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[quote=BoredAF]@TehRaygunicorn: lol The last bit bro. Killed my joke. >.< [/quote]

hehehe i edited it so it still stands because it made me crack up +1 hahah

[quote=BoredAF]Boy or girl? lol congrats.[/quote]

oh wait i just realized how ambiguous that was lmfao girl girl girl

Easiest way to avoid the so called "friend zone":

Avoid becoming friends if you truly intend on pursuing the girl. Your intentions should be clear- if you're into her that's cool but you'll have to let her know eventually and it makes more sense to keep things simple until you gather up the courage to make a move or just do it. There's a distinct difference between friendship and relationship. Some people dream of going from friendship to relationship and while I admire that, it is always a huge risk that tends to happen between two consenting parties that truly are very close to each other (I.e. Friends for years or adults). Even then there's no guarantee that the relationship will pan out any better than other types of relationships, nor should one ever believe that because someone invests emotions into a relationship that they will kiss you and make love to you eventually.

I understand some people don't feel comfortable just asking strangers out and that's cool too, just don't become close to someone then get upset when things don't pan out romantically as you might have intended them to. The sooner you let 'me know what's up, the sooner you'll be able to move on for better or for worse

And as many others have said, you weren't friend zoned. You were simply rejected. Because out of the billions of people on this planet, we are programmed with the freedom of will and the capacity to say no and yes to things. And there's nothing wrong with that because man let me tell you, if this feels crappy- how good do you think you'll feel when someone you're into accepts your invitation? Exactly. How about if someone you're not into asked you out? Would you feel bad saying no? It'd be stupid of you to say yes, because simply, you're not into her and it'd be a waste of your time. So keep your chin up and keep lookin' for someone if that's what you want in your life right now

Or you can do what I did and hook up with a friend drunk (probably the easiest way to chance with an interest, assuming you maintain respect and responsible limits) and deal with the aftermath later lol

If you don't value the friendship then you should have asked her out right from the start and if she said no then you should have backed off. It would have saved you time/effort/embarrassment and you wouldn't have come onto basil looking like a jerk because it hurt your baby ego that a girl doesn't feel romantic attraction to you.

[quote=katrie]It makes me sad that guys can't just be friends with a girl and not only expect affection, but complain and create a "friendzone" to wallow about.:/

Cheer up, buttercup! If things were meant to happen, they will happen. Maybe she sees you as a friend now and will develop romantic feelings for you. Maybe you'll meet someone else and become friends before anything else. Maybe you'll hook up with a stranger. Maybe you'll fall in love with someone the moment you first see them. Maybe they'll all reject you. Maybe they'll all say yes. Keep moving forward and don't be sad about the friendzone. It's an excuse and you know that

Good luck on your future endeavours [/quote]

I think you might enjoy this, haha.
http://thecolbertreport.cc.com/videos/25lwb9/the-plight-of-platonic-relationships

Hahahahah you got rekt m8 ;O

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=05hTBAOnDQE&list=UUWXCrItCF6ZgXrdozUS-Idw

When it's mutual it'll happen! Just don't be upset about it. ^^

alright, accept your losses and move on.

[quote=TeenDream]there is no such thing as the friendzone stop being a baby[/quote]

It's a concept obv

now that its over, its time for you to look for someone else.

@BoredAF: we friendzoned each other ok

"Parting is all we know of heaven, and all we need of hell." - Emily D.

@Boredaf that blows man kathy what's wrong with you

Thank you all for your helpful words and advice

@OnlineMusic: we've been friends since elementary school, and i kind of just took her aside while we were with a group of friends after a movie and asked her

[quote=Keey]@halfway @yohsei To be honest i kind of prefer yohseis approach to this i'm stupid for making an excuse about the friendzone lol and he is teaching me how to get better. But yes i agree with you somewhat @halfway for most people, yohsei you shouldnt be so straightforward to people who are feeling sad.

Just my advice [/quote]

Hey man, sorry about the rejection, it happens to all of us at some point. Out of curiosity, how long did you know this girl for and how did you ask her out?

[quote=Keey]@halfway @yohsei To be honest i kind of prefer yohseis approach to this i'm stupid for making an excuse about the friendzone lol and he is teaching me how to get better. But yes i agree with you somewhat @halfway for most people, yohsei you shouldnt be so straightforward to people who are feeling sad.

Just my advice [/quote]
Glad you spoke up man. If you have no problem then I have no problem, I'm done here

@halfway @yohsei To be honest i kind of prefer yohseis approach to this i'm stupid for making an excuse about the friendzone lol and he is teaching me how to get better. But yes i agree with you somewhat @halfway for most people, yohsei you shouldnt be so straightforward to people who are feeling sad.

Just my advice

@boredaf sorry i ramble a lot and i don't like to end sentences cause i always have more to say i do that in school too english teachers hate me my grade probably dropped like two whole points because of that

@Yohsei: First of all you do not know what I was going to say so do not start creating scenarios about what I would have said. Regardless of if he failed or not I was going to offer him advice on what he could do better for his current crush and future girls and also try to make him feel better. Whether he decides to listen to my advice or not is his choice. Again with your strong opinion [i]I'm right you're wrong approach[/i] stop being so blind and open your eyes (no pun intended l0l) Yeah this guy isn't the only one with girl problems but he's the only one who made a thread about it right now hoping to feel better so to generalize him and think that this is the time to put him on blast for a word he used is not only "rash" of you but very ignorant.

It makes me sad that guys can't just be friends with a girl and not only expect affection, but complain and create a "friendzone" to wallow about.:/

Cheer up, buttercup! If things were meant to happen, they will happen. Maybe she sees you as a friend now and will develop romantic feelings for you. Maybe you'll meet someone else and become friends before anything else. Maybe you'll hook up with a stranger. Maybe you'll fall in love with someone the moment you first see them. Maybe they'll all reject you. Maybe they'll all say yes. Keep moving forward and don't be sad about the friendzone. It's an excuse and you know that

Good luck on your future endeavours

[quote=Yohsei]@keey no you didn't get friendzoned lmao you got rejected;; when she said " hey man i appreciate you taking up the courage and all but i just want to be remain friends you feel me? kay cool" that's just the nice girl way of letting someone down
she's not sexually or emotionally attracted to you, she thinks you two together have absolutely no chemistry, you were rejected, like thats basically it lol
getting "friendzoned" is the same as being rejected but aside from you what really pisses me off though is how the majority of guys who complain about the friendzone are in reality a bunch of assholes (again not saying you're an asshole) hiding behind the "nice guy" disguise and throw their arms up and get mad at girls who reject them as if theyre a victim of some sort of injustice
no one is entitled to the affection of another, no one should expect or demand that a person find them attractive just because they were "nice" and then get upset when that doesnt happen
i get that unrequited love can be disheartening (believe me i understand what that feels like) but getting mad at the person youve feelings for because they dont feel the same way about you is just uh kind of crazy and irrational and assholeish? " the word friendzone should not exist that's all im saying[/quote]

From now on I'm going to tag you whenever I see a thread about a guy complaining about the friend zone. Agree with everything you said

@halfway hahahaha so let's assume he failed to answer your "love survey" and he didn't know the girl for a long time and he didn't know her birthday what would you have said? "oh hahaha maybe you didn't get to know her well enough before asking maybe that's why she rejected you! you got it next time" with a cute little smile and a reassuring slap on the back now please tell me [b]what does this solve?[/b] sure he might be "entertained" by your [i]humorous[/i] showcase of Detective Halfway! but what does that solve, in the end?

you might counterargue with the point that oh wow people don't need their problems to be solved maybe they're just having a bad day but i can tell you firsthand (put this in your detective halfway books for future perusal) that people don't listen when they think they've got the situation under control

i didn't take the "d-bag" approach like you so rashly assume he's not the only one with girl problems i have my fair share but i fix his misunderstanding you set him up for future failure

[quote=Yohsei]@keey no you didn't get friendzoned lmao you got rejected;; when she said " hey man i appreciate you taking up the courage and all but i just want to be remain friends you feel me? kay cool" that's just the nice girl way of letting someone down
she's not sexually or emotionally attracted to you, she thinks you two together have absolutely no chemistry, you were rejected, like thats basically it lol
getting "friendzoned" is the same as being rejected but aside from you what really pisses me off though is how the majority of guys who complain about the friendzone are in reality a bunch of assholes (again not saying you're an asshole) hiding behind the "nice guy" disguise and throw their arms up and get mad at girls who reject them as if theyre a victim of some sort of injustice
no one is entitled to the affection of another, no one should expect or demand that a person find them attractive just because they were "nice" and then get upset when that doesnt happen
i get that unrequited love can be disheartening (believe me i understand what that feels like) but getting mad at the person youve feelings for because they dont feel the same way about you is just uh kind of crazy and irrational and assholeish? " the word friendzone should not exist that's all im saying[/quote]

absolutely perfectly said... covered everything i possibly feel on the subject of the term friendzone

@Yohsei: Maybe not but we're all in here giving advice so unless you are a counsellor yourself which I know for a fact you are not then I don't understand why you're being so aggressive towards OP and now me. He came here trying to be cheered up about a girl and I am in the process of cheering him up. I could take your d-bag approach and have a fit about the word he used while going on some rant because I have a strong opinion about but I'm not because I know after I get rejected or "friendzoned" that's not the garbage I'd like to here, especially after specifically stating that I need cheering up. You're attacking the guy which is pretty sad, he's already down.

@halfway people generally don't seek advice from inexperienced counselors

@Yohsei: Sir, I'm going to have to ask you to sit back down. Please take a seat and an agent will be with you shortly, there's not cutting in this establishment everyone must wait their turn.

[quote=halfway]Hi! Allow me to introduce myself. I'm Detective Halfway, I investigate cases where people may have gotten friend zoned. If you'd be so kind to answer a few of my questions then maybe I could put your mind at ease by determining if you were indeed friend zoned and possibly "cheer you up" in the process.
1. How long have you known the girl?
2. When did she get out of her last relationship?
3. Has she dated one of your friends in the past year?
4. When is her birthday?
5. How long have you been friends with the girl?
6. How did you ask her out? (do not say over a text)
[b]Notice[/b]
[i]If you cannot answer questions 1-6 completely and honestly then you made your move too quickly and should put more effort into knowing a girl before dating them.[/i][/quote]

no are you kidding me all of these questions are irrelevant when you want to ask someone out on a date except maybe number 2 and 6

Hi! Allow me to introduce myself. I'm Detective Halfway, I investigate cases where people may have gotten friend zoned. If you'd be so kind to answer a few of my questions then maybe I could put your mind at ease by determining if you were indeed friend zoned and possibly "cheer you up" in the process.
1. How long have you known the girl?
2. When did she get out of her last relationship?
3. Has she dated one of your friends in the past year?
4. When is her birthday?
5. How long have you been friends with the girl?
6. How did you ask her out? (do not say over a text)
[b]Notice[/b]
[i]If you cannot answer questions 1-6 completely and honestly then you made your move too quickly and should put more effort into knowing a girl before dating them.[/i]

At least you tried asking her out. Many guys tend to want the girl to come to them, instead of making the first move, because they are scared they are going to get friend zoned.

@keey no you didn't get friendzoned lmao you got rejected;; when she said " hey man i appreciate you taking up the courage and all but i just want to be remain friends you feel me? kay cool" that's just the nice girl way of letting someone down
she's not sexually or emotionally attracted to you, she thinks you two together have absolutely no chemistry, you were rejected, like thats basically it lol
getting "friendzoned" is the same as being rejected but aside from you what really pisses me off though is how the majority of guys who complain about the friendzone are in reality a bunch of assholes (again not saying you're an asshole) hiding behind the "nice guy" disguise and throw their arms up and get mad at girls who reject them as if theyre a victim of some sort of injustice
no one is entitled to the affection of another, no one should expect or demand that a person find them attractive just because they were "nice" and then get upset when that doesnt happen
i get that unrequited love can be disheartening (believe me i understand what that feels like) but getting mad at the person youve feelings for because they dont feel the same way about you is just uh kind of crazy and irrational and assholeish? the word friendzone should not exist that's all im saying

there is no such thing as the friendzone stop being a baby

[quote=Keey]what do you mean? we were friends for a while, i asked her out, she wanted to stay friends, hence friendznoe >.<[/quote]

...the rest of us just call that 'being friends". I wasn't aware it was such a terrible fate.

It happens to the best of us..

[quote=Yohsei]lol friendzone is such a stupid term don't ever use that again

i recommend watching dear john and listening to the script and watching proposal rejection videos online[/quote]

what do you mean? we were friends for a while, i asked her out, she wanted to stay friends, hence friendznoe >.<

lol friendzone is such a stupid term don't ever use that again

i recommend watching dear john and listening to the script and watching proposal rejection videos online

Jennifer Lawrence pics.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9aofoBrFNdg