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when talking about one's self confidence -------->
people ALWAYS refer to the independent black woman
there's no better example

There are generally two types of people. Introverts and extroverts, with differing scales for each. Personally, I'm an introvert. I don't like being in large groups for extended periods of time and I generally prefer one on one conversations. Other people have different preferences.

Realize that there is nothing wrong with being quiet, but also that it's not that big a deal to walk up to someone and say hi. You can have some good conversations that way, even if you never see the person again.

All this talk about being an Alpha is misguided. Attempting to act out a role that doesn't suit you will only make you frustrated in the end, or you'll end up losing respect from people you met with your pretend persona after you start acting like yourself again.

Now. If your post is intended for confidence regarding relationships, realize that most people stress out way too much about it. In those cases you just have to force yourself to say hi, and eventually have to force yourself to ask her out. A relationship is sort of a two way street. Each failed relationship gives you more experience, but also tears at your emotions a little and makes you a bit more jaded. Not too many people are lucky enough to get it right the first time.

I won't go too much more into that topic, since it wasn't specifically asked about. But if you want practice making conversation. Just message me and I'll be glad to chat with you.

Just try.

Every time you wake up, look at yourself in the mirror and say "Wow, I am smokin' hot!"

... hey, it worked for me.

Observe Neil Patrick Harris and be awesome.

Lift weights.

I myself am very shy and very quiet around most people, and I'm only not shy when I'm around friends i've known for a while or feel very comfortable.

I think the best advice (I am trying to follow this at least) is to just chill with friends often, and try and talk a lot.
The more you hang out, the more people you meet. The more people you meet, the more you will be able to converse with people.
As for having confidence in yourself, just do it and don't think about it!

All you need is motivational Piccolo to get you through the day.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sW0HjlIuzzQ&feature=related

And getting out of your comfort zone. Take it from an ex-introvert.

Stop caring so much. It's not even really about confidence.
Deep down inside, I bet you're afraid of what people will think if you talked to them, or if you told a joke you thought was funny, or whatever.
If I'm right, that's probably why you're so damn shy. If you just stop caring about petty things like what I mentioned, you'll be able to do whatever you want.

But if you're set on being confident, fake it 'til you make it. That's kind of what I did.

[quote=TheDudeAbides]
You coudn't be worse than you are now.[/quote]

Ouch... That kind of went the opposite direction of your previous points.

[quote=Urpleness]Doesn't work, this kid is dumb. I mean it will make you look better, but even a guy without good looks but has confidence can get a girl.
You either have confidence or you don't.[/quote]

So basically what you're saying is in life...you win or you lose. Nothing in between?

Try being the oppsite of the way you are.
Stop being the uninteresting, boring, uninspired, unmonivated person that you are right now and be just start being better.
You coudn't be worse than you are now.

Boosting confidence? All I do is tell myself that I'm sexy/awesome constantly. It goes a little something like this:

"Jeremy, you are so damn sexy. Omg you are one hot piece of ass. You're like, the only sexy gamer in existence, and probably your brothers too. But you're the sexiest of all though. No one can be as sexy as you."

[quote=siuttybears]Talk to employees at the grocery stores you go to[/quote]

but...but i dont do the grocery

Talk to employees at the grocery stores you go to

[url=http://shyness.com/shyness-institute.html]This might help you a bit.[/url]