Help with this girl
So there is this girl in my math class, she's really cute and very nice. I like hanging out with her as friends, but I'm pretty sure she wants more and I'm not really interested with that.
At Tuesday after the first math period she took me aside to the stair room, and started talking to me about the relationship between me and her. Finally she asked what do I want from this relationship, so I told her that I want to remain as friends (was so awkward). So after the second math period she took me aside to the stair room again and asked me what did I say before that I want from this relationship (I admit when I answered before it was a little unclear, since it was kind of awkward), so I told her that I want us to be friends (I stressed out friends and not girlfriend and boyfriend). The rest of this day was pretty awkward between me and her, we didn't exchange any words nor did we want to bump into each other.
The next day, though, was kind of weird she talked to me freely as we used to before the "incident". The day after that was pretty similar to the day before, only I had math again. So during the second math period she told me to go with her to the speaking hall building, because she has [i]something important to tell me[/i]. I got nervous and tried avoiding her a bit after the class, and when the class was about to begin again, I told her that I don't want to be late and got to class. The same thing happened during that period, she told me she wanted to see me at the speaking hall building for the same reason. So after the class ended I told her that I have to go home early.
I like this girl [b]as a friend[/b], after I broke up with my last girlfriend I told myself not to jump into a relationship, a little solo time for myself. I don't want to date this girl, yet I don't want to lose her as a friend.
How will I tell her that I'm not interested in a relationship, yet not offend her/make it to awkward for us to stay friends?
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[quote=ocathleeno]tell her you're gay. The end.
haha Just Kidding - Well you obviously stressed it twice to her that you do not like her, and obviously she isn't getting the hint - or maybe she's just extremely desperate. I just think you should really lay it out to her "I have no desire for me and you to be anything more than friends. &right now I'm not ready for a relationship" I'm sure if she really likes you she's not going to completely blow you off and just ignore you. After you set her straight, just talk causally to her, to show her that you're not entirely creeped out about her. It'll all work out, hah.[/quote]
Nice tip man, thanks. I'll use it on Monday.
@above: Hah, nice but It's not that I don't want to date her atm/don't want to risk our friendship. I'm not interested in dating her, and I want to tell her that gently so we could still remain friends.
[quote=scarlettribbons]I just think he's not attracted to her.
TS, you should probably just be blunt and up-front about it. Flatter her and tell her she's wonderful and all that jazz, but that you're just not looking for a relationship and that you really, really value your friendship and by no means want to lose her. Flatter > say you're not interested > say you don't want to ruin your friendship.
Just be honest.[/quote]
Thanks, I'll use your advise. I just hope she takes it well, and we can remain friends.
@above: Even though she's all those things, she's not really my type(sounds horrible to say)? I simply don't want to date her.
[quote=Anyone]Before reading, I'm going to say this.
Ask her out?[/quote]
She kind of asked me out, and I'm trying to avoid that. I don't want to date her.
[quote=partyanimal]You seem to be able to easily tell us here why you can't date her, why can't you just say these things to her?[/quote]
I'm afraid that if I say it like this, things will get to awkward between us that we won't able to be friends.
@GirlQuestions: I don't have Facebook.
pretend ur homosexual
Just say you're not interested in a relationship currently due to being too busy, etc.
You seem to be able to easily tell us here why you can't date her, why can't you just say these things to her?
Guys you're missing the point here, I'm not interested in going out with her, she's really awesome but I don't want to date her. It's not that I don't want to date her because I fear that it will ruin our relationship, I'm not interested in dating her in the first place but I still want us to be friends in the most likely case that will happen in Monday. I can tell her how I feel but I fear that it's too brutal, and will make things awkward between us. I just want to find something to say to her that won't risk our friendship.
Edit: @above: that is what I want.
[quote=jojjetoy]@jorden27: Meh, on a more serious note you could say like: I would like to know you beter first or something[/quote]
This could be a nice tip, but I really only want to stay friends with this girl. Not that there's anything wrong with her, I'm just not interested in going out with her.
See what she has to say first.
If it is a date, then tell her what you really feel.
is she a snooki .. ?
[quote=jojjetoy]Go home snow hoe![/quote]
I hardly seem to realize how this has any content regarding the thread, nor helpful in general.
[quote=Ryan1234]How you know she wants to go out with you. See what she says[/quote]
I'm like 85% sure from her body language and the way she said that she had something important to tell me that she wants us to start dating. But even if it isn't the case I wan't to be prepared for if this will happen.