Liking someone who is already in a relationship.
There's a girl that's in two of my classes this year that's new to my school that I met a few weeks ago, my school year started in July 20. I personally think she's cute, especially when she smiles, and I wanted to get to know her better. Near the beginning of school, in one of my classes we had to a presentation that involved picking a song and explaining how it relates to our lives. When it got to her presentation, I learned about how her parents divorced and that she had to move here to this school. She also talked about how she is separated from her boyfriend, and just how confused she was. She even broke into tears, and I started to feel bad about myself for liking her.
It seems like she's getting over her pain now because she's made some good friends, but I still like her, after talking with her several times in class and outside of class. I catch myself looking at her in my classes, and I feel kind of weird doing that despite the fact she still has a boyfriend. Then furthermore, she's a junior and I'm a senior.
Not really sure what to do, all I can really do is just try to be her friend, maybe I'll get over it sooner or later, but I see her every school day in my classes, and I can't really stop thinking about her. Has anyone else had this problem, and what did you do?
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if its just a crush don't let it get to you that hard
Its called love. A senior should know that.
Remember if you jump in while they are together and she ends up liking you. That's a sign she isn't the most faithful person and she may not be faithful to you .
[quote=Hurricane]Well there is an ok chance we can see each other if we ever did get in a relationship. I might go to community college and transfer, so I'll be here for 2 more years. Or, she ends up going to the same university as I do. We have a college prep class together and the college she wants to go to kind of aligns with my choices as well, and our gpa's are kinda similar, except she might be slightly better. I might just get to know her more first, right know I'm kind of just a classmate that talks to each other in class.[/quote]
In that case, go for it. It will not work if the girl decides to follow her own dreams just make sure you two have the same major before anything. nd stuff as well. If you go to a community college, she might not go there. However, if she does decide to go there, then by all means go (:
nice guys finish last
eliminate/destroy the other guy
you will be the superior male in her eyes
@Hurricane: Good
Homewreck dat mudafuxer. L0L
[quote=NoCookieforYou]Stay friends. Don't become anything more. It's not right to the other guy /:[/quote]
Don't worry, I wouldn't try anything unless their relationship is over, I wouldn't go out of my way to ruin it.
Stay friends. Don't become anything more. It's not right to the other guy /:
Well to clarify, I'm not dying to get into a relationship or anything, I just like her, like a crush kind of like. I might just get to know her as a friend and we'll see how it goes? :o
[quote=Rustsmoothie]Well her boyfriend probably cares about her as much as you do, maybe more. She likely needs him in her life right now seeing as her parents just divorced and she's feeling upset as a result. If you do tell her how you feel then you risk putting a strain on their relationship which could result in more tears. I'm sure you don't want that for her.[/quote]
Yeah, I understand that, that's why I'm kind of uneasy. At first, I wanted to comfort her that It will get better, because I can relate to the strain she was feeling or may still be feeling since my mom passed away. I wouldn't want to cause any problems. I wasn't expecting to get into a relationship, It just feels uneasy when you like someone that you can't really like at the moment, and I don't really have the position to say that.
[quote=EpikSnow]wait till they break up. and make sure shes over him before you go out with her. otherwise, she'll go back to him when she has the chance.
edit: oh, in that case, dont go out with her. i went out with a junior when i was a senior and we broke up coz i went far away and it lead to long distance.[/quote]
Well there is an ok chance we can see each other if we ever did get in a relationship. I might go to community college and transfer, so I'll be here for 2 more years. Or, she ends up going to the same university as I do. We have a college prep class together and the college she wants to go to kind of aligns with my choices as well, and our gpa's are kinda similar, except she might be slightly better. I might just get to know her more first, right know I'm kind of just a classmate that talks to each other in class.
wait till they break up. and make sure shes over him before you go out with her. otherwise, she'll go back to him when she has the chance.
edit: oh, in that case, dont go out with her. i went out with a junior when i was a senior and we broke up coz i went far away and it lead to long distance.
[quote=GreenKilla][b]"Then furthermore, she's a junior and I'm a senior."[/b]
why is this an issue?[/quote]
Just because I will graduate this year, and may move far to go to University, so I won't have that much time to get to know her.
Become a good friend, if you still have feeling if she's single or she likes you back, make a move?
It suckssssss, 50/50 chance of you getting hurt