I cheatedShould I tell or forget it?
My gf and I had a fight.
See, every time something bad happens she would always say "God is testing us; this test will help decide if we can go to heaven".
I got tired of hearing that. I mean I thought it's BS considering my beliefs. I told her that was stupid and she needs to stop being stupid.
After that she started to cry. I kept yelling at her that crying won't solve anything. Then I just went on my phone; and to spite my gf I decided to flirt
with another girl. My gf told me to leave so I did.
I met up with this other girl and we hung out. We had a good time and I told her she is better than my gf. We laughed at that and then she kissed me.
I then kissed her back and we practically made out.
That was 2 days ago. My gf and I made up and things are good; but now I feel guilty of what I have done. I feel I should tell her but at the same time I don't want
this to ruin my relationship. I rather not break up. However I feel really guilty. I asked my guy friends and they said it was just a kiss no reason to tell. I asked
my female friends and they told me I should tell her.
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I will tell you guys tomorrow how everything will go.
Going to leave basil on tho.
I will prob be back in a hour.
I told her. She started to yell at me and told me to meet her now.
Be honest what do you think might happen?
I think she started to cry on the phone.
@peure How do u know ur gf didn't?
I obviously don't if it means cheating on the first chance you get
Aye @Jellal how old are you mate?
[quote=peure]Riiight. That's why I'm in a healthy relationship for almost a year and you cheat within a week.[/quote]
That is because you don't understand love.
Riiight. That's why I'm in a healthy relationship for almost a year and you cheat within a week.
[quote=peure]It seems to be people in good and healthy relationships know what they're doing. You, however...[/quote]
I know what I am doing. You however DON"T.
It seems to be people in good and healthy relationships know what they're doing. You, however...
Fine if you people wish so badly I will tell her. I will call her now and tell you what happens.
[quote=xtripled]@JeIIal: well we know you're hypothetically a scum bag, cheating d-bag of a boyfriend[/quote]
No, NONE OF YOU know who I AM.
I AM A GOOD PERSON. I JUST MADE ONE MISTAKE AND THAT IS ALL.
I AM NOT A SINGLE GF-LESS PERSON LIKE YOU,
Say what you like. Say you love her. This can only lead to more pain... Also, caps-lock is on
@JeIIal: well we know you're hypothetically a scum bag, cheating d-bag of a boyfriend
[quote=xtripled]none of us understand that you're hypothetically a scum bag, cheating d-bag of a boyfriend? no we understand alright[/quote]
No that is you. YOU ARE THE one WHO CHEATED ON HIS GIRLFRIEND.
ALL OF YOU DON"T KNOW HER OR THE RELATIONSHIP.
none of us understand that you're hypothetically a scum bag, cheating d-bag of a boyfriend? no we understand alright
YOU ARE ALL -oranges- none of YOU UNDERSTAND.
GET OFF THE THREAD SCOUNDRELS
@Errr:
I agree. Fighting is normal. Cheating, however, is not.
your stories are so fake lol
http://www.basilmarket.com/forum/2789355
but i'll answer this seriously anyways. You told her crying solves nothing, but you yelling at her does? you're certainly special. You should break up with her, she deserves better than scum like you.
[quote=JeIIal]I am not sure. I rather not have her break up with me.
...
LOVE does weird things to you. i don't want to be single. I LOVE HER, I LOVE HER, I LOVE HER.[/quote]
You say you love her, and I don't believe you. I'm sorry, but based on your posts, it seems you are in love with the [i]idea[/i] of dating someone, not your girlfriend herself. You claim you do love her-why? What is so special about her? All you've mentioned up until this point is that you don't want to be single-which says you don't really care who you date, as long as its someone. And you seem willing to manipulate and lie to someone just to stay in a relationship with them-which implies you love being in a relationship, not being with her.
[quote=peure]Honestly, your relationship doesn't sound healthy to begin with if you're constantly fighting... She's a little pushy, but you're also being a little rude about it... Also, I hate cheaters as a general policy. Tell her[/quote]
Couples fighting is normal. Couples who argue have a stronger and longer relationship.
@jellal you should be conflicted but lets make it simple. IF you LOVE HER SO VERY DEARLY as you say, ask yourself this question. Would you want to see her sad? if your answer is "no i dont wanna see her sad" think about what you did, and ask yourself "would i be sad if she cheated on me?" then sit on that thought. and decide whats best for her, YES you want to be with her, but if cheating on her makes her sad, wouldnt you rather see her happy? (even if its without you)
So you say. After a week. Why, then? Also, being a teen is no excuse for doing such a scummy thing. I'm going on a year with my girlfriend, and I've never even thought about cheating. It's just not something you would do to somebody you care about.
[quote=peure]Well, maybe you should just blink, and BOOM, you can be single.[/quote]
LOVE does weird things to you. i don't want to be single. I LOVE HER, I LOVE HER, I LOVE HER.
Well, maybe you should just blink, and BOOM, you can be single.
[quote=peure]How can you say you love her if you acted so spitefully?[/quote]
I wasn't thinking. It happened so fast I just blinked and BOOM I was kissing another girl.
How can you say you love her if you acted so spitefully?
[quote=CouponGoddess]@JeIIal: noo... you're scummy.
not only that, you're delusional[/quote]
No you are. You are also the delusional one. You don't know our relationship.
[quote=peure]She deserves better, or at least somebody who cares enough not to do terrible things within a week.[/quote]
She does but I can't live without her. I LOVE HER.
[quote=gath]Honestly, based on what you wrote, it sounds like you aren't all that compatible with your girlfriend. But I don't know the whole story, so I won't comment on that.
What I will say is that you should tell her. Given that you're teenagers and you told all your friends about the situation, she will find out anyway. It's best if it's from you.[/quote]
I am not sure. I rather not have her break up with me.
@eagletran I don't know what to do, i am conflicted.
@Jellal no not at all, im not saying its a choice. one way or another it WILL come up again, whether you tell her now or in the future you gona end up telling her and if not from you, she'll hear about it
Honestly, based on what you wrote, it sounds like you aren't all that compatible with your girlfriend. But I don't know the whole story, so I won't comment on that.
What I will say is that you should tell her. Given that you're teenagers and you told all your friends about the situation, she will find out anyway. It's best if it's from you.
She deserves better, or at least somebody who cares enough not to do terrible things within a week.
@JeIIal: noo... you're scummy.
not only that, you're delusional
@Redefined I am a changed man. But you're right she doesn't deserve me.
@subsamuel123 I hope I don't use it against her.
@peure I think our love can survive it. We love each other very much.
@ImaClubYou So? I do love her and she loves me.
@eagletran you want me to tell her later in the relationship?
@jellal err, im not gonna put god in this but if you wanna think that way sure. im just saying, things happen, like you kissing that girl. it was the heat of the moment, but you also know its a mistake, one way or another the further you go into the relationship she'll find out and POSSIBLY understand the situation you were in. If not, then she'll leave, but you just gonna have to deal with it, either make up for it somehow or let it go and move on after a while of broken heartedness
This dudes talking about love. Lmao.
You've been together a week, and you cheat on her... I'm sorry, I don't think you can save it...
Only god can save you now son....Nawh im joking i dont believe in that stuff either. But seriously, mark my words she will eventually find out about it especially since ur feelings guilty. It'll just eat you up inside and you'll just end up telling her during a fight or w/e lol
@eagletran is that the old motto?
@Redefined I did somethin stupid. It was in a moment thing, I mean we are teens right?
@peure A week.
How long have you been in this relationship? Can you really, truly say you love her if you go to another woman during your FIRST FIGHT...?
@Jellal yep lesson learned buddy, from here on out. Whatever happens, happens
[quote=peure]Honestly... You really can't save it at this point.[/quote]
I believe our love can be saved.
BTW I only have 2 friends of each gender that i am close with. Which are the people I told.
They won't tell her, I made them promise.
Honestly... You really can't save it at this point.
[quote=CouponGoddess]you're kind of scummy...
She should break up with you because you have no self-control but at the same time she sounds like a pain so this isn't going to work[/quote]
I am not scummy and I don't lack self control. We love each other and are bound to no chains.
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@peure I don't think it's ridiculous.
[quote=LazyLazyLazy]I think you two should break up if you don't seriously marry and start a happy family. But on good terms[/quote]
Well she told me before she wants to marry me someday.
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@Woahwut I don't want to break up with her.
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@eagletran lesson learned?
You've already told too many people to keep it a secret. Just be honest and break up with her since this is going no where.
your first mistake was flirting to spite her. your 2nd mistake was telling YOUR business to others, especially to other girls, now its just bad on you cause if she finds out from them youre screwed. good luck with that
-waits for your gf to tell you to go to hell-
I think you two should break up if you don't seriously marry and start a happy family. But on good terms
If this is your first fight what are the other bad things that happen?
you're kind of scummy...
She should break up with you because you have no self-control but at the same time she sounds like a pain so this isn't going to work
Well, if you'll cheat during your first fight, that's ridiculous.
[quote=Genji]shes reading this right now..u buste'd[/quote]
doubt it.
She doesn't know I play maple nor I go on basil.
shes reading this right now..u buste'd