I think Im a bad person .
I recently realized that I don't care about anyone else's problems Like, people will be complaining or asking me for help and I just do not care in the slightest. I'll give a few examples.
My brother got his wisdom teeth out, and not only do I not care about his pain, I'm actually angry at him. He smells bad because he won't shower, his breath smells enough to literally make a room smell, because he can't brush his teeth, plus it's all nasty in there anyway. I know he can't really do much about it, but that mixed with his attitude is enough to make me smile and nod after he says his first sentence then retreat to my room, where I will then put my dresser in front of my door as he's been known to follow me up some times. I just don't care about his pain, or his complaints, or anything he has to say.
Another one. I have this friend in university, and he's complaining to me about the amount of work he has to do and how it's getting in the way of all his other activities, and he isn't enjoying himself at all and wants to drop out. But, he doesn't know how to tell his parents and asked me for help. I just ignored him, I didn't really care at all. His problems literally just bored me to the point of not wanting to talk to him.
There are so many times people have been telling me problems and my mind would just drift. I don't listen, nor do I care, and I feel like I should. My only problem is I genuinely hate everyone around me. So, I decided to just kind of bring this here, and see if anyone else is the same. Am I just some messed up ass hole? Or is this common.
TL;DR: I don't care about anyone else's problems (family, friends, etc), and I feel bad for it. Am I a bad person or is this normal.
8 Comments • Newest first
@NoCoply This was just to satisfy my curiosity. I wouldn't really care if nobody answered. In fact this is mainly out of boredom.
@RugbyBall No, but I never saw them. They both were always working, I didn't really grow up with them. And now my sister says horrible things to everyone, my brother tries to scam and take advantage of all of us, my mom's still always working, and I haven't seen my dad in 6 years. It's not a family for me, I don't feel any attachment to these people.
I think if you were going through a tough time you would want someone to care just put yourself in their shoes.
And if none of us responded to this then it would make you feel like you wasted your time and be disappointed if no one did.
@tiesandbowties I'm technically a teenager, yes, but I'm not angry. I just don't feel any attachment to family members. It's something I've never felt, they don't treat me any differently than anyone else, well except for my mother who doesn't tell me any of her problems. To me they're just people I live with who I will stop talking to once I move out.
@vCane Guess not. Shame.
Well, it looks like it's someones time of the month again
[quote=Gee187]@tiesandbowties You'd think, but I don't. Honestly my brother and/or my sister could just leave for months without any explanation and I wouldn't bat an eyelash. Not even if they never came back. I feel no special connection to either of them, nor do I care for them.[/quote]
Are you an angry teenager just going through a phase? If so, grow up.
If not, look for help.
I don't care, but I at least try to solve their problem.
@tiesandbowties You'd think, but I don't. Honestly my brother and/or my sister could just leave for months without any explanation and I wouldn't bat an eyelash. Not even if they never came back. I feel no special connection to either of them, nor do I care for them.
@vCane Err, thanks?
@gerafang If it were a reversed situation I'd deal with it myself and wouldn't concern people unless they asked.
u should at least feel empathy for your family..