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So I am 18 years old and today I saw a 14-year old girl in the park. She is the most gorgeous person I ever saw. I wanted to go talk to her but my friend told me that it would be wrong. I don't want to take advantage of her, I just want to get to know her better.
Here is my question - Would it be wrong for an 18 year old to be with a 14 year old?

May 19, 2012

24 Comments • Newest first

greatgodkt

My uncle is 32 I think and his wife is 24. Btw he not rich person.

Reply May 24, 2012 - edited
onigiri123

Friends sure. Just don't try anything until she's older. (Regardless of today's views towards sex).

Reply May 23, 2012 - edited
darkness846

[quote=GmbH]is it wrong for an 18 year old to befriend a 14 year old? no
is it wrong for an 18 year old to go balls deep in a 14 year old? yes[/quote]

Pretty much this

Reply May 23, 2012 - edited
joshmaster1234

again. how do you know shes 14

Reply May 23, 2012 - edited
stuuv12345

Well right now it seems wrong but think of it if she was 20 and u were 24, that wouldn't be wrong would it?

Reply May 23, 2012 - edited
shaheem

[quote=DrKiki]@shaheem: Oh, gotcha. And since the police are dumb, they'd believe her [/quote]

Man must feel good to be young >_>

Reply May 23, 2012 - edited
SuberKieran

She's 14 and that would be grade 8 or 9 and the though of an 18 year old who would be out of highschool going for a girl that may not even be in highschool yet is rather unsettling.

Reply May 23, 2012 - edited
ProBlades

Ehh I put the limit at 3 years with teens. 4 years is more plausible if you were say 25 and 29.

Reply May 23, 2012 - edited
bellhyper741

depends on how developed her woman features are

Reply May 23, 2012 - edited
Fiercerain

Should be fine, so long as you don't force her to do anything freaky, because then... you could end up in jail for rap..

Reply May 23, 2012 - edited
UglierBetty

@DrKiki: I'll do a list-type thing: I'm sure this kind of thing happens all the time
-They break up
-Girl gets mad
-Girl wants revenge
-Girl makes up fake stories about being "touched in places" and "harassed"
-Girl lies and says that the only reason they dated is because he intimidated her
-Society sides with the girl because she is younger and... because she is a girl
-Guy goes to jail/gets charged/etc.

Reply May 23, 2012 - edited
shaheem

I say go for it

[quote=Buddgie]Realize that basilmarket for some reason is much more accepting than real life.. I guess that's where the saying it's easier said than done comes from.

She'd be totally creeped out and maybe even offended.[/quote]

Just because he's 18 doesn't mean he's a 6 foot tall hairy face man. He's probably some short Asian kid.
She probably wouldn't even ask if they started talking. At least I've never been asked until much later on

[quote=DrKiki]How would you get in trouble for breaking up with someone? You can't.. unless they had sex.[/quote]

She can LIE

Reply May 22, 2012 - edited
pancakes030

Whale, maybe later on you guys will look at each other in the eye & realize that you guys are perfect for each other but your families hate each other but then marry each other anyway and then die a few days later

Reply May 22, 2012 - edited
BlazingChees

Wrong by society, but me personally, wouldn't care. Unless you are a perverted. But when you are 18 and the other person is 14 the age difference is huge. But when you are lets say 80 and the other person is 76, it doesn't even matter. My grandpa is 7 years older than my grandma. I suggest you wait a few years first and try finding someone your own age Atm

Reply May 20, 2012 - edited
abakre2

Not okay in society's eyes. And if she's a teenager, she's probably follow ALL of society's rules. Doesn't matter what your heart thinks, she'll probably just think of you as a kind stranger. It might be okay if she was 18 and you were 24, but since she's a young teen is a bit weird.

Reply May 20, 2012 - edited
ulti25

Possible legal repercussions aren't worth pursuing anything.

Being honest OP, there's really nothing wrong with what you feel. Some girls develop at very young age and the pubescent features make them attractive to much older men.

Reply May 19, 2012 - edited
Kinshima

There's nothing wrong with that. If you don't do anything to her either, then it's fine. Once she's 18, go for it.

Reply May 19, 2012 - edited
BBD

Once she is 18 you will be 22 then it will be okay to ask.

Reply May 19, 2012 - edited
Garnadan

Socially unacceptable. At both your current ages'

Reply May 19, 2012 - edited
SweetArts

It's not raep if you yell surprise! But seriously, that would be totally wrong to go for someone 4 years younger than you, since you're 18 and she's 14.

Reply May 19, 2012 - edited
DarkMike162

its not that wrong. I mean look at all those people out there. ive seen people 10 yrs apart have a relationship. so go fer it

Reply May 19, 2012 - edited
UglierBetty

How is that even...?

You might get some judgmental looks from parents, but that's about it. Just don't do anything intimate, because she can easily lie and say it was all your fault if you break up and she wants to get you in trouble.

People date with age differences all the time.

Reply May 19, 2012 - edited
skylinebossz

How do you know she is 14?

Reply May 19, 2012 - edited
lipperman123

it is frowned upon by society, but i think u should do what ur heart tells u

Reply May 19, 2012 - edited