was it me or her?
There is this girl in my summer class and I really like her, we talk a lot and for the past 2 weeks we talk on facebook a lot and everything is going great.
I finally set a date for us and ask her over facebook to dress nicely. I pull over into her house and pick her up, she's wearing a nice dress. I tell her that we are going to Applebees and instantly she has this sour milk face saying that this "wasn't what she had in mind".
At this point I'm embarrassed as all hell and she gets on her phone. While we are nearly 5 minutes there she tells me that she wants to get off and to just drop her off anywhere and that her friend will pick her up.
That was yesterday, we haven't talked or contacted each other yet and I didn't go to class today of sheer embarrassment.
Is this my fault or hers?
edit: I was dressed up pretty nicely too, i had a dress shirt so it wasn't like she was the only one dressing nicely.
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I thought u were the guy who played maple 12 hours a day and didnt plan on going to college?
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lmao applebees.
shoulda took her to mcdonalds.
Applebees..
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Well, that was rude. Glad she didn't lead you on and didn't have to deal with it when there's more emotion attached.
In this case, I would totally side with you.
Although, I feel she has a reason to be upset (coz she's a girl, lol), but the way she handled it was immature, and was disrespectful towards you.
I would say you are somewhat clueless (and innocent), but you seem like a nice guy. Just take what you learn from this experience, and don't let it get you down.
The moment you saw what she was wearing you should have realized Applebees was not the right place. Do you see anyone dressed up like that in Applebees? If you are going to ask a girl out to dinner and ask her to wear something nice, you better take her to a place where it takes reservations. You build her up to some level of expectation. I do agree she was immature and a more mature girl would have finished the date with you but even the more mature girl might start to wonder after the date is over.
It was both of you.
She was rude for just ditching you like that. You should have taken her to a nicer place if you told her to dress nice.
I'm from New Zealand so i have no clue what applebees is. Staring at the menu makes me drool though.
Her loss, applebees has some dang good food.
[quote=Patole]@heartofachamp Don't worry about it. Honestly, imo I think it was her fault that she can't really appreciate even just a simple dinner. But one question.. or couple... How dress up was she? Can you explain to us? Also, don't think to much about everyone knowing what happened because some of the people that she might tell if she does tell... don't even go on dates these days. Flame on me for people that go on dates all the time.. but honestly, I don't see many people going on dates now as they would've back then.. (assumption)[/quote]
she had her hair up in a knot kinda curly, she had some make up on but no lipstick but something dont know what it is. she was wearing a black dress of material i dont know, it was all one piece and went to her knees, she was also wearing flats
[quote=ForeverAimee]Just tell her the truth. Tell her you were nervous and didn't mean to get her hopes up about going somewhere fancy and that you just wanted to do something nice with her. If she's not a spoilt brat she would understand.[/quote]
ok i will try but when she got out of the car she was really pissed
[quote=Mang]Really though, she's in the wrong, not you. But if you wanna make it work, sometimes you gotta take the hit. But I mean if she takes it further than that, I'd say don't bother. You did a nice thing and she was rude about a misunderstanding.[/quote]
im nervous that she will tell everyone about this, i dont know if she is a gossip type cause i havent known her for a long time and we are on a small campus ~4000 people. Im just worried word will get out that i suck
[quote=gangar23]It was bad of you to ask her to dress up for applebees. But, it was extremely uncool of her to just call her friend and have her pick her up. If she liked you she wouldve went anyways. She may have been dissapointed that you picked applebees but shouldve let you explain yourself in the meantime.[/quote]
[quote=Mang]Yeah I mean it was kinda stupid to say dress up and make her think you're going somewhere fancy then go to one of those casual family dining chain places. But it's one thing to be kinda bummed out about it, another thing to just leave the car before getting there and not finishing the date..[/quote]
so what do i say to her on friday, since there is no school tomorrow for 4th of july
[quote=koedeloe]Well, when you're in shape then girls will notice it and see you as an attractive guy.
From there on you talk with them and that's how you can see if they're nice on the inside too... Not that I really care.[/quote]
strong feedback
Well, it wasn't right of you to ask her to dress nicely to go to Applebees...BUT regardless, she shouldn't
have been so rude about it. I think you should forget about her. The way I see it, her attitude is
pretty bad. I mean really, leaving in the middle of a date?
Well, you had a wrong choice of a formal looking restaurant. You were acting in a good intention though, but she was being a bit, rude. That's all. I'd take it very personally, but just act like you care about what she says when she's around you cause that was an obvious "Thanks, but no thanks."
[quote=koedeloe]Get your ass to the gym and use your anger there,a new sick c*** is born!
When you're a sick c*** like me, you'll get lots of bishes.[/quote]
implying that i want a lot of partners.
i just want a nice girl doesn't have to be all that pretty.
[quote=superlold]you should have taken her to a nicer place but she's just a total biznitch for just ditching you, like seriously?
and that just shows you that she's not worth it. she could have just suggested something else and it would have been so much better if she just went along and you two laughed about it later or something but whatever shes not worth it.
ps. how nice was the dress[/quote]
it was pretty nice, since it was hot she must've been a little uncomfortable since it was this kind of nice material,black and was like one piece.
I don't think telling a girl what to wear is a good idea unless there's a good reason behind it :
Don't worry tho girls are complicated
Although I just say that if she didn't want to go to a place that makes YOU happy then she ain't worth it.
[quote=Irony]Why didn't you just ask to drive her somewhere else? And I agree that she overeacted/not worth your time but why did you tell her to dress nicely? [/quote]
im not great with girls but I like to dress nicely even for simple things like going to the park or movies.
also i was just so nervous i didn't think about asking her what she wanted.
Why didn't you just ask to drive her somewhere else? And I agree that she overeacted/not worth your time but why did you tell her to dress nicely?
[quote=TheTacKnife]Scr.ew her man, go get some of dat bacon cheeseburger, applebees is the bomb.com[/quote]
i love applebees that's why i wanted to go, I just wanted to go somewhere where the food was good and where the atmosphere was nice and light.
i haven't dated in a long time so I didn't know a lot of the restaraunts in my area and I thought that applebees was a cool place to go to. i have maybe 75$ of spending money so my options were limited.
[url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY]Its all her fault.[/url]
[quote=Zlyphor]She doesn't deserve you man.[/quote]
Totally.. Like you offer to drive (using your gas) AND pay for her food (using your money) in exchange for her to dress nicely and she says "plz put me on street k bai"
But yea... Applebees i such a t-shirt and jeans kind of place too..
damn son. u were gonna take her to applebees?
OP confirmed for baller.
edit: OT: just busting your chops, op. that was rude of her to just ditch you.
i bet she wasn't even cute tho so ya
now how nice was this dress?
i mean she coulda thought you were going somewhere fancy
or maybe she just thought you were loaded
She doesn't deserve you man.
im a sophmore in college and im worried that she will tell all the girls about this, just really embarrassing.
A bit of both. You should have picked a classier place to go to. She should have spoken up about what she wanted or made a suggestion to go elsewhere rather than call the whole thing off.
Its okay, u have the heart of a champ
Lmao