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I've had three best friends so far (first in 9th grade, second best friend from 10th-12th grade, and 3rd best friend from college freshmen-junior atm). First one I couldn't keep in touch due to distance (he had to move back to his home country and we talk like once every 3 months now on fb). Second best friend cause after college started, we started hanging out less and less due to conflicting schedules and different friend groups. Although i'm becoming really good friends with second best friend the past 2 weeks lol (we usually get food/coffee and just chillllllll)

Of course, but I wouldn't call it stealing. Sometimes people just grow apart.

I knew this guy from middle school straight into high school. We were best friends. Then one day, he got into a different scene; I can't go into detail or I'll get banned, but the kids who were also into that stuff were welcoming, and so he started hanging out with them more often. I was really hurt by that at the time, but now, I mean, I get it. I was just some dull kid who wanted to read novels and play video games, but they were cool and exciting, and they did things that weren't always safe or legal. So I spent my time in the library during lunch instead of hanging out with him, and he joined them, and even though we tried to make things work (we hung out occasionally, like, once a month) it just wasn't the same. Eventually we stopped speaking, not due to some dramatic fight but because we simply stopped calling each other.

Another one -- I met him when I was still pretty immature in some respects. But he was immature in the same way, so it worked. We ran around being immature together, and for a time things were great. Really, really great. I'd give anything to go back to that time again. But then one day, he just ... changed. That's the thing of it, I guess. People change so gradually that one day it seems like they've become a totally different person right under your nose. And just like that, you're not as interesting to them anymore, and then they meet someone else and start hanging out with them instead.

All the people in here talking about unbreakable bonds remind me of myself a few years ago. That person you think you'll be "friends forever" with could move next month. Or go to a different university. Or get a boy/girlfriend and stop hanging out with you entirely. I'm not trying to depress anyone, but just enjoy the time you have while it's there, I guess.

Stealing a best friend? How does that even work? Sounds like some serious bromance crap going on.
No (edit2: No,) that has never happen (edit: happened) to me.

That won't happen because a friend will be a friend.

Yea, but my G came back eventually.
I been stealin bff's tho.

haha no, but friend got jealous when i started talking to another girl, like i dont even talk to girls

[quote=MateoCl]@dopeazn:
Learn. That. You. Don't. Need. To. Get. The. Last. Word. In.[/quote]
[quote=dopeazn]Haha, you're a funny guy. have a nice day man. and stop being a creepy clinger, girls don't like that. nobody does.[/quote]
[quote=MateoCl]@dopeazn: You don't know anything about the situation. Have a nice day.[/quote]

The irony, lol.

@dopeazn: You don't know anything about the situation. Have a nice day.

[quote=MateoCl]@dopeazn:
Stop. Responding.
You. Will. Not. Change. My. Mind.
Learn. That. You. Don't. Need. To. Get. The. Last. Word. In.[/quote]
Haha, you're a funny guy. have a nice day man. and stop being a creepy clinger, girls don't like that. nobody does.

not really but i think my best friend feels like my bf stole me from her :S

@dopeazn:
Stop. Responding.
You. Will. Not. Change. My. Mind.
Learn. That. You. Don't. Need. To. Get. The. Last. Word. In.

[quote=MateoCl]@dopeazn: And you can't say it broke so easily because, again, you have no idea what happened. She was a real friend and you have no idea what you're talking about. I don't take advice from people that don't understand when their presence is not wanted or appreciated.[/quote]
ok, but the past means nothing now. she doesn't care about you now, where and when it counts. i never said you have to take my advice. do whatever you want bro.
"It's been nearly a year and you still won't talk to me. I don't know how long I can live this way."
^ but, i'm pretty sure this says it all
Not moving on with your life is unhealthy. You're a clingy person.

@dopeazn: And you can't say it broke so easily because, again, you have no idea what happened. She was a real friend and you have no idea what you're talking about. I don't take advice from people that don't understand when their presence is not wanted or appreciated.

[quote=MateoCl]@dopeazn: I will ask you one question: why do you think this is remotely your business? You don't know the actual complexity of the situation. You can't tell me what I should and shouldn't do. This is none of your business.[/quote]

lol yes, it is none of my business, I'm just making an observation. I'm free to express my opinion. you don't need to take my advice, I am just concerned that you have little control over your emotions. you overreacted pretty hard to a basil comment. also, I think boredaf is in the right. whatever friendship you had isn't worth it if the bond broke so easily. i don't need to know what happened to judge that he wasn't a real friend. the end result says it all.

@dopeazn: I will ask you one question: why do you think this is remotely your business? You don't know the actual complexity of the situation. You can't tell me what I should and shouldn't do. This is none of your business.

[quote=MateoCl]@dopeazn: It isn't about this site. It's about the problem itself. Also I'm not worked up over nothing.You don't even know what I'm upset about so you can't tell me if it's nothing or not. Also you don't know what is or isn't good for me. People like you need to learn that you don't know everything, including what's best for others.[/quote]

don't be a drama queen. life isn't a soap opera. you lost a friend? everyone goes through that. people come and go, just move on and grow as a person.

@dopeazn: It isn't about this site. It's about the problem itself. Also I'm not worked up over nothing.You don't even know what I'm upset about so you can't tell me if it's nothing or not. Also you don't know what is or isn't good for me. People like you need to learn that you don't know everything, including what's best for others.

Well I have the same best friend for over 10 years and we each have own own separate group of friends that we hang out with besides each other, so i guess not.

@Spiderxe: What are you even saying? Also "called me a homo"? Should I care if someone believes me to be honosexual?

[quote=MateoCl]@dopeazn: I already told him to back off before and he didn't. This is a reiteration.[/quote]

it's just basil, man. relax lol. some people put too much emotional investment in this site and get worked up over nothing. just learn to brush it off, you take things too seriously and it's not good for you.

@dopeazn: I already told him to back off before and he didn't. This is a reiteration.

[quote=MateoCl]Do not talk to me. Do not quote me. I don't want your opinion. I don't care if you think I should "learn". Back off.[/quote]
that was really defensive. you're overreacting. you ok, man? take a chill pill.

keep fighting bro.

[quote=katrie]happens to me annually tbh.

am I just not good enough a friend?[/quote]

Doubt it, if you're worried you aren't a good enough friend I'd think that means you cared enough.

OT: Eh, didn't really have a "best friend" until a few years ago, but they live faaaarrrr away so we don't get to talk as often, so can't say I have.

[quote=MateoCl]@BoredAF: Do not talk to me. Do not quote me. I don't want your opinion. I don't care if you think I should "learn". Back off.[/quote]

Quoted for emphasis.

happens to me annually tbh.

am I just not good enough a friend?

Never being in the same classes separated us, and now he leaves school early and hangs out with his girlfriend all the time. I haven't even seen him for like 2 or 3 weeks, but I have another best friend who I see multiple hours every school day.

why don't you become a trio of best friends

If you and your friend were really best friends, you guys will remain as best friends
Doesn't matter about the circumstances

Nope. But one of my previous "best friend" stole all the guys she knew I liked, sooo

[quote=Killeen]if you needa fight for your best friend, that ain't a real friend.
drop that fake ass person.[/quote]

True.

no because my best friend and i have a strong bond that's very powerful