women are against polygamy, you mentioned that women become jealous and don't want to share one husband; what would women think about having multiple husbands? You don't think it wouldn't empower them in the same way polygynists empower men?
@GurlMaybe: That's the problem with modern marriage, it's too much based on religion. I feel this is an incorrect view. Marriage is a contract, two nations signing a treaty. That's all I believe it should be. It shouldn't be tied in with any religion beliefs. If people really cared about religion, then they wouldn't make a mockery of marriage, especially in the US were the divorce rate is 50%.
Where does the idea that only one significant other may exist? Why must faith be invested into one person? Why would a child with multiple parental figures become weird? A child can only be a child of two birth parents, but may have multiple parental figures in their lives. You can have grandparents and relatives; even nannies be parental figures. What would make a polygamous marriage weird for a child?
It is commonly known that society frowns upon polygamous marriages or relationships. What made this a common belief in Western culture, and why has it stuck with us for so long?
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the combat arms clan. </3 o.o >.<
@Rtyu That's not necessarily true. You can love more than one person at the same time. I mean, a parent can love all of their children at the same time. It's a different kind of love I know, but you get what I mean.
@ehnogi I agree with @GurlMaybe that it's because of religion. Which is something that actually bothers me about the US. The church and the state are supposed to be separate, but there are so many laws that only exist because of religion influencing the government. Gay marriage, abortion, polygamy, and sodomy (illegal in texas IIRC), are just the laws I can think of, off the top of my head. Then we have things like "In God We Trust" on our dollars, swearing on the bible in court, and several other things that directly reference Christianity. However, the US was founded by those fleeing religious intolerance in England. Plus, the first amendment even says "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion." Yet they make a loophole by making laws that don't directly mention religion, but are based purely on Christian ideologies. Which some say is because a majority of the country is Christian, so the government is just representing the majority, but the laws are supposed to remain neutral and uninfluenced by religion regardless.
But I digress. The point is, if religion were not intermingled with the government the way it is, things like this would not be seen as "wrong" in the eyes of the law. We already have married couples who are swingers and couples who have "open" relationships and they're perfectly happy with their arrangements. It doesn't make their love any less meaningful to them, it just adds a little extra to it. Of course, I personally don't want those types of relationships (although admittedly, polygamy sounds like it would be fun for a time), but I can respect those that do. My girlfriend's friend is in an open relationship and she was talking trash (putting it mildly, she was quite opinionated) about us for wanting to be exclusive. That's the only time I'd have a problem with someone in that type of relationship, when they try to force it onto me. Otherwise, it doesn't affect me, so they can live how they want.
@xVoltage:
Absolutely nothing. I think that adults should be able to consent to all kinds of relationships. Homosexuality, polygamy (polygyny and polyandry), monogamy, etc.
The [b]real[/b] question is, "What is wrong with polyandry?"
In all seriousness, though, why has polygamy existed, but not the other way around?
@GurlMaybe:
Is that relevant to why women dislike polygamy? Do you think that women dislike the idea of polygamy because they automatically assume polygyny instead of recognizing polyandry?
In response to the reason why more women are against polygamy, you mentioned that women become jealous and don't want to share one husband; what would women think about having multiple husbands? You don't think it wouldn't empower them in the same way polygynists empower men?
Cuz the government says so. They want more of your money, dawg.
@GurlMaybe:
Based on what you said, you believe that women don't want to share one man, which is why women dislike the idea more than men. Is this true?
What if I told you that one woman can have ten husbands?
Polygamy doesn't have to involve one man and multiple women. Polyandry has existed as well.
@GurlMaybe:
"I'm finding that a lot more women are actually against this than men."
This means that I'm finding that a lot more women are actually against polygamy than men are.
@Rtyu:
What makes it impossible to love more than one person?
@GurlMaybe: That's the problem with modern marriage, it's too much based on religion.
I feel this is an incorrect view. Marriage is a contract, two nations signing a treaty. That's all I believe it should be. It shouldn't be tied in with any religion beliefs. If people really cared about religion, then they wouldn't make a mockery of marriage, especially in the US were the divorce rate is 50%.
@Alwaysbeat:
Where does the idea that only one significant other may exist? Why must faith be invested into one person?
Why would a child with multiple parental figures become weird? A child can only be a child of two birth parents, but may have multiple parental figures in their lives. You can have grandparents and relatives; even nannies be parental figures. What would make a polygamous marriage weird for a child?
@GurlMaybe:
It can also apply to women having multiple husbands. I'm finding that a lot more women are actually against this than men.
Nothing at all. What any consenting adults do with each other is their business.
It is commonly known that society frowns upon polygamous marriages or relationships. What made this a common belief in Western culture, and why has it stuck with us for so long?
because who would want to lick an ice cream with someone else? like ew
just kidding, i would, ice creams are delicious
depends on what someone thinks is "wrong" so there's not really one definite answer