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Can we all agree that cyber-bullying isnt real?

Because that's how I feel.

July 13, 2014

46 Comments • Newest first

Zoneflare4

Cyber bullying isnt as cut and dry as people think. Online bullying can range from a boy getting beat up but classmates he never before had interaction with to a girl being sexually assaulted all because the usual faceless bully made people believe in false and demoralizing information on the web.

Just saying to "log off" means that you wont see whats posts or content but that wont solve the problem of others seeing it and possibly acting on what they saw.

Reply July 15, 2014
kevqn

[quote=kahime]Because that's how I feel.[/quote]

I'm not sure if you're serious or not because most people don't agree with this, but I agree. Nothings stopping you from logging off

Reply July 15, 2014
mitarumetaro

[quote=ToriLikesYou]Congrats, mods. You are terrible at this, please find a different job that you actually care about.[/quote]

Dw though, they moved a few posts from 'Chat' to 'Fun' today, so they are totally on top of things.

Reply July 14, 2014
ToriLikesYou

Congrats, mods. You are terrible at this, please find a different job that you actually care about.

Reply July 14, 2014
katrie

You get your feelings hurt.

You can't just be like "Stop making the thing that's making you sad make you sad". You don't choose feelings.
Like I get where you're coming from but you can't just look at this objectively. People are emotional beings. I can tell myself "Okay who cares what they think" and I can turn that into a mantra, but it's still going to damage me mentally. I'll never be able to stop thinking about it. It doesn't just go away when you turn off your computer.

Honestly I really don't think this was a good thread to start.

Update: just realized this was a troll thread

Reply July 14, 2014 - edited
ToriLikesYou

[quote=JordanEnz]no i am not new here
stop acting like some stuck up bch
god [/quote]

hahahaha

Reply July 14, 2014 - edited
ZombieOverlord

I am honestly just feeling so attacked right now.

Reply July 14, 2014 - edited
ToriLikesYou

[quote=JordanEnz]so you admit you're a attention whore...
nice to know.[/quote]

you didn't already know that i'm a superstar?
r u new?

Reply July 14, 2014 - edited
xoqtprincessxo

[quote=Zoneflare4]can't and won't take anyone seriously who used the "n-word" or any type of foul language in their statements.[/quote]

Seems like a good way to lose out on a lot of good ideas

Reply July 14, 2014 - edited
Zoneflare4

[quote=Craftinrock][url=http://i.imgur.com/qJFr0qe.jpg]This is why cyber bullying doesn't exist[/url][/quote]can't and won't take anyone seriously who used the "n-word" or any type of foul language in their statements.

Reply July 14, 2014 - edited
acuppa

Why can't kids just not interact with their peers if they're going to be bullied? It's so simple

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
ToriLikesYou

[quote=kahime]How could you believe I hated g@ys, woman, and other things.
< / 3[/quote]

when did i say i didn't believe that lmao

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
kahime

[quote=ToriLikesYou]idk man i gotta lot of likes out of it lol[/quote]

How could you believe I hated g@ys, woman, and other things.
< / 3

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
ToriLikesYou

[quote=Mantis561]Sorry I'm late but, I have to tell you guys something very important...
NEVER FEED THE TROLL![/quote]

idk man i gotta lot of likes out of it lol

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
Mantis561

Sorry I'm late but, I have to tell you guys something very important...
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NEVER FEED THE TROLL!

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
kahime

[quote=NameSpoof]If your gonna try to troll, at least provide better arguments because this was no fun to read and i normally love troll threads.[/quote]

I'm not exactly a professional yet.
I'm sorry for my amateur hour,

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
NameSpoof

If your gonna try to troll, at least provide better arguments because this was no fun to read and i normally love troll threads.

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
Intexticated

haven't seen a flame bait thread of this quality in a while, good job OP.

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
kahime

[quote=ToriLikesYou]cHOKE.[/quote]
not sure what you want from an innocent bystander such as myself.

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
ToriLikesYou

[quote=kahime]why you gotta ruin my fun[/quote]

cHOKE.

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
kahime

[quote=mitarumetaro]Just for the record, everyone: http://i.imgur.com/TYQUI25.png[/quote]

why you gotta ruin my fun
Mods save me pls

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
mitarumetaro

Just for the record, everyone: http://i.imgur.com/TYQUI25.png

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
kahime

@Missy: then kill yourself

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
AugustRain

[b]i pray for you[/b]

im speechless at your responses. my god.

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
Missy

nah, it's definitely real

[quote=kahime]If I had nudes of myself spread around the internet, it is my own fault because I took the pictures in the first place. I should have known the possibility of that happening.[/quote]
are you implying that when someone sends naked pictures to someone whom they thought they trusted, deserves to be sent hateful messages and be told to kill themselves? nah

yeah, ceasing from going on the interwebz can keep you away from the direct bullying, but.. you go to school right?
you have a job right?
you have friends right?
well, say good bye to all of those things because [url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suicide_of_Amanda_Todd]this crap CAN follow you wherever you go[/url]

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
kahime

[quote=mitarumetaro]Is "take action and stop being a wuss" your solution to every other hardship a person might face as well?
In other words, are you just selectively obtuse, or are you this obtuse regarding everything?[/quote]
G@y people shouldn't have rights, anyone who isn't white (which is including myself) isn't even a real human being. Jesus is a terrorist, and woman should stay in the kitchen.

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
ToriLikesYou

[quote=kahime]@torilikesyou Yes it is all the victims fault. It's like that not consensual intercourse thing. burn them at the stake..
@mitarumetaro Then take action and stop being a wuss[/quote]

You're an idiot.

Edit: OP is 110% a cyberbully.
and a sad troll

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
mitarumetaro

[quote=kahime]@torilikesyou Yes it is all the victims fault. It's like that not consensual intercourse thing. burn them at the stake..
@mitarumetaro Then take action and stop being a wuss[/quote]

Is "take action and stop being a wuss" your solution to every other hardship a person might face as well?
In other words, are you just selectively obtuse, or are you this obtuse regarding everything?

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
kahime

@torilikesyou Yes it is all the victims fault. It's like that not consensual intercourse thing. burn them at the stake..
@mitarumetaro Then take action and stop being a wuss

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
ox0Shad0w0xo

[quote=mitarumetaro]If I send around nudes of yours, or start trash-talking you all over social media, or set up a website devoted to hating on you, or spread hurtful rumous about you online, or send threats to you or your family members using the internet, etc
I'm not sure how what you have suggested is going to solve ANY of the problems[/quote]

This exactly. Cyber-bullying isn't limited to making 1 or 2 hurtful statements to you online. It can be any number of things aimed directly, or indirectly at you. Turning off your computer doesn't turn off the internet. If someone is dragging your name through the mud all over social media, it's not going to erase itself if your computer is suddenly off.

Sure, certain aspects of it can be prevented if you're careful (they can't extort or blackmail you if you don't let anything get onto the internet in the first place), but some things you have no control over. And the internet actually makes tormenting someone easier. Tons of people are always on facebook, instagram, twitter, etc., so imagine how quickly things can spread.

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
mitarumetaro

[quote=kahime]@keane well if it is at school doesn't that make it normal bullying?
@toriLikesyou that ain't happening baby doll
@mitarumetaro If I had nudes of myself spread around the internet, it is my own fault because I took the pictures in the first place. I should have known the possibility of that happening. If you trash talk about me on social media, I can always just stop going on facebook. If you make a website devoted to hating me, I could just stop going to that website. Again if there are hurtful rumors about me, I could stop going online since I have the power to control the medium. And honestly, if someone told me they were going to come to my house and kill me, I wouldn't really believe it. I'm going to go to your house and kill you. Are you scared for your safety now?[/quote]

...you've missed the point entirely
Someone could PM me on basil and say "HEY YOU KNOW WHAT I HEARD ABOUT FLEXY? I HEARD THAT THEY <something>" And, you know what? I know it's not true. Of course I know that... it's a rumour about me. The internet just facilitates the distribution of that (false) information to PEOPLE WHO AREN'T ME. And these PEOPLE WHO AREN'T ME are people who have a real impact on my life, since... well.... I exist outside of the internet. If I stop going on facebook, that's not going to stop the transfer of information. If anything, it just blinds me to it.

I'm not sure if you're just trying to troll, or if you're actually obtuse as f*

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
ToriLikesYou

[quote=kahime]@keane well if it is at school doesn't that make it normal bullying?
@toriLikesyou that ain't happening baby doll
@mitarumetaro If I had nudes of myself spread around the internet, it is my own fault because I took the pictures in the first place. I should have known the possibility of that happening. If you trash talk about me on social media, I can always just stop going on facebook. If you make a website devoted to hating me, I could just stop going to that website. Again if there are hurtful rumors about me, I could stop going online since I have the power to control the medium. And honestly, if someone told me they were going to come to my house and kill me, I wouldn't really believe it. I'm going to go to your house and kill you. Are you scared for your safety now?[/quote]

Ok. So cyber-bullying victims should just delete all of their accounts and never go on the internet again? Everything is their fault?
You sound like a cyberbully.
Sorry but your opinion is wrong.

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
kahime

@keane well if it is at school doesn't that make it normal bullying?
@toriLikesyou that ain't happening baby doll
@mitarumetaro If I had nudes of myself spread around the internet, it is my own fault because I took the pictures in the first place. I should have known the possibility of that happening. If you trash talk about me on social media, I can always just stop going on facebook. If you make a website devoted to hating me, I could just stop going to that website. Again if there are hurtful rumors about me, I could stop going online since I have the power to control the medium. And honestly, if someone told me they were going to come to my house and kill me, I wouldn't really believe it. I'm going to go to your house and kill you. Are you scared for your safety now?

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
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[quote=kahime]I feel like people can just delete their accounts or not connect to wherever their being bullied and everything will be over. I do understand that people are killing themselves over things being said and I do find it horrible. I just wonder how it's hurtful. Basically all social media websites have tools that can be used to silence those who threaten users. There is no reason that these tools shouldn't be used. To avoid conflict on the internet, you have two options:
1) Use the tools a website provides for dealing with aggressive users. Common examples of these tools include the Block User button, the Report User button, or the Remove Comment button.
2) Turn off your computer and do something else. Nobody is forcing you to take criticism from anyone off the internet.[/quote]

I just wanted to fit in i have nothing to say

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
mitarumetaro

[quote=kahime]I feel like people can just delete their accounts or not connect to wherever their being bullied and everything will be over. I do understand that people are killing themselves over things being said and I do find it horrible. I just wonder how it's hurtful. Basically all social media websites have tools that can be used to silence those who threaten users. There is no reason that these tools shouldn't be used. To avoid conflict on the internet, you have two options:
1) Use the tools a website provides for dealing with aggressive users. Common examples of these tools include the Block User button, the Report User button, or the Remove Comment button.
2) Turn off your computer and do something else. Nobody is forcing you to take criticism from anyone off the internet.[/quote]

If I send around nudes of yours, or start trash-talking you all over social media, or set up a website devoted to hating on you, or spread hurtful rumous about you online, or send threats to you or your family members using the internet, etc
I'm not sure how what you have suggested is going to solve ANY of the problems

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
ToriLikesYou

[quote=kahime]I feel like people can just delete their accounts or not connect to wherever their being bullied and everything will be over. I do understand that people are killing themselves over things being said and I do find it horrible. I just wonder how it's hurtful. Basically all social media websites have tools that can be used to silence those who threaten users. There is no reason that these tools shouldn't be used. To avoid conflict on the internet, you have two options:
1) Use the tools a website provides for dealing with aggressive users. Common examples of these tools include the Block User button, the Report User button, or the Remove Comment button.
2) Turn off your computer and do something else. Nobody is forcing you to take criticism from anyone off the internet.[/quote]

Orr you could just not say hurtful things to people over the internet?

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
Ruew

no we can not

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kahime

I feel like people can just delete their accounts or not connect to wherever their being bullied and everything will be over. I do understand that people are killing themselves over things being said and I do find it horrible. I just wonder how it's hurtful. Basically all social media websites have tools that can be used to silence those who threaten users. There is no reason that these tools shouldn't be used. To avoid conflict on the internet, you have two options:
1) Use the tools a website provides for dealing with aggressive users. Common examples of these tools include the Block User button, the Report User button, or the Remove Comment button.
2) Turn off your computer and do something else. Nobody is forcing you to take criticism from anyone off the internet.

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
mitarumetaro

[quote=kahime]I mean that people shouldn't feel bullied if someone told them to kill themselves on basilmarket. (for example)[/quote]

I think that one of the important features of bullying is that it's unrelenting over an extended period of time...

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
kahime

[quote=mitarumetaro]What do you mean it isn't "real"?[/quote]

I mean that people shouldn't feel bullied if someone told them to kill themselves on basilmarket. (for example)

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
yoyotwistap65

If it isn't real, then why does it exist?

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PamperJN

ur fat

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
TehRaygunicorn

Personal feelings do not equate to universal truths

Sorrynotsorry

Reply July 13, 2014 - edited
mitarumetaro

What do you mean it isn't "real"?

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