Highschool prom
Hi Basilmarket
Should I go to prom, its like 2 or months away for me. I dont know when
At my school, I don't have a close group of real friends. I talk to people all over my grade here and there but I have no close friends that I talk with regularly, sit with at lunch and hang out with. In fact, at lunch, every day, I have to force myself on to groups of people that I don't even want to sit with just so that I don't sit alone. I almost never hang out outside of school.
I don't have a girlfriend either, and to be honest, there is no one in my grade that interests me enough. Though, I find quite few hella attractive, but theyre like preppy sassy girls.
The problem with me is that I am not like anyone in my grade. EVERYONE in my grade, now that it is our senior year, feels the need to try and fit in and to be "cooler". So at this point, everyone wants to go to parties, smoke weed, drink alcohol and all that stupid jazzle that I've tried in the past but quickly gave up on. So now I feel like an outsider, I don't feel like the rest (but I don't want to either). I try to make friends, I try to introduce myself to one or two new people everyday but that wall makes its hard for me to have a conversation when they don't try to make a conversation...
What really makes me worried is the issue of prom night and graduation. I will have absolutely NO ONE to go with, but I feel the extreme need to go because if I don't, my parents and my brothers will think I'm a loser or weird and my cousins and aunts and uncles will ask me what I did and I'll say "nothing". Or regret not going, I hate regretting, it makes me very unmotivated. I want to go to prom and have fun.
Also, I have one older brother who have both had a close group of real friends since their high school years, so I look up to him and compare myself to him. It makes me feel like I've done something wrong. Then say "why I'm the one that ended up with no friends and he have great social lives that they appreciate and enjoy." Meanwhile, while they hang out with their friends regularly, I am always sitting at home doing nothing and wishing I had a social life like theirs.
(Yes, I stole this from Yahoo answers, thats because I'm in the same situation too but I reworded it and removed some.)
TDLR: I has no friends, should I go to Prom?
Yup
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Wow I can relate to this, besides the part of having friends (since I actually have friends).
But yeah, I've never been to a party, and my junior year in high school is almost over. Luckily I have senior year to maybe redeem myself, get my first girlfriend, go to prom, go to parties, etc. I think having a car will make a difference too.
What you should do, is just wing it. Prom is once in a lifetime (well twice at my school since you can go junior year, or more than that if you're dating an upperclassman).
You will probably feel better looking back and thinking "meh" like @chamomilia said than looking back and thinking "what if I had gone?"
Trust me...you will regret not going to something like prom.
It's true, it might end up being boring, but it's worth a shot, because it might be fantastic.
You have nothing to lose. Ask someone out. You have nothing to lose and you will probably never see 99% of the people at your high school ever again after senior year. And if you do, they probably won't be relevant.
@Gmayn: Oooh that's quite easy. Thanks
@icoleslawderp: Try to say stuff people can relate to. For example, if they're talking about sports, you can say you really like soccer. Out of a group of friends, it's almost guaranteed one of them will enjoy soccer enough to say they like it. Then you just start talking about soccer, your favourite teams.
Soccer is an example. You can replace sports with video games and soccer with Call of Duty or whatever game you're into. If you don't speak but join them, it's always a bit weird. Even if you say something stupid, it's better than being that guy that's just there.
I hate dances and all, but prom was a memorable experience I'll never forget. Just because you don't have someone to go with, or even friend to go with, doesn't mean you can't have a good time. Be yourself and just dance and have fun. My prom was basically a bunch of people amassed in a big circle all jumping up and down an a few people in the middle going crazy. As a person who never dances and hates doing so, I was one of those few people in the middle when I wasn't dancing with my girlfriend. It was an amazing time and it was worth the price (roughly $300 counting limo tickers and tux). Don't regret not going, if you can ask a girl to go and worst comes to worst you go without anyone so what?
[quote=Gmayn]You have about a month and a half to get your life together. When I say get your life together, I mean your social life.
Start talking to literally everybody. Don't be that annoying kid that follows a group but isn't really a part of it. See a group of 5 friends, go up and start talking. Start off by asking what their plans are for the weekend, then when the conversation changes, you're still in the conversation. When they all leave, you leave. Don't follow them. Do this to many different types of people and eventually everybody will be talking to you.
Get involved with things outside of school. School is not the only place you can make friends. Get a job, volunteer at places, take your dog to the park if you have one. Just start talking to people whenever you're given the opportunity. If you're weird, nobody will want to talk to you. If you're smiling, enthusiastic, and friendly, people will really enjoy talking to you. It's all about your attitude.
Asking a girl to prom ties in with getting more friends. Once you're more well known, asking a girl is no problem. Many girls are in the same situation as you. Nobody interests them. Prom, however, does not suddenly make you boyfriend/girlfriend. You can go to prom with a friend and just have fun. You don't even have to actually spend time together, but you have the last dance and take photos together and all that. Once you're in, you'll probably notice a lot of the guys are hanging out with guys while girls are hanging out with girls. It's a mixture and there are no rules.
I can assure you that not everyone wants to be cool. I used to think everybody sucked because all they do is talk about drama and all that. You think everybody is like that because those are the people you see. You don't see the people who aren't popular and "cool" and into drama because they don't stick around for that! They go to school, then leave with their friends.
Definitely go to prom![/quote]
Wow, thanks a lot for your answer. A lot of information.
When you join into a group of five, do you just listen then say something funny or something related to the conversation? I'm really nooby at that if its a stupid question.
@icoleslawderp Just do a promposal, make it really cute so the girl will laugh and say yes. Nbd if you get rejected, you won't see those people Ina. Few months anyway.
You have about a month and a half to get your life together. When I say get your life together, I mean your social life.
Start talking to literally everybody. Don't be that annoying kid that follows a group but isn't really a part of it. See a group of 5 friends, go up and start talking. Start off by asking what their plans are for the weekend, then when the conversation changes, you're still in the conversation. When they all leave, you leave. Don't follow them. Do this to many different types of people and eventually everybody will be talking to you.
Get involved with things outside of school. School is not the only place you can make friends. Get a job, volunteer at places, take your dog to the park if you have one. Just start talking to people whenever you're given the opportunity. If you're weird, nobody will want to talk to you. If you're smiling, enthusiastic, and friendly, people will really enjoy talking to you. It's all about your attitude.
Asking a girl to prom ties in with getting more friends. Once you're more well known, asking a girl is no problem. Many girls are in the same situation as you. Nobody interests them. Prom, however, does not suddenly make you boyfriend/girlfriend. You can go to prom with a friend and just have fun. You don't even have to actually spend time together, but you have the last dance and take photos together and all that. Once you're in, you'll probably notice a lot of the guys are hanging out with guys while girls are hanging out with girls. It's a mixture and there are no rules.
I can assure you that not everyone wants to be cool. I used to think everybody sucked because all they do is talk about drama and all that. You think everybody is like that because those are the people you see. You don't see the people who aren't popular and "cool" and into drama because they don't stick around for that! They go to school, then leave with their friends.
Definitely go to prom!
[quote=xtripled]even the nerds went to prom at my high school. Some people don't feel like prom is a big deal, which it probably isn't but i thought about staying home as well but i ended up deciding to grow a pair, ask a girl, and went. It was arguably one of the greatest nights of my life. You have 2 months, figure something out but at the end of the day, if you don't want to go, don't go.[/quote]
What worries is if I do ask a girl to go prom with me. what do I do since I dont have friends well real friends to chill with, do I just hang out with her?
@NoobCake Haha, that sucks to hear. Whats a prom after party?
I'll just continue what I'm doing and just talk to more people.
I didn't go to prom. I don't regret it. I do regret not going to the prom after party (dad fell asleep and couldn't drop me and it was too late to take the bus)...
If you honestly don't see any potential for a good time, don't go. Simple.
judging from the tldr, you should definitly go. just ask someone, it could turn out good. and if worst comes to worst you probably wont see any of these people next year anyways.
even the nerds went to prom at my high school. Some people don't feel like prom is a big deal, which it probably isn't but i thought about staying home as well but i ended up deciding to grow a pair, ask a girl, and went. It was arguably one of the greatest nights of my life. You have 2 months, figure something out but at the end of the day, if you don't want to go, don't go.